"In today's society, many people are prone to anxiety when they reach middle age." What do you think?

Thank you, this question is similar to another question I answered, let us understand the nature of anxiety together.

Therefore, when a problem comes, there is no need to make a fuss. Once the problem is solved, it will no longer be a problem.

In real life, when encountering this kind of problem, people often emphasize diverting their attention to sports, entertainment activities or reading and creating.

This is a workaround, but it does not solve the underlying problem. People who are deeply anxious will not say that they are anxious. No matter what they do, they are in Caoying and their hearts are in Han. Anxiety is always present. I understand the inhuman pain very well.

The reason for anxiety is the lack of the present moment. Without the state of presence, one will fall into delusion.

If you know him and see through him, you will regain your ability to solve problems and you will inevitably get rid of anxiety.

The past has disappeared, the future has not yet arrived, and all you really exist is the present.

The present is right in front of you, it’s time to eat, it’s time to sleep. If you are in a state of anxiety, it means you have fallen into delusion. The ego describes a void time and space at the emotional level, trapping consciousness in it. For example, you seem to be awake but you are actually in a dream and are not living in the present.

The greed, anger, and ignorance that Buddhism emphasizes and the desire that Taoism emphasizes are the same. Power, talent and sex are desires, and the desire to be recognized is also a desire. If the desire is not satisfied, you will fall into anger and anxiety. It will lead to delusions and fall into a kind of conscious delusion, which is impossible to extricate oneself. Zen Buddhism emphasizes that form is emptiness, knowing the mind and seeing nature, and seeing nature to become a Buddha.

Taoism emphasizes that Tao follows nature and is strong without desire. It's the same truth. Desire is an abyss with no end. Therefore, if you see through its essence, you will not become a slave to desire, but you will find yourself and become your own Buddha.

Once you have figured it out at the ideological level, you will return to your true self. Consciousness and emotions are not your essence. You don’t think about anything, just do whatever you need to do. This is the power of the moment.

Secondly, return to the present and solve the problem.

Talk about your stress, talk to your family, talk to your close friends, or if you are alone, talk to yourself. Mobilize family members for maximum support.

Speak and fully describe the anxiety in your heart to the person listening to you. When writing, take out a piece of paper, list out the depression in your heart one by one, and have a conversation with yourself.

The most taboo here is for family members to make sarcastic remarks. The most important thing is to learn to listen. Don’t interrupt, stay focused, respond seriously, and put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Only by looking at the problem from the other side's perspective can we see the essence of the problem. Only then can we find a solution to the problem.

If you don’t vomit, you won’t be happy. Sometimes vomiting is a process of stress relief. It would be best if you feel better. If you still feel nervous and anxious, then we will solve the problems one by one.

Third, make plans according to priority and urgency. Start with the easy stuff, then the tough stuff, and solve them one by one.

Take out a piece of paper and write down the problems that are easiest to solve first. The specific solutions are clearly marked one by one according to the smart principle.

Solve it one by one, and don’t worry about the remaining things that you can’t do anything about. It’s not something you can decide and let God decide.

Eventually you'll realize it's not a big deal.

The same goes for studying. Senior high school students are under a lot of pressure and are in a state of anxiety. If parents make some sarcastic remarks or just talk about the seriousness of anxiety, it will only aggravate the child's anxiety and will not help.

Help children find the source of their anxiety and then solve the problem. If you are worried about not being able to get into a good university, then analyze the factors for getting into a university based on the above analysis. It is not something you can decide, so don’t consider it. In the end, it is specific about which course and how to study it. Each question you learn now is a question.

The present moment is the reality of life.

There is no need to deliberately amplify anxiety. It is like a dark room, and anxiety is like a shadow. There is no need to expel the darkness, just light up the heart lamp.

Light is your true face.

When people reach middle age, they can’t help themselves. This sentence may not be unreasonable. Many people will be under pressure from all sides once they reach this age. Not only do they have to move around the workplace and have family responsibilities, but their children and parents also need your careful care. Being unable to do anything can no longer describe the exhaustion of middle-aged people. Attacks from all sides will make this group of people feel deeply anxious. To use an analogy, middle-aged people are like being in the "sandwich layer" of a sandwich. There are old people at the top and young people at the bottom. They are the most important backbone for the family and society. To shoulder this heavy responsibility, we must first ensure our own health. Health and mental health are equally important.

