Does the workplace believe in tears?

The workplace doesn't believe in tears, but at that moment, I cried.

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Yesterday, Lucy, a headhunter friend, cried to Lao Wang, saying that she had worked hard with the applicant for more than half a year, but she was stood up by the applicant the day before she joined the job, and then she was hacked by the applicant. She felt that the boat of friendship had capsized, and her heart was particularly uncomfortable. This is the first time Lucy has shed tears since she was a headhunter for 8 months.

After listening to Lucy's story, Lao Wang told Lucy about his experience as a headhunter.

That was in 2008. At that time, Lao Wang helped a FMCG company recruit a sales director. Both sides talked. The candidate is ready to join the company. At about 9 pm the day before the candidate joined the job, Lao Wang also had a special phone call with the candidate. The candidate told Lao Wang that he would definitely be employed at 9: 30 tomorrow morning.

The next morning, Lao Wang got up and sent a short message to the applicant, warmly reminding him of the job. Candidates are also very happy to tell Lao Wang that he has got up and is ready to go to work.

But around noon 1 1:30, Lao Wang received a phone call from the boss of the client company, telling Lao Wang that Lao Wang's candidate Li had not been hired. Lao Wang felt very strange and called Li immediately, but his phone was always turned off. Until the evening, he finally got through the phone, but he just didn't answer Lao Wang's phone. Lao Wang had to make another call, and the applicant answered the phone immediately. As soon as he heard Lao Wang say that he was hired, he hung up the phone immediately and acted like a criminal.

Lao Wang had to send him a short message. He replied to Lao Wang that his wife would not let him work. If you are a headhunter, you are likely to want to cry in an instant. Lao Wang was still young at that time and really wanted to cry, but think about it, even crying to death can't solve the problem now.

After that, Lao Wang made a self-recovery, and set several standards for candidates who were not recommended:

1. Candidates who do not cooperate with headhunters, are unpunctual and are suspected of standing up must refuse to recommend them.

2. Candidates who like to complain, speak ill of their former boss or colleagues in the interview and think they are incompetent are not recommended.

I like to promise and talk big. During the conversation, I will tell all the secrets of my former company and refuse to associate.

Lucy stopped crying when Lao Wang told her his own story. She told Lao Wang that she had too little experience in headhunting, so she should strengthen her study and improve her psychological quality in the future. No matter what problems she encountered in the future, she would not cry, because the workplace did not believe in tears, but only in the results.

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It is said that men don't flick when they have tears, just because they haven't reached the sad place yet!

Last weekend, when a 26-year-old senior programmer asked Lao Wang for advice on career development, he mentioned that he had worked overtime until 3 am, but he couldn't find a solution to the problem and cried. This is the first time he shed tears within four years after graduating from college.

Tears like this are because I haven't found a solution to the problem. Such tears can make you think deeply, study systematically and find a solution to the problem.

If this kind of tears can spur you, but the tears below are really sad.

Last week, a 42-year-old middle-aged man in the workplace, a director of an enterprise, suffered a midlife crisis. After being dismissed by the company, although I got a lot of compensation from the company, I couldn't find a job for half a year in a row. When chatting with Lao Wang deeply, Lao Wang found that he was crying and was very sad. Lao Wang felt this kind of sadness, not ordinary sadness, but despair of the workplace.

Seeing him crying, Lao Wang's eyes were red, but Lao Wang quickly adjusted his state, combed his career for free, and gave him some suggestions on career development. Lao Wang really wants to help him, but his problem can't be solved by career planning or career counseling. Old Wang Can only helped him find his own value and let him find a job quickly. Even if the income is lower and the position is lower, it is better than being eliminated by the cruel workplace.

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The day before yesterday, when I was helping a girl in the workplace with career counseling, she said that because she worked overtime every day, it was about 12 o'clock every day when she got home. She was so tired that she didn't even have the strength to live with her boyfriend, which eventually led her boyfriend to break up with her. She said that she hates working overtime now, and she immediately has psychological resistance when it comes to working overtime. Ask Lao Wang how to adjust his resistance to overtime and seek future career development.

Speaking of overtime, it has become a common practice for people in the workplace. Especially in Beijing, if you don't want to work overtime, you may have to find a new job, or you may never find a job without overtime.

Psychological resistance is an abnormal psychological behavior that occurs unconsciously after being hurt by something. