What's the difference between an hourly worker and a nanny?

Mo Huanjing, a 34-year-old nanny, is a suspect in an arson case that just happened in Hangzhou, a native of Chang 'an Town, Dongguan, Guangdong. On the morning of the 22nd, she set fire to the owner's 300-square-meter mansion, causing the hostess and three children to be burned to death!

What injustice? What hatred? Can a woman born in 1983 do such a thing? ! It is said to be the version of the farmer and the snake. The nanny earns 7,500 yuan a month (some people say tens of thousands). When buying a house, the employer lent her 65,438+million yuan, but she stole more than 300,000 watches from the hostess. The employer is very kind. When he found the nanny stealing, he said to her, "Come on, just ask if you are short of money." But I decided to let her leave in two days.

The hostess wants to wait for her husband to come back from a business trip for two days before letting the nanny go. The nanny caught fire the next morning.

What is a "snake and scorpion heart"? As far as we know, snakes and scorpions don't hurt people easily unless someone intentionally offends them. No matter what grievances or enmities, arson poses a threat to public houses (high-rise buildings); Killing people, four living people were deprived of their lives. This is Mo Huanjing's behavior-committing crimes, people, hair and fingers!

This is an extreme event, which is not universal, but reveals the evil of human nature and the common problems in society. In recent years, it is rare to hear the social news that little nannies destroy families, but the news that nannies steal, abuse children and hurt the elderly is still endless. In my impression, there will be a demon moth every other year or so.

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The occupation of "nanny" is not suitable for this land at all. If you have money, please hire a live-in nanny and consider hiring a Filipino maid! Or hire an hourly worker!

Listen to me.

As an outsider, living at home, it is difficult to keep and distinguish the boundaries. Over time, it is inevitable that all kinds of troubles will arise.

Besides, what kind of education has this generation received? When I moved from the countryside to the city at the age of eight, I immediately thought of the word "struggle" when I learned that a family in our yard actually had an old nanny. After all, these are the first two Chinese characters I learned. There is a man in our village, nicknamed "Struggle". He has a brother and a younger brother, named "Struggle" and "Victory" respectively.

Isn't it necessary to eliminate class, exploitation and oppression? Why does his family have a nanny? Don't you want to be the master and the revolution? Aren't they all liberated How can you be a nanny, exploited and oppressed? You should go out, like the invincible Qionghua Wu. ...

Later, I read "Old Things in the South of the City" and read articles reflecting the period of the Republic of China, but whenever I wrote the plot of an old housekeeper and a wet nurse, I was particularly moved by the feelings and righteousness of that era. Ma Song, the nanny of Xiaoying's family, left her children in the country and went to the city to work as a nanny for Xiaoying's younger brother, treating Xiaoying's younger brother as her own. When Xiaoying asked if Ma Song's little embolus was in the third grade, Ma Song said, "How can a countryman have such a good life like you? He has been herding cattle for an adult ... "

Ma Song worked as a wet nurse in Xiaoying's home for four years, only to learn later that one of her two children died and the other was given away by a disappointing man. Xiaoying's mother wrote a letter to a man in Ma Song, meaning to let her go home and have another child. The morning before Ma Song left, she combed Xiaoying's hair and stewed porridge. She also told Xiaoying, "I won't wake your mother, Ruth, study hard. You are a big sister. Be like a big sister. " This is the interpersonal relationship in a harmonious society. Ma Song is a good victim, and she accepted her fate.

People nowadays are taught not to accept their fate. Everyone has a restless heart. This is a good thing and a bad thing. It's fatal when it's bad.

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Because of this educational background, it is difficult for nannies to feel that they are not exploited. Even if you treat the nanny as an "outsider" and live with her family, she can't guarantee that she doesn't feel exploited and oppressed. She will think that the hostess does nothing but like such a big house. She thinks that "it is certainly unkind to have money" and feels that those who get rich first deprive her of resources. Her education is that all men are created equal. She won't feel dignified about the job of "nanny", and there must be too many conversations in her heart.

Unless this person is kind and grateful, he is willing to think that being a housekeeper and nanny is a glorious career, not a job of "serving people".

How should I know?

When I first joined the work, I lived in a dormitory. There is a female worker who works as a nanny at her distant cousin's house. She showed her cousin a big child, and the child no longer needed to be looked after in kindergarten, so her mother-in-law recruited her through relationships. That was the usual way for nannies in those days-mostly in agricultural registered permanent residence, but you can still find temporary workers or contract workers in the city. Whether they can transfer to formal jobs or marry urban residents outside agricultural registered permanent residence depends on the background of their host families and their own nature.

I was put in that dormitory after the female worker got married and moved out. When I was making the bed, I found a diary under the bed. Curiosity kills the cat, I read a few pages because I don't know whose diary it is, and all I see is "hate"! I hate my cousin, my cousin's husband, the "little dead child" I watch, and even the people in the dormitory. Why can I only be a temporary worker in agricultural registered permanent residence, working for 8 hours and only 70 yuan a month, without the share of temporary workers handing out eggs? Why?

Is this unfair? It's so unfair! ……

Then one day she anxiously went to the dormitory to look for a notebook and asked me if I had seen it. I was too young to understand, so I really gave it back to her. Did she ask me if I saw it? I said, "No," and I knew it was not a good thing, so I made sure I didn't have the habit of reading other people's things. She left the dormitory with a grain of salt and a skeptical expression on her face. If you put it aside now, it is not a good thing, and it is right to insist on not seeing it. When the children were young, my family also hired a nanny. It was introduced through acquaintances. The nanny is less than 16 years old and still a child. It's nothing to eat children's snacks with my cosmetics (I don't have any high-end cosmetics). I suspect that she is hitting the child (such as pinching her thighs and twisting her arms) and quit.

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This is not a society suitable for the occupation of "nanny". To test whether a job or a profession is universally recognized, it is enough to ask one question: Do you want your children to be nannies when they grow up? Do you agree or disagree?

To see the house. Nowadays, the "nanny room" is usually designed for large-sized units of high-grade real estate. Haven't seen many houses. Almost all nanny rooms are close to the kitchen and bathroom, which is probably to take care of the convenience of the owner's life. The area is usually relatively small, and some even have no windows, so they are called "nanny rooms". Maybe they just provide a bed for lunch break.

When I looked at the house, I thought, the master bedroom and the second bedroom are so big. What kind of psychology does the nanny have when she lives in this small room? Living under the same roof, will she be psychologically balanced over time? no way

She has no education to live in that small room. She may "hate you for realizing her ideal first, your superior life and your bad luck." She will think that everything you have should be hers.

As for hiring a nanny, I'm not at ease. There is even no basic trust in monitoring the "fire-proof and burglar-proof nanny" at home. Can the nanny do well? Under the surveillance of the camera, isn't it easy to remind people of the exploitation of the whipping capitalists whose chickens are called slave owners? The pyramids were not built by slaves, and unhappy people can't build great buildings. Nanny prevention, like thief prevention, will not have a long and harmonious employment relationship.

With the advent of an aging society, the demand for nannies and hourly workers will increase.

If you must find a nanny, you should do a more rigorous interview than enterprise recruitment and do a good job of background investigation. Mo Huanjing, who set fire in Hangzhou, was told by people who knew her background after the incident that she was a gambler and lost all her money before she became a nanny.

If you must find a nanny, it is safer to hire an hourly worker. Try not to hire live-in nannies for a long time, especially strangers introduced through intermediaries or housekeeping companies. Maybe you invited the devil instead of God.

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