Because when people reach middle age, they are under pressure from all aspects. This is a rather embarrassing age stage. There are really old people at the top and young people at the bottom. In addition to your own work, etc., if you have a high income Fortunately, for those with low incomes, it’s even more difficult. It’s hard not to be anxious!

Let me tell you from my personal experience!

There are also many middle-aged people in our company. Through their daily chats, we can feel that some of them often have anxiety and uneasiness in their hearts. Why? The reasons they talk about most are these three aspects:

1: Family, at this age, there are really seniors and juniors. Not only do we have to worry about "study exams" and "test scores", but we also worry about "parents' health", "family expenses" and other issues.

2: Work, it can be said that in middle age, unless you are doing a high-end job, you don’t have to worry about unemployment. Otherwise, once you lose your job, it will not be as easy as it was when you were young to find a good job.

3: Because many companies now still have certain age requirements. If you don’t believe it, you can check it out on major recruitment websites.

1: When people reach middle age, many people will consider a question, that is, what to do about their retirement in the future? Do you have enough savings for retirement?

2: Just like some middle-aged people in the company, when I listen to them chatting, they will occasionally talk about retirement and pension issues in the future. Where to retire? How to provide for old age? How to provide for old age? Everyone has already started making plans.

1: People’s desires are endless. Even in middle age, they still want to improve their quality of life. Whether it is to make your own retirement life more comfortable in the future, or to make your children more relaxed in the future. The desire in my heart is still ready to stir.

2: But due to my own abilities, I am already a bit "out of my depth". To put it simply, I want to make money, but I don’t have the ability. What should I do if I can’t make any money? Then be depressed.

To sum up: This is what some middle-aged people talk about the most when chatting together, and it makes them anxious and uneasy.

The parents of those born in the 1980s are the poorest, those born in the 50s and 60s. They have not accumulated so much wealth, so we have to be very cautious in everything we do. On the one hand, there are people born in the 1970s standing in front of us, and on the other hand, those born in the 90s and 00s are brave enough to venture forward and fight hard. We have become the most easily ignored generation.

Regarding the post-80s generation, there is a popular saying

Once upon a time, we naively thought that we were the proud sons of the new century.

But what I saw was that those born in the 1970s who were older than us married and had children early and fulfilled their lives, while those born in the 90s and 00s who were younger than us started to talk about some "new human beings" "We can no longer speak the language at all.

Those born in the 1970s have caught up with the spring breeze of reform. They work hard on their own and use their abilities to create value. Accumulated a lot of experience and wealth. Their descendants, those born in the 1990s and 2000s, have inherited their experience and wealth, while those born in the 1980s have hardly enjoyed any preferential policies. We can only rely on ourselves to think more and be patient.

What worries me most is that the children are studying and the parents are sick. This feeling has become even more obvious after this epidemic. On the one hand, we have to urge our parents not to go out, and on the other hand, we have to worry about our own jobs. We cannot be sick, our parents are old and our children are small. We cannot withstand a little bit of wind and rain. We worry about our salary, our mortgage, and our future. We have to plan many things in advance and prepare for a rainy day. Those born in the 1990s and 2000s can do whatever they want, and they still have many choices. As for us born in the 1980s, we can only choose to subtract in life. We can only find the fields that are suitable for us and choose to delve deeper. We cannot make mistakes. There is no room for mistakes. It can be said that every step is startling. If we make one mistake, we will easily be abandoned by society.

Although we are born into difficulties, we still raise our heads and stand at the center of the world.

We are afraid of failure, but we are never defeated.

For our dreams, we choose to go through thick and thin.

In today's society, knowledge changes, social changes, and the internal and external environment of the country are changing faster and faster. In middle age, there are old people and young people, expenses will become larger and larger, and income growth will become faster and faster. It's getting slower and slower, and you have to endure what you can't bear. It can be regarded as an improvement in your own abilities. Only when you reach this point can your potential be unleashed.

When I was in my 20s, I had just graduated. I was not among those at the top of the pyramid, so I could only go to a small company. At the beginning, I only had enough to eat every month. I was also anxious at the time. What I was anxious about was that I didn’t know when this kind of life would end. Although I worked hard to learn and grow, there were always more failures, setbacks, and rewards than successes and rewards on the way to growth. I’m worried that I won’t be able to have my own abilities after the age of 30, so how can I organize my own family?

Finally, I have reached the beginning of 3, and even reached 4. Although after more than 10 years of hard work, I have everything an ordinary person should have, but I am still far from completing my life mission.

