At the age of 23, how did I spend my confusion?

I was born in 1995 and graduated from junior college. I went out of the society and found more than 20 jobs.

So far, I have communicated with HR online for 5000 times.

I have no background and education. In the past year, the cost of finding a job was my rent plus living expenses for two months in Shenzhen.

During my internship, I spent half a year in eight cities including Ezhou, Hangzhou, Guangzhou, Shanghai, Suzhou, Nanjing, Wuhan and Shenzhen, and lived a wandering life.

I'm going to practice in my junior year, because I missed the school recruit and didn't have many good choices. Before that, I studied choreography, took an art test, worked as a teacher and studied media. Fate is like playing a joke on me.

Perhaps it is confusion, that is, even tossing and turning, I can't find the direction.

Whatever your life is like, give yourself a compliment.

Fortunately, fate is rewarding. This year, I found my goal, started my business while working, and invited my friends to celebrate my 23rd birthday half a month ago.

Before I was 23, I never dared to tell my friends about my birthday, for fear of trouble, my pocket was cleaner than my face.

Although I don't have much money now, some things just need to be accumulated bit by bit.

Deposits need to be accumulated, abilities need to be accumulated, friendships need to be accumulated, feelings need to be accumulated, and trust needs to be accumulated more.

In today's article, Beimo uses his own story, hoping to help you who are confused. Thank you for your compliment:

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It is always said that by looking at other people's successful experiences, we can avoid detours.

Indeed, there are fewer detours, but I am still confused, still at a loss, still don't know what I want.

There is a saying that poisoned chicken soup is inappropriate, but I still want to say it. I hope you forget this sentence: "I know everything, but I can't do it."

If you have never worked hard on one thing, no matter how sincere you speak and how much you know, you will not get along well.

I have no talent, but I have never forgotten one thing, and that is persistence. If you will listen, I will tell you something.

When I was unemployed this year, I went to a cross-border e-commerce company and studied e-commerce operations from scratch. About eight people went in the same period, but in the end only 1-2 people were left, with a probation period of 7 days and no salary. Take our coach to score according to our performance, and finally decide whether we stay or not.

Three days before the training, someone voluntarily quit the training, and at this time there were five people left.

Those days coincided with the Dragon Boat Festival. If you don't pass the exam, it means wasting seven days, and then you have to continue looking for a job. Although someone quit halfway, I persisted.

Unfortunately, in the process of training, my learning speed is very slow. I just can't learn backstage operation for several days. Sometimes I can finish my homework at one or two in the morning, but because the number of people who can pass the exam is limited, I am still eliminated.

Although I was in a bad mood, the fact is that I was eliminated because I didn't do well enough and learned too slowly.

Later, I specifically asked the coach, "What is my question?" ? Actually, I don't want to stay. I just don't want to make the same mistake again next time.

The coach told me, "You have a good attitude, but you are a little slow to learn, and the company only has two recruitment indicators, so …".

After that failure, I began to reflect on myself. After all, I worked for a while. If I still do this, I won't be much better in the future.

So from that time on, I made up my mind to concentrate on doing one thing and make it to the extreme.

02

After being fired, I began to list all the jobs I had done before in my notebook.

I'm doing this to make a deep comeback and see what I'm suitable for. What have you achieved? What things have not been done well? What have you gained from these work experiences?

Finally, I screened out two things from my past professional experience: sales and writing.

If I choose to sell, maybe I will make a lot of money. Although it will be bitter in the early stage, after accumulating a lot of customers, the salary should not be low.

Choosing writing is something I like. Although there are not many suitable job opportunities, I can still choose a similar position, and it will allow me to stick to it for a longer time. After all, I wrote it for nearly a year before.

So after opening the recruitment software, I began to submit my resume crazily. If you can't find a related job, search with different keywords.

For example, I want to find a job as an editor. If one key is not enough, I will use different keywords to find it until I find a matching position.

Because of looking for a job, I also summarized some search methods. During this period, I found many positions by this method, and the chances of inviting interviews increased.

You can disassemble the job, search for related jobs with professional skills, or continue to look at the recruitment needs. As long as it is linked to your skills, you can try to send a resume. I have used this method before, hoping to help you.

Later, in the process of looking for an editing job, I spent almost all my money and had to do sales.

