After graduating from 985 prestigious schools, the monthly salary dropped from 4,500 to 3,500 after working for four years. Why?

Someone once asked himself such a question: "What kind of feeling would you feel if the once excellent people around you became like ordinary people now?" When I heard this question, my first reaction was: "There shouldn't be such a thing. Excellent people should always be excellent, and there is no family decline, because they have high demands on themselves. In the eyes of others, he is an excellent person and will also have higher requirements for himself. "

It should be a very small probability that people who used to be excellent will become poor.

But unfortunately, this low probability thing happened to me. I thought of receiving a phone call from my good friend some time ago. Although I haven't contacted for a long time, I can still remember. We are very good friends in college, and our grades are average, but he is really a master in his class. A feeling for himself is that he tried his best to be admitted to the 985 university, but for him, being admitted to the 985 university can be said to be a game, which seems very easy.

Taking care of the class and the school, as well as the annual national scholarship, are typical "children of other people's families". No matter their professional knowledge and ability, or their popularity in the school, they are among the best, and the word excellent is a bit underestimated.

After graduation, I chose to go to Beijing to work hard. With my own ability, I successfully entered a public institution, doing my favorite media propaganda work, and successfully won a Beijing hukou two years before my work. I thought I could finally gain a foothold in a city like Beijing, but the reality is so cruel. When life is not smooth, you won't be given an extra second to prepare.

Call me friend Xiao Wu for the time being. In the fourth year of work, seeing that there was no hope of promotion and salary increase, Xiao Wu began to lose confidence in his work. Many times, he is considering and hesitating whether to resign. During this period, he called me 10 many times.

Because the unit as a whole controls costs and wages, Xiao Wu's own job evaluation is hopeless. From junior to intermediate titles, his salary will increase by 1.500 yuan, from the initial monthly salary of 4,500 yuan to 6,000 yuan. For Xiao Wu, who has worked for four years, this score is actually very important for his career, because he is not a fresh graduate who just joined the work. For him who has worked for three or four years, it is a major.

What is even more unexpected is that his welfare has been declining during his two years in the company because the company was busy with transformation and upgrading, so the company cancelled the original benefits such as meal subsidy, bus fare subsidy and rental subsidy, and the sum of seven, seven, eight and eight is a *** 1000 yuan. As a result, the salary I could get in the end suddenly dropped to 3500.

After four years of hard work, my salary has been reduced from 4500 yuan to 3500 yuan. Although he has a halo of 985 on his head, he is not so good now, at least he will think that 985 graduates are absolutely not allowed to hold only 3500 yuan.

Xiao Wu came to have a drink with some friends, and while speaking ill of the company, he poured out his incompetence. "I thought that after working for a few years and doing my favorite work, there would be any development and achievements, but now I just found out that I will only bury myself in writing documents and speeches to the leaders. It seems that I can do everything, but I can't do anything in chores. "

In the face of falling wages and life pressure, Xiao Wu also tried several sideline businesses to increase his income, such as Xiaohongshu, WeChat official account, and writing realization. But when he saw that he could not see the benefits of a few dollars for several months, he gave up.

While drinking, Xiao Wu said: "Now brush your circle of friends and see who will be worse than yourself after graduating from your school?" After four years of hard work, I'll forget it if I don't get a raise. On the contrary, you will give me a pay cut. I will be angry when I think about it. "

In my own eyes, Xiao Wu has always been synonymous with Excellence in my heart. If it weren't for this phone call, I would have thought that he had achieved a lot and despises us working-class people.

Then, back to the above question, why are all the excellent people who used to be excellent now? Why can't excellent people always be excellent? How high is the cost and price of maintaining Excellence?

I remember Luo Zhenyu had another sentence in his New Year's speech on 20 19-2020, which probably meant something like this: "After the easy money is gone, it will be more difficult to make money." What does this sentence mean? In fact, to put it simply, the threshold for making money has increased, everyone's ability and skill level have improved, the professionalism of those who compete with you has become stronger and stronger, and natural money has become more and more difficult to earn.

The technology of competitors is specialized, and the threshold of Excellence is getting higher and higher.