At this time, I started to feel anxious again. I was worried about my current age and situation. No way.

I am even more worried that one day I will really encounter a career downturn. What will the family do? The children are far from the age of independence, but the future is full of uncertainty. Even in the past few years, what I see every day when I turn on the Internet is that the economy is in a downturn and everyone is ready to tighten their belts and live a better life.

It would be a lie to say that I am not worried or melancholy. What can be done? Just live like this, hoping to survive until the day the child becomes independent.

In order to give yourself a little more sense of security, learn more about some technologies that you think have a little value, so that you will not be useless after leaving this job. I don’t know how it actually works and whether it has any effect. Anyway, it’s better than worrying.

I am born in the 1990s, and I will soon enter the threshold of 30. They say that you will stand up at thirty. Let me use my experience and feelings to talk about this topic!

I have also seen this phenomenon. After the age of 35 and after the age of 40, more and more middle-aged people are looking for jobs, and most of them are experienced backbones in the industry. This is a very common phenomenon. phenomenon, indicating that it has become an objective fact.

I think there are several reasons:

① The elimination of talents caused by industry recession. For example, in the automobile industry, due to the obvious decline in automobile sales, many salespeople with more than ten years of experience have been eliminated. It has been eliminated because one is that the new technology is not learned enough and the product knowledge cannot keep up; the other is that the concept cannot keep up and is not in line with the consumption center of the main consumer group; there are too few customer acquisition channels. Naturally, they can only be eliminated.

② The era of relying on qualifications and experience has passed. In the past, if you had more than ten or even decades of work experience, you were a treasure. Now with the update of technology, you are a loser of old knowledge and technology. Representatives will be eliminated together.

③Old employees are difficult to manage, with high wages and benefits. To put it bluntly, labor costs are high.

④ Today’s emerging markets are full of new technologies and new knowledge, which are updated very quickly. Middle-aged people have poor learning ability and cannot keep up.

Middle-aged anxiety is caused by many factors such as Chinese society’s recruitment and employment requirements, age discrimination, family financial burden, no pension for old age, physical health crisis, income instability, etc. To be honest, there is no Not many families have a midlife crisis. The most serious problem is that many units reject people over the age of 35, and those who are working at this age will also face the risk of being laid off. Middle age is the most stressful stage in life, and there are seniors and juniors. There are too many places to spend money, and families will fall into economic crisis once they get sick. In short, China still has many imperfections that need to be improved. This must be done step by step, and reforms cannot be too radical. We must believe that our country and party will definitely solve people's livelihood problems and let the people live and work in peace and contentment!

Anxiety is an instinctive psychological reaction of people. After people enter middle age, many people will become anxious. There are many reasons for this, but the influence of family, career, and emotions are also the main factors.

In today's society, middle-aged people are anxious, and the first one to bear the brunt of their anxiety comes from their families. This age group is "old and young", and they bear the heaviest responsibilities. Older parents are generally older, and health is their biggest obstacle, and it is difficult to escape the troubles of diseases; for younger generations, education is the focus, and medical care, food, clothing, housing and transportation are also indispensable. If there are more children, or a "421" family , then the burden of raising children will be even heavier. And middle-aged people are in this middle layer, basically unable to get away, and they don't dare to breathe.

I put career second to the anxiety of middle-aged people because this stage is a critical moment in life. It can also be said to be the peak golden period. The pressure is also the greatest. Facing various challenges in the workplace, It's a challenge, we can only move forward. But sometimes you will encounter bottlenecks and confusions, such as career crises, being laid off, and survival of the fittest. Faced with these, you can't even think about not being anxious. After all, you still have a large family behind you that you need to take care of.

After experiencing the seven-year itch, married life generally returns to calmness, but this does not mean that there are no waves. If you have been smoothed by life, have no ambition, and have no motivation, you will still encounter emotional difficulties. crisis. For example, the wife's dislike and marital disharmony lead to the emergence of emotional conflicts. If they are not handled well, anxiety will still exist.

There are many factors that cause anxiety among middle-aged people, such as mistrust in the workplace, unfair treatment, and doubts about the path of life.

How to overcome these anxieties of middle-aged people, I personally suggest that in addition to maintaining a normal mentality, you also need to work hard to resolve them. Forging iron requires hard work. The most important thing is to cultivate yourself. As long as you are good enough, everything can be solved. As for career success, happy family, and happy marriage, it will all happen naturally.