I thought I could achieve something by starting over in a new field, but in reality, I have face, regardless of age.

03

Until July, my job was still uncertain. There was a short video company that needed a copy, but it was rejected because of lack of confidence.

On the day I turned down the copywriting position in the short video company, I started my resume in Haitou again. Finally, I saw a company recruiting business assistants. I read some company profiles and decided to go.

Thinking of this job, I would have the opportunity to attend business exhibitions and exercise my communication skills, so I submitted my resume and went to that company for an interview that day.

Because it was a strange visit, I didn't inform my boss. When I walked into the office, the boss looked at me with a puzzled face and thought I was a salesman.

After he knew my purpose, he took the initiative to receive me. After two hours of interview, I successfully joined the company and joined the company a week later.

To tell the truth, I know very well that the real purpose of finding this job is to pay the rent, stay and accumulate funds for the future.

But this thing is definitely not a good thing. I hope what you do is out of love, not because of life. I did something wrong in the past, but I hope you don't learn from me.

Because at that time, it was the end of the road to find a job, and it belonged to the kind that you couldn't afford the rent without working again.

I admit that I am not a stable person with average ability, but when I really work, my bosses will never fire me because I am not doing well. Every time I leave, I leave voluntarily.

The reason is that when I realized that I began to dawdle, I really felt that going to work was like going to the grave, so I chose to leave.

We still need to review it here. There are external reasons, but the real problem is me.

Although I have been an editor before, it is still difficult to learn, and the number of matching positions is limited, so I wasted half a year looking for a job.

Looking back on the past time now, it's actually quite sad. I knew I couldn't do it for long, but I did it anyway. As a result, I earned living expenses, but my time was wasted.

So, I hope you really want to do something, or you will waste your time.

04

Some people are destined to stay, and I am one of them.

Yes, I was forced to leave this time, which was proposed by my boss. He didn't think I was suitable for this business job, so I left the cross-border logistics company after the talk.

I'm really sorry that I didn't set a good example for you. I hope you don't learn from me here.

Shortly after leaving my job, I fell into confusion again. At that time, I was devastated and depressed, so I couldn't get out.

I remember one day in August, a phone call from my mother completely changed me. That day, my mother asked me how my work was recently. Do I have living expenses? Do I need money?

At that time, I choked back tears and said that my job was good and my salary was good, and my boss wanted to give me full-time in advance. Actually, I have been unemployed for some time.

On the other end of the phone, I saw my parents getting old, especially my father's hair began to turn gray.

For a moment, I suddenly felt very useless. After working for a while, I still got nothing. I feel embarrassed to go back for the New Year.

After the phone hung up, I couldn't hold back my tears anymore. I stayed up until three o'clock in the morning that day and couldn't sleep.

In the two years of wandering outside, I seem to have never been so embarrassed as at this moment. No money, no job, life is a mess.

Decadence belongs to decadence, but I can't escape the problems I should face. Even if I escape this time, I will meet them next time.

Excluding all the things I did, including my failures, I finally chose to edit again and decided not to make other choices.

I remember very clearly that since August 13, I will publish the content on the media platform for daily update, and I will continue to publish the editor's post and find an editor's job after writing.

Many things happen. On September 22nd, I joined a new company, because my boss read my work before and opened a new media operation department, which put me in charge of the company's traffic operation and article writing. At this point, I ended my unemployment.

I haven't told you about this experience before. Today I want to write it down and tell you that no matter what difficulties you are experiencing now, don't give up on yourself.

Because as long as you don't give up yourself, no one will give up on you.

That's what I am, a little writer who has no talent and can do nothing but silly persistence.

Today, I dare not plan what will happen in a month, just want to do what I have not done well at present.

Now, life is full, but because of work, time is not as much as before.

However, I will take one day out every week to write my tweets carefully, and I will live up to my readers and friends who have always supported me. I think that's why I have been able to persist.

I am 23 years old. I once "died" at the age of 22, but I am still alive today.

If you see this, I sincerely wish you can forge ahead in the future, live yourself as a light and light up the road in the future.

Finally, Beimo wants to send you a word:

There may not be a rainbow after the rain, but it must be sunny.

I hope my answer can help you, even a little.

I wish you happiness and thank you for your praise!

I am Beimo, an indomitable, uncompromising and unpractical teenager, willing to share knowledge and happiness with you.