What is the definition of emotional freedom?

On the stage of Qipa Shuo 1V 1, the king put forward a high-level vocabulary called: emotional freedom.

The king believes that emotional freedom means that when you grow up, you can see through other people's emotions, which has nothing to do with you. Even if you are hated, your world can run freely, and other people's emotions will not hurt your confidence.

The explanation for separating these two words is:

Emotion is the general name of a series of subjective cognitive experiences, and it is a psychological and physiological state produced by various feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

The incisive explanation of freedom is the behavior that can be carried out according to one's own will without external obstacles.

I have to admit that it is not easy to reach such a state whether we understand it alone or together.

Therefore, for us ordinary people, what is important may not be emotional freedom, but the ability to control emotions freely.

There is no real emotional freedom in this world. Only when you know when to restrain yourself and when to vent, and how to speak and do things on different occasions without crossing the line, can you have relative freedom.

This is especially true at work. If we don't grasp the "freedom" in the workplace, it will inevitably make us take more detours.

2. What is the standard of "emotional freedom" in the workplace?

Ma Dong said in an interview that when their company recruits employees, it will attach great importance to one detail, that is, whether this person has the feeling of "things first".

Solve conflicts in the face of conflicts, solve difficulties in the face of difficulties, don't bring emotions into it, and work comes before personal emotions. This is the most important thing.

When you encounter something, if you put emotions first, that is, people first, if you don't grow and change, the height of the workplace may stop here.

How to deal with emotions in life is a very personal matter, and not bringing personal emotions to work is the most basic accomplishment of a workplace person.

Kazuo inamori once said: There is no need for unnecessary emotions in the workplace. Even if there are more complaints and grievances, the most important thing at the moment is to do the work well first, and then vent your emotions and adjust your mood. This is the mentality that a mature person should have.

You should give up your emotions in the workplace, because no one has the obligation to pay for your emotions.

So today's theme is mainly to discuss how to learn to control your emotions in the workplace, release pressure reasonably, and release yourself without affecting others.

3. How to face and relieve emotional stress in the workplace?

0 1. Make yourself more "real" through deliberate practice.

Peng Lei said this when answering what kind of talents Ali needs: smart, honest, optimistic and good at introspection. We must stand up to praise as well as killing.

Whether others praise you or humiliate you, you know who you are in your heart. Whether praising you or hitting you, the external situation will not hurt you. This is the true state of honesty.

The antonym of Pi's is blx.

So how do you make yourself more honest in your work?

Teach everyone to play a little game, and call it "interview" for the time being. The game is simple. No matter what the other person says, you can only answer "Yes".

Say you are smart, answer "yes", say you don't work hard and often make mistakes, answer "yes", say you know your mistakes and don't change, always make mistakes again and again, and answer "yes".

In short, write down all the words you think can make you feel happy and angry, and ask questions through this game. Let yourself feel moved by every word. No matter what the mood is, you must answer "yes".

For example, some people say that you work hard and make you feel very happy. Answer "yes" and say that you are not only lazy at work, but also often screw things up. At this time, you will feel a little angry, because it is not the case, but you still have to answer "yes".

The point of this game is that no matter what emotions will appear in the face of this problem, we must always be in an acceptable state.

In this way, when real accidents and mistakes happen, you will not feel so scared, and it will be easy to accept this mistake and accept the fact that you are accused.

When you can maintain emotional stability through this deliberate exercise, you can quickly divert your attention, instead of focusing all your energy on emotions, and you can concentrate on how to deal with this matter.

For example, you sang with the leader at the company party and accidentally cut the leader's song. When everyone looks at you and feels extremely surprised, you can easily explain to everyone: In fact, I have long wanted to sing this song with the leader.

A simple sentence can smoothly resolve the embarrassment. Many people can't correctly identify emotions and facts, and can't completely separate people from things. It is easy for them to fall into the whirlpool of emotions and mistakenly think that others are targeting themselves.

It is normal to criticize, misunderstand, praise, even accuse and abuse at work. We must train a strong heart to meet all kinds of challenges, make ourselves more honest and have excellent psychological quality, and don't be easily influenced by emotions.

02. Learn to relieve work pressure.

Stress is actually part of the job. Moderate stress can make people feel excited, promote concentration, enhance work motivation and increase their sense of accomplishment after success.

