Ask how to be bold.

The word "boldness" refers to the courage and decisive style of understanding things.

Its direct meaning should be understood unambiguously, but there are often cases of abuse and misuse in actual situations, and reckless and hasty actions are often regarded as symbols of courage. Now is the era of reform, and all walks of life are changing more or less. Some people are inevitably hesitant, while others boldly try these changes. Obviously, the former is not under discussion. The key is what we can use to distinguish between boldness and recklessness, and boldness and recklessness. We can find many differences between them, but no matter what the differences are, the most fundamental thing I understand is that courage and decisiveness are based on rational judgment, and whim and recklessness can't be called boldness.

Courage is to forge ahead, innovate and innovate, and lead coquettish in prosperity or in an environment where something is done and something is not done; In adversity, or in an environment full of resistance, squeeze through the crowd, do not threaten evil, and dare to do it. Those who dare to do and wait for the "prosperous times" cannot be called courageous leaders. They will not complain about how incompetent their soldiers are, but will make full use of their own strength to change this state. A truly enterprising leader will infect people around him with his boldness and courage, thus creating a collective enterprising atmosphere. That kind of dream fell from the sky-a leader who was given the highest power by his superiors before making a difference. The word courage should not be used, otherwise it would be insulting. Because this is called following the trend, don't forget that courage is a kind of strength from people themselves.

How to make yourself more thoughtful and accept the opinions of others without being influenced by others? 1. Know your principles and know what you can't give up. Never agree to anything that doesn't conform to your principles. 2. Give yourself a chance to express your ideas. If everyone else is talking and you think you can't get in the mouth, wait for others to catch their breath and seize the opportunity to get in. 3. Make yourself more objective and look at the problem from the side. Don't accept anything as soon as you hear someone else's position. You know: everyone may have different views and ideas about anything. 4. Don't distinguish other people's ideas from yours. The idea you approve can be your own idea.

1, eye contact? Practicing eye contact with each other will make you less timid and more confident in the eyes of others. 2. Don't use those slow words when you speak, such as: maybe, maybe, maybe, if, I heard, others, us and so on. Use those bold words, such as: I, I think, I hope, I demand and so on. Don't automatically accept other people's opinions? On the premise of respecting others, you can put forward constructive and opposing opinions and challenge others' views, thus expressing your own views; Of course, you should also listen to other people's opinions and accept them sincerely when they are correct. 4, don't let others interrupt you, don't let others ignore your opinion. If interrupted, you can confidently say "please let me finish"; If you have said this sentence and it has not been ignored, repeat it. ..

Rationality and courage of marketers;

I don't want to talk too much about marketing skills and specific strategies, because through the experience of marketing consulting and training, we find that many domestic enterprises lack planning level and marketing skills. This understanding is different from the enterprise's own understanding. Enterprises often think that what they lack is marketing skills and planning creativity. So what do marketers lack now? Or what is the first characteristic of a successful marketer? I think the most important thing is rationality and courage. I worked as a regional manager in a well-known home appliance enterprise in China. I have such an experience that when asked to ask the regional manager questions or discuss the problems in my region, most of them are afraid to speak. I said, internally, how can we solve the problem if we dare not say it? This is the present situation of the enterprise, which I call "the emperor's new clothes" in enterprise marketing. This new dress is not worn by the boss. What problems are reflected here? That is, marketers lack rationality and courage. This is the most important quality of a successful marketer. Why do you say that?

We have all read the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, and there is a passage like this: In order to test who is more capable, Cao Cao deliberately let Cao Pi and Cao Zhi leave the Yuanmen and let the gatekeepers not let them go. Later, Yang Xiu advised Cao Zhian to let Cao Zhi say, "I am instructed by the Prime Minister, and whoever stands in my way will be beheaded." In this sentence, Cao Cao thinks that Cao Zhi is very capable. Why? Because Cao Cao tested the courage of his two sons. It is precisely this kind of courage that enterprise marketers need most.

1, lack of courage is the achilles heel of marketers.

Zeng Guofan has two criteria for recruiting Xiang troops, one is not opportunistic, and the other is not afraid of death. That's why the Xiang army can fight. Enterprises should also have a standard for recruiting marketing personnel. The first criterion is courage. What is courage? Simply put, it is to dare to think, dare to do and be responsible. I asked the regional managers of some enterprises how big you want to make the regional market, what kind of support do you need and what kind of return do you need? If the region is independent and responsible for its own profits and losses, do you dare to be responsible? There are always excuses for various reasons, so, well, I'll give you the strength you need. Do you have confidence? Few people answered yes.

There is a misunderstanding about the basic quality of marketers, that is, they always think that people with experience and eloquence can make achievements. However, as far as our experience in consulting work is concerned, it is often not a person who observes words and senses, that is to say, "little people" can't make achievements.

