How does Huashan version of Purple Tongzhi Sword [10 19] correct its own personality weakness? 2020- 1 1- 19

Liu Yilong's letter from home was written into history by Sima Guang, and Zeng Guofan copied it in his notes. This letter reflects Liu Yilong's achievements, and also lets us know why he can create "the rule of Yuanjia" and create the heyday of Liu and Song Dynasties. Let's study several issues mentioned in the letter:

[If! Support list] First,? [endif] Talking about Liu's character: "You are anxious, your will is stagnant, and your desires will be carried out." This is a typical character, which is stubbornness. As long as he wants to do something, he has to do it, and he can't persuade him. The more you say it, the more he refuses to accept it. You said it would hurt and cause trouble, and he almost understood, but he had to try to see how much he could lose and how much he could cause trouble.

This character is often matched with the other side, that is, "intention does not exist, it changes from things." What is a whim? I don't have that idea. I suddenly saw something and was inspired, so I had an idea. Or he insists on doing something, and no one can stop him. Suddenly he saw something that touched him and he gave up. It's amazing that a small touch can make him change a lot of ideas.

With such a person, you can't dissuade him from what he wants to do, because the more you persuade him, the more determined he will be. He will "stick to his will and his wish will come true". If you block him, you will arouse his desire to stretch his will. You can only say something else "casually", and it must not be personal, but related to his business, so he "changed his mind" and changed himself. He changed it himself, and he can accept it; You want to change him, he will never accept it.

[If! Support list] Second,? [endif] How to correct your character?

"Wei Qing met a scholar-bureaucrat with courtesy and treated the villain well; Simon, content, and beauty; Guan Yu and Zhang Fei are both biased and harmful. To do your own thing well, you must learn from it! "

Wei Qing was polite to the scholar-officials and kind to the villains. This point has been said in "Purple Tongzhi Sword" before. There is nothing wrong with superiors and subordinates. The most important thing is to "forget me" and forget the status and power of yourself and the other party. Don't grovel just because the other person is taller than you; More importantly, don't be overbearing just because the other person is lower than yourself.

Guan Yu and Zhang Fei are the opposite. Guan Yu is polite and approachable to the lower classes, but he despises civil servants and dignitaries. Chen Shou said Guan Yu: "Being just proud, flying fiercely without kindness, defeating with short, and being vulgar in logic." Lv Meng said Guan Yu: "Lv Meng:" Sex is quite conceited and overbearing. "Guan Yu's defeat means that he has a bad relationship with Dongwu Sun Quan and his subordinates.

Where is Zhang Fei? The death of Zhang Fei is a familiar story. Zhang Fei was killed by Fan Qiang and Zhang Da of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs because he was inhuman because of violence. This is my own way to die. Zhang Fei and Guan Yu are different. Guan Yu is a military commander, but he is famous for reading Spring and Autumn Annals at night. He is a military commander who studies, so he will look down on the reader and show that I am more educated than you. Zhang Fei is a lout. He respects intellectuals, but despises military commanders, because he thinks military commanders are inferior to himself.

Be polite to superiors and be friendly to subordinates. Is what we have to learn. There is also a root behind it, that is, don't divide people into "I respect" and "I despise". This is a big problem that many people have. They are always comparing themselves with others, taking themselves as a ruler, measuring wherever they go and who they meet. Because of comparison, we take ourselves as the standard, so we divide it into two layers and treat it differently. This is the problem.

Everyone has his own personality weakness, which is the risk exposure of life. How to block this exposure is the story of "Simon, Content, Correcting Beauty". Simon was the Ximen Bao of Wei in the early Warring States Period. The content is Dong Anyu, also known as Dong An, who was a retainer and a doctor of Zhao in the Spring and Autumn Period. "Everything is done wrong" records: "Ximen Bao was impatient, so Pei Wei eased himself; Dongan's heart is slow, so the string is urgent. " Ximen Bao knows that his personality is just urgent, so he always wears a soft leather rope to remind himself to be gentle; Dong An knew that he was too soft, so he took a bowstring with him to remind himself to be in a hurry. Both of them use symbols to remind themselves to correct their personality weaknesses.

Simon, content, and beauty; Guan Yu and Zhang Fei are both biased and harmful. Both Ximen Bao and Dong 'an are good at correcting their own personality weaknesses, which has become an eternal beauty talk. Guan Yu and Zhang Fei went their own way and eventually died.

[If! Support list] Third,? [endif] Be careful not to add anger to others.

As a leader, don't treat others with emotional standards. Instead of taking emotion, love and hate as the standard, what is the standard? Take right and wrong, good and evil as the standard. This is extremely difficult! Because behind all decisions and actions, there is emotional participation. Hume's Theory of Human Nature even thinks that the underlying logic of the standard of good and evil is emotion, which is anger. He said that all good is to make people happy, such as charity, giving is to make others happy, which is good; Stealing and robbing is to make others suffer, which is evil.

Pleasing others and yourself is the boundary of self-cultivation.

[If! Support list] Fourth,? [endif] If you can choose a good one and follow it, beauty belongs to you; Don't cling to self-determination to show your arbitrariness!

As a leader, it is not a good habit to show your wisdom in front of subordinates. Try to give the credit for the correct decision to your subordinates, and don't worry that everyone will not give you a reputation. If you owe everything to yourself, no one dares to refute it, but it's boring for everyone to do so.

[If! Support list] Fifth,? [endif] Famous articles should be used with caution, not in name only. When you are close to the Lord, it is especially suitable to make judgments. Although I'm not so grateful to Zuoyou, I don't feel wrong when I hear about it.

? This is the consistent thought of Confucius. You can be willful when giving money, but you must never give people the reputation and titles of the country at will. Pay special attention to the people around you and don't be partial, because you lead many people, but few people can get close to you physically. If you are partial to the people around you, there is no hope for people far away, and you can't effectively lead everyone.