Excessive stress can also lead to cognitive decline, memory decline, and even listlessness, irritability and anxiety, pushing and pulling, pessimism and disappointment. When you start to see these situations, you should be alert and pay attention in time.

First of all, you should know how to set up a pressure warning signal for yourself.

From light to heavy can be divided into three levels. Emotional irritability, absentmindedness, insomnia, etc. Belonging to the first level, losing self-confidence, being taciturn, being depressed, etc. It belongs to the second level, and hysteria, bad temper, migraine and overeating belong to the third level.

Most young people feel stressed because they face the computer all day. Long-term high-intensity work can easily make their brains tired, slow down, fall into a dead corner of thinking, and lead to low work efficiency.

For example, designing a scheme needs inspiration, but sitting in front of the computer all day thinking about this problem can easily lead to mental fatigue and brain confusion.

One of the ways to relieve work pressure is to move your mouth first.

Psychological research shows that cortisol level is directly proportional to stress. When people chew, the cortisol level in saliva is obviously reduced, and the sense of stress is also reduced.

At this time, you can eat snacks and chew gum properly. When food comes into contact with the skin of the oral cavity, on the one hand, it can transmit sensory information to the brain center through the skin nerve, thus creating a sense of comfort, which enables people to eliminate inner pressure through contact with external objects.

On the other hand, when the mouth touches food and chews, it can effectively relieve people's tension and anxiety, and create another exciting area in the feeding center, so that the tension and excitement areas are suppressed and finally relaxed.

The second method is to move the head. Here are some simple operations:

Push your head forward slightly, feel pain when you stop for a minute, and then turn to the other side.

Pitch, bend slightly to the chest, feel sore and stop for a minute, then lean back and repeat two or three times.

Around the head, the head rotates slowly and forcefully in the order of front left and rear right, or front right and rear left.

Sit sideways in your seat with your upper body slightly turned to the left or right.

Lift your legs, sit in your seat, straighten your legs and stretch forward. Stop for a minute, rest for a while, and continue to do it two or three times.

Shrug your shoulders and turn your shoulders up and down at the same time, or turn them up and down.

Relax, stand up at work, walk around the office and do stretching exercises.

Finally, putting a pot of green plants on the desk can relieve eye fatigue and have a certain radiation protection effect.

03. Learn to spit properly.

In fact, spitting is a playful expression of opinion about something. Here I recommend a 5W 1H analysis method.

It was put forward by American political scientist lasswell. Later, after people's continuous application and summary, a mature "5W+IH" model was gradually formed.

5W is why Way, what happened, where, when, who, 1H is how, and how they did it.

For example, Li Dan's remarks about Luo Zhenyu in The Seven Overlords are classic: Luo Zhenyu was drunk late at night? The netizen commented below: Luo Zhenyu was anxious to get drunk and sell money late at night.

The way here is to sell anxiety, what is getting drunk, where is it late at night, who is Luo Zhenyu, and how it was bought with the money selling anxiety.

Spitting is a humorous way and requires strong self-confidence. It is a manifestation of self-acceptance. You need to have a clear understanding of your weaknesses and have the courage to speak out.

I can say that I am fat: my salary is average, my looks are average, my life is average, but my weight is average.

When you see a colleague who works hard and has strong problem-solving ability, you can say to him: I want to know what you won't do except with me.

You are reading an internal recruitment email, which puts forward many specific requirements, such as academic qualifications, professional ability, comprehensive performance and other indicators. After reading it, you think you must be hopeless. At this time, you can say to yourself and the people around you: Oh, I am so inflated that I have the courage to open this email.

The employees of many large companies not only work hard, but also Tucao Company and leaders are merciless. There is a cover song called "Free Yourself" at the New Oriental Annual Meeting. Once it was broadcast on the Internet, it became an instant hit. Let's feel the lyrics together:

I just want to cope with the examination, not work hard. If there is a problem, I will only throw pots at each other;

I will only sing to the boss's circle of friends, and the leader will say it casually, please follow immediately;

Work hard, in the end, I can't write PPT.

What moral integrity, what professional ethics, will only sing for the RMB. ...

Even Yu was caught off guard by such bold and explicit remarks, but people were not angry. They also announced on the Weibo that they would reward employees who participated in the creation and performance with1.2000 yuan.