In the process of seeking various marketing forms, enterprises have just entered a misunderstanding, and they can't find the north in the dazzling concept and training. In fact, people who can really rule the world often only need "half the Analects of Confucius". But the key is to read this part well and thoroughly. 2. Rationality is the "real magic weapon" for the success of marketing power.

The core competence of marketers comes from courage, but how to cultivate the courage of marketers? This is the biggest contradiction, because enterprising people often have their own ideas, which are not necessarily consistent with the ideas of business leaders. This is the need of rationality, the rationality of enterprises and the rationality of marketers themselves. There are many magic weapons now. If I have to sum up a real magic weapon for success from consulting practice, I can only say that this magic weapon is "rationality". Irrational people have no courage. Why? Without rational decision-making or behavior, he is guilty. At best, he is just a gamble, just a futile effort. True courage is a quiet person, not a floating person.

The times are developing, and the forms of charm are also changing. In today's modernization, great changes have taken place in girls' views on choosing friends. Modern women's standard requirements for men are: good appearance, elegant manners, witty conversation, sense of humor, profound knowledge, elegant manners, sense of justice and self-motivation, a certain social status outside, a caring heart inside, maturity, stability and sense of responsibility, giving her a strong sense of security, outstanding leadership and personality charm among men, and showing a romantic life atmosphere at an appropriate moment. These are all aspects of modern male charm. Let's describe how to improve these aspects.

Some people say that looks are innate, and there is no need or way to change too much. First of all, I want to correct this misconception, because a person's appearance is not only reflected in the five senses, but also cleanliness, hairstyle and dress collocation are very important. Ask yourself if you often don't take a shower, which makes you stink, and if you don't wash your hair, do you often get dizzy? Do you often wear suits and sneakers? If that's the case, it's a pity that you are reducing your charm. Most girls like to be clean and tidy, and I hope men can do these details well. The birth of men's perfume is also a good proof of this. So men don't need plastic surgery, but if they can do the details well, they will never be disgusted.

Speech and manners are all manifestations of self-cultivation. To some extent, it is a manifestation of education, but to some extent it is the result of self-tempering. Do you jaywalk? Do you often swear? Do you spit everywhere? These all test your cultivation. Remember that your actions show your level and value, and your words reflect your psychology and thoughts. Although good cultivation will not make people like you instantly, it can gradually add points to you invisibly, and people will gradually admire and appreciate you. A sense of humor is not inherent in everyone, but it is indeed an effective weapon. It can adjust the tense atmosphere and make friends and lovers feel comfortable. But it must be remembered that only rich knowledge accumulation can make humor rise to humor, not grandstanding.

As we all know, knowledge is a valuable asset. The knowledge here not only refers to scientific and cultural knowledge, but also covers everything from astronomy to geography, involving science and technology, current affairs and politics, culture and entertainment, sports, lifestyle and dealing with people. If you are an excellent thinker, you will find that these fields are strange, but they have amazing similarities and commonalities. For example, the relationship between countries is actually the development and derivation of the relationship between people, and people in all fields need to work hard to succeed. Men need to accumulate more and more knowledge in order to maintain permanent charm and not be disgusted.

Grace is not only a weapon for men to kill women, but also a golden needle for their career. It shows that men are humble, polite and respectful to women. A kind of generosity and tolerance in life, don't haggle over every ounce, lose big with small. Manner is the embodiment of good moral quality and the symbol of wisdom. Here are some details that many men care about. When you go out on a date with a girl, do you take the initiative to open the door for her when you go in and out of the restaurant, let her choose a seat first when eating, and ask her what to do? Many small details have reflected her weight in your heart and your attitude towards her. Women are exquisite animals, and they all yearn for the chivalry of medieval Europe. Speaking of life, have you ever turned against your friends because of a small slip of the tongue or any mistake that made you unhappy? Maybe your impoliteness will ruin your precious friendship, and maybe your politeness will make others appreciate and respect you.

A sense of justice is a matter of principle for an excellent person. Even if a man is excellent in other aspects, if his thoughts are evil and his actions harm the interests of many people, he will definitely be cast aside. In fact, most men are just, but the key is whether they can show it, because some just actions often require a price. This requires you to make a balance. My principle is, don't do things that harm others and benefit themselves. Why not do things that harm others and benefit themselves? Although maybe you will have a lot of trouble. If a hero is divorced from the sense of justice, he will become a devil, and those who win the hearts of the people will win the world. Only with a sense of justice can he be respected, make things easier for you and help you succeed.

Some people may say that girls nowadays are too realistic and just want to marry a rich man. In fact, after my contact, most girls just say so, and really don't necessarily do it. But you have to show her hope. It's important to remember this! In other words, you should be self-motivated, and you should work hard to show her a virtual happy day in the future. Self-motivation is mainly manifested in study and work, such as whether you work hard or not. Do you insist on charging in your spare time after work? Facts speak louder than words, and your actions can prove everything. It may not be easy to do this, but the prodigal son who does nothing all day is definitely not an attractive person and will never be liked by most girls. If your career has a small success and continues to show an upward trend, I believe that few women are not tempted by it.

