Nobody likes it, but your pattern is too small.

What the eyes see is actually what the heart sees.

Let's look at a picture first.

As the saying goes, people mountain = fairy, people valley = vulgar.

People who are not tall enough are at the bottom. How can you see that there are valleys around you, and all the tangled things are trivial;

High-level people, standing on the top of the mountain, have a broader vision and are surrounded by good scenery.

The people and things that a person dislikes less are often due to his insufficient pattern.

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The writer Han Songluo once told a story.

Han Songluo has a friend who has no real job and lives on two small properties left by his parents.

The value of the house is not high, so the rent is not high, and life is lonely.

But he has a very exquisite craft-clay sculpture.

Simple soil will be transformed into exquisite handicrafts by his hands, which is amazing.

Everyone loves it when they see it. They like it so much that they want to go home as exhibits.

So, Han Songluo gave this friend an idea, renting a pottery kiln, teaching apprentices, mass production, media hype and website sales. ...

After an operation, I believe my friends will definitely make money, greatly improve their living conditions, and may even embark on the road to success.

But after listening to Han Songluo's advice, my friend was not overjoyed, but startled.

Yes, he could have done it, but he didn't want to.

Because in his bones, simplicity is engraved, and what he pursues is only a simple and simple life. Even if outsiders think he is down and out, he enjoys himself and has no inferiority complex.

In Han Songluo's view, people should live a decent and glamorous life, so he gave advice to his friends, hoping that he could improve some living conditions.

There is no right or wrong between two completely different outlooks on life, but personal pursuit is different.

At first, Han Songluo was still complaining about his friend's disappointment, but a few years later, he understood his friend.

Han Songluo said: "He can also live uncontroversial, introverted and low. This is his right. "

Everyone has a different lifestyle.

The most taboo of being a man is to measure other people's lives with your own ruler.

People have a pattern and naturally know how to respect others' three views.

As Kant once said:

"I respect any independent soul. Although I don't know some of them, I can try my best to understand them. "

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Philosopher Leibniz said: "There are no two identical leaves in the world."

Everyone has different values, and when looking at problems, they are used to standing in their own perspective and position.

In this way, different ideas will collide, and the bigger the pattern, the more people can respect differences.

Jefferson and Washington were good friends. In the struggle against Britain, they fought side by side and fought bloody battles with the enemy.

After the war, Jefferson did not worship Washington because of his great achievements, nor did he give up his principles because of the deep friendship between friends.

Jefferson was the leader of Congress during his presidency.

The two often quarrel and break up because of political differences. However, after the calm, they will apologize to each other and reiterate their position again.

In a sense, at this time, they are political enemies.

However, before leaving office, Washington nominated Jefferson as the presidential candidate, praised Jefferson's character and talent, and called him a "trustworthy gentleman".

The Analects of Confucius said: "A gentleman is harmonious but different."

The bigger the pattern, the more people can accept different views and respect others' differences.

Allow yourself to be different from others and make yourself unique;

Allowing others to be different from you will make you know everything.

Taiwan Province writer Bai Xianyong and host Chen Wenxi are good friends.

Bai Xianyong once caused a sensation in the three places across the Taiwan Strait with The Peony Pavilion, but Chen Wenxi was not interested in it.

After Bai Xianyong knew it, he was not unhappy, but rarely mentioned the performance of Peony Pavilion in front of Chen Wenxi, let alone asked her to comment.

But this does not prevent the two from continuing to be friends.

Chen Wenxi later said, "I am very grateful for this. He can innovate, I can be stubborn, and no one will convince anyone. "

Everyone grows up in different environments, receives different education and experiences, and forms a unique self.

You are unique, and so are others. Don't think you can change anyone.

If you can't understand, you must learn to respect.

There is a good saying: "People who really have a big picture will not have so many things in their eyes, but more peace in their hearts."

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Read a story.

There was a master who dyed cloth and accepted two apprentices at the same time. He made a strange rule for his disciples: at the end of each month, his disciples should say two words to him.

At the end of the first month, the master asked two disciples, "What do you want to say most?"

Disciple A said, "The rice smells delicious." Disciple B said, "It tastes terrible."

At the end of the second month, disciple A said, "I feel safe." Disciple B said, "The bed is hard."

At the end of the third month, disciple A said, "Life is light." Disciple B said, "There are many things."

In the fourth month, the master asked the same question again, and disciple A replied, "I want to learn." Disciple B said, "I'm going."

So, the master sent disciple B, officially accepted disciple A as a disciple, and taught him real skills.

The master said that disciple B didn't like too many things and knew nothing.

The smaller a person's pattern, the more things he doesn't like.

People who really have a big picture are happy with everything.

Dr Tao Yong told a story that moved me particularly.

Tao Yong once helped a 13-year-old girl with cataract, and the hospital provided her with an intraocular lens for free.

Inadvertently, Tao Yong ran into the girl's father stealing money in the hospital.

Although he was surprised, he especially understood the girl's father's behavior. In order to treat the girl, the family sold the land and house, and his father even quit his job.

If you really don't despair, who wants to steal the chicken and touch the dog?

Another time, the girl's father met an old lady who fell down the stairs. The girl's father went to the emergency room behind the old lady's back without saying anything.

After these two things, Tao Yong understood:

A man with a big pattern is liked by everyone, because he can always put himself in his shoes to understand difficulties and difficulties.

People who have really seen heaven and earth will respect every kind of life.

An old saying is right: "What you see with your eyes is actually what you see with your heart."

Others are like a mirror of themselves. You are what you look like.

When you don't like others, don't blame others, find reasons from yourself and improve your own pattern.

To achieve great things, you must have the ability to live in the world and the heart to tolerate others.

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