In the past, we thought that as long as we were admitted to schools like Tsinghua, Peking University and 985, we would be excellent representatives, and we basically didn't have to worry about our future life. But the fact is that even such students will still feel inferior when facing social employment, feel that their ability is not as good as others, feel that their value has not been realized, and even feel confused.

In a parent-child conversation in Beijing, one of them showed off his muscles and said, "Look at my 4-year-old child. Now he has mastered 1500 English words. What do you think? " Another parent replied: "Well, mastering 1500 words at the age of 4 may be enough in the United States, but it may not be enough in Haidian District."

Children in many of our families have been placed in various competitive environments since birth, and no one has fallen behind in cram schools such as Chinese, mathematics, art, music, sports, painting and harmonica. Parents, while taking their children between major cram schools, lamented: "Hey, it's really not easy for children now, and they have to learn so much at such a young age."

At this time, I had an idea in my heart: if I have a child of my own in the future, I will definitely not give him such a big burden and let him grow up happily. We didn't have cram schools at that time, but we could still get into a good university. In fact, time at school is enough.

But a friend on the other side said: at that time, most people's family conditions were not very good, and most people could not afford to go to cram schools. Study hard and be diligent, maybe you can change your destiny, but look at the children now. Family conditions are not bad. In order to keep our children from losing at the starting line, and to invest more resources in cultivating children to become talents, everyone is rushing forward.

The previous impressive educational remarks about Beijing Haidian mother and Shunyi mother have been discussed by everyone.

Mothers in Haidian District let their children go to school to think, and mothers in Shunyi District let their children attend international and European and American summer camps to learn horse riding and golf. Compared with the mothers in Haidian District, Shunyi's mothers have higher training goals and longer-term vision for their children.

My friend even laughed at himself: "If you compare with them, can you still compare with them?"

Career development lies in choosing the right industry and consolidating yourself.

I have always had an idea that if a person wants to achieve his expected growth, he can't do without his chosen industry and his own efforts, and he needs to constantly consolidate himself.

For personal growth, it is very important to choose a thriving one. Bonus of Reform and Opening-up A group of early entrepreneurs born in the 1980s have now enjoyed the dividend of the times and become giants and unicorns in various industries. Sometimes it's not how strong these people are, but often they just get the dividend of the times.

Wang Jianlin, chairman of Wanda, once said: "Nothing is bolder than Tsinghua Peking University." But obviously, in today's social and market environment, this sentence is actually not correct. In Wang Jianlin's era, brute force may be right to move forward, but now it is the norm to start a business after a narrow escape. There is nothing to learn from this sentence.

A solid life means that in the same long time, the more you do, the more you learn, the richer your experience, and you can consolidate your life and achieve one small goal after another on your own life path.

There seems to be a little progress every day. With the accumulation and witness of time, it will change from quantitative change to qualitative change, which is why it is also 8 hours a day. Why do some people rise all the way, while others always stand still?

Because of the epidemic, many office workers' holidays have been extended indefinitely and they don't know when they can go to work. Many people had a full holiday. Even if there is no trouble at work, they will spend time enriching themselves, reading, studying and recharging themselves. In fact, it is these dribs and drabs of self-study time that separate people. People are studying hard, trying to improve their ability and work efficiency, and improving their skills, while you are playing games and just enjoying your life.

Take the work of my good friend Xiao Wu as an example. In fact, his job is relatively easy. It's basically a nine-to-five job. It is rare to work overtime at ordinary times. You can go to work in the morning and rest for nearly an hour and a half at noon. Many people went down half an hour before eating in the canteen. According to Xiao Wu's feeling, in such a unit, there is no need to go all out and no need for people to go all out. Many people are muddling along and earning money. In fact, I go to work and get off work every day just to support myself and my family. Just wait until you get paid on time every month. Why bother? Despair here may also be regarded as alien.

Ma Yun once said: Because I believe and see, I have today's Alibaba. A very inspirational story, a courier brother realized buying a house and a car in Hangzhou by his own efforts. So I want to tell you that no matter what position you are in, as long as you keep a desire to make progress, even if you walk slowly on the road to achieving your goals, one day you will walk faster than most people, because on the road to success.

The biggest problem in life: know yourself and see yourself clearly.