Social status is an important symbol of success, which requires not only hard work and understanding of things, but also opportunities. So in this sense, not everyone can have a high social status. But don't underestimate yourself. Although not everyone can be a leader, you can be a backbone if you want! You can also gain the appreciation and admiration of others. Every woman wants her man to be a big umbrella, which can help her shelter from the wind and rain. Although many people yearn for this umbrella to resist external dangers, in fact, to a certain extent, this umbrella is more important than the pillar in their hearts. Man proposes, God disposes. As long as you work hard, you will win. Even if you fail, you are still an excellent man in your woman's heart. But remember, the premise is that you have tried. If you want your woman not to complain about you, you need to prove it with practical actions. Of course, if you try and don't succeed, most women will not be stubborn enough to leave you.

In fact, many women long for the warmth of their families and a stable love life. So if you can give her meticulous care in life, then she will have a strong sense of dependence on you. Although this does not belong to the category of love, it can touch her heart more than love to some extent. Because she experienced warmth, that kind of real happiness. How do you care? Here are some suggestions: at any time, consider your lover (girlfriend) first. For example, if it rains, you need to consider whether she has an umbrella. If not, all you have to do is pick her up at her house; Always pay attention to what she wants and buy it before her in advance, which can give her a great surprise. Once she has something you need to remember, don't forget, and always let her know where she is in your heart. Of course, this kind of care should be properly grasped, especially in the pursuit process. Don't do anything that makes her feel beyond the development of the relationship. It's important to remember this. For example, she is not your girlfriend, but you, as a husband, pay attention to her private life all day.

Speaking of maturity and sense of responsibility, this is the basis for leaders to trust you in their careers, the mutual trust among friends, the cornerstone of giving women a sense of security, and the most basic quality that an excellent man should have, but it is not so easy to do. I have seen many people put forward this point in marriage advice, but how many people can do it? You might as well ask yourself, when you already have a heart, can you refuse any temptation? Such as the pursuit of beauty. When you are ready to jump off the nest, can you finish the work to the letter? To know that being able to do this means that many people think it is "stupid". Indeed, not so many people will be so "stupid", but details can often reflect people's quality. The concept of happiness also means giving up, giving up many beautiful things, just to get what you want. Only those who know how to give up can hold on to happiness.

I believe every man wants to be a general, a hero and lead his men to do thrilling things. Leadership is the most important thing, that is, whether you have prestige or not, and whether others obey your leadership. In my experience, only by gaining the respect of others can others follow you willingly, then you should be better than others first. You have to make more efforts to show your Excellence in all aspects, which is the basis for you to gain the trust of others, but doing so can only make you a backbone. To be a leader, you must do many things: generosity and tolerance. Small and easy to gain, tolerant. Since people's personality differences are so complicated, you can only gradually expand your influence and power if you are tolerant of friends and enemies. Narrow individualism will only isolate you. You must learn to communicate with others and let others know about you, so that others will follow you willingly. Don't just think about yourself, think more about the feelings and interests of others, lead the team with your own personality charm, and make everyone full of fighting spirit and desperate. You know, as the leader of the team, you are the only one who gains the most in the end. However, tolerance for the enemy is not forbearance. The premise of tolerance is that you have defeated him, he has lost to you, and you could have completely defeated him but didn't. This will bring gratitude and loyalty. There are endless stories of heroes cherishing each other in this world. No matter who dies, heroes can always be respected by friends and enemies.

Finally, talk about romantic life. This is not what men should do, but it also belongs to the category of enjoying life. A monotonous life will always make people tired, and it is still a good way to have a cup of seasoning occasionally. Be sure to remember those special days-Christmas, Valentine's Day, Women's Day on March 8th, her birthday, love (wedding) anniversary. Because your performance on these special days may impress her more than your performance on other days. A woman's personality is like water, and passion is what many women yearn for. If you don't want your woman to have an affair, don't let that passion pass forever. At a candlelight dinner on a special day, the flowers in the vase may evoke memories of her love and make your behavior more passionate at night. I won't say how romantic a man is: you might as well buy a bunch of roses before meeting him. Don't be embarrassed. A man can't have no courage at all. Women will refuse your love, but most will not refuse your flowers; If you have artistic talent, you can show it wholeheartedly. Usually, music can play a better role than language. Carefully prepare gifts for special festivals. You can do it yourself if you have enough time. Love letter is the lubricating layer and catalyst of love, but the premise is that your love letter must be sincere and must not be vague and tasteless. The real lethality of love letters lies not in the beauty of words, but in the richness of content-everything you do to her.

Finally, I want to explain that the improvement of personal charm is not only useful for feelings, but also can improve all aspects of your life. Men with personal charm often get more chances of success.