I have seen the word "platform capability" widely discussed before. This phenomenon is probably that many times we always think that after an industry or a profession develops to a certain extent, there will be enough hard power to support our decision to quit. Let me give you a very simple example: a person who earns 20,000 yuan a month in Shanghai thinks it should be easy to go back to his hometown after quitting his job and find a related job with a monthly income of over 10,000 yuan.

However, the reality tells us that such a situation is rare, so the word "platform capability" gradually appears in everyone's field of vision. This salesperson with a monthly income of 20,000 in Shanghai may have stable customer resources, contacts and contacts in Shanghai, but once he leaves the city, it is obvious that these resources cannot be taken away.

Many times, what we call hard power is actually not "the meat that grows on us". In most cases, it is given by the platform, which is your industry field, position, interpersonal circle, urban environment and so on. Therefore, at this time, a very clear understanding and understanding of your position will not only help you make a correct career plan, but also be less likely to be deceived by the "ability trap" mentioned above.

The real improvement of a person's professional ability is that you leave a city and a place will not be affected. Just like your diploma at school, with a high degree certificate, your employment and job search threshold will be higher than others. This is that you can really take away your "hard power". Don't overestimate yourself, especially when you think you haven't achieved much. Think clearly, nothing can continue to be excellent. If not, please continue to be humble and recognize yourself.

It's not easy to stay excellent. The refinement of social division of labor leads to the improvement of the threshold of every work link, and the cost of pursuing Excellence is getting higher and higher.

So, how can we keep ourselves excellent? Give you some advice.

First, the choice of industry, find the right opportunity, the industry that can develop in the long run can have the opportunity to show itself.

Many times, the choice is greater than the effort. Choosing a good industry can get twice the result with half the effort. Choosing a good industry largely determines your future development. A good cornerstone can help you see the world on the shoulders of giants. In our parents' generation, banking was a famous industry, but now it seems that people want to quit every second. It is the key to seize the dividend given to the industry by the times and give full play to its own advantages.

Second, emerging industries are favored, but don't blindly follow up.

In recent years, for emerging industries such as 5G, big data and artificial intelligence. With the news of recruiting talents with high salaries, the government and the country have begun to show kindness to these industries and have introduced relevant welfare policies, and emerging industries are favored. In the past two years, the media has also been very popular. We can see all kinds of successful examples, such as how much money we earned by writing and shooting videos, realizing financial freedom and stepping on the peak of our lives, so many people plunged into new media to do content. The final result is talent vacancy, employee turnover and company loss.

Now this era is not a world where you can fight alone with courage.

Sometimes, you think this is a good opportunity, so you might as well come down and have a look. It's not too late to think about it before making a decision. There is no shortage of pig teammates and blind people in this era.

Third, knowing yourself is the first step to start anything.

I remember another passage in Luo Zhenyu's New Year speech. If you can answer these questions, there will be no problem in realizing wealth and freedom. First, know who you are. Second, what do you do? Third, who do you work for? Fourth, do you understand why others need you to do this? Fifth, do you understand that after all this, society has become better?

In fact, behind the five questions is to let everyone understand a truth: it is very important to know your own position and real hard power value. Know yourself clearly, and everything else will become relatively simple.

Fourth, if genius is not you, diligence and sureness are the sharp weapon to walk the society.

Don't always think you have a gift. There is a saying, don't use your hobbies to challenge others' bowl eating skills. Whether in the workplace or in society, keep learning and humility. Genius only depends on 1% talent. Diligent and practical efforts, step by step, are the most effective shortcuts to achieve goals and ideals.

Fifth, learn self-discipline and overcome the weakness of human nature.

Most of us often give up the original plan in order to enjoy something temporarily, which is also the reason why the plan can't keep up with the change. We should learn to delay enjoyment, consider the long-term development of things, get used to delaying satisfaction and improve our execution. You can't interrupt your future planning and development because of the short enjoyment in front of you.

For a very simple example, you originally planned to write an article every day, but today you feel tired and don't want to write. You want to brush the video to relax yourself. At this time, you need to restrain this desire. Once a habit is formed, it is difficult to persist in doing one thing, overcome people's desires, and learn to experience delayed satisfaction.

Finally, I'll give you a word: if you don't accumulate a trickle, you won't be able to make a river or a sea, and you won't even be able to walk on Wan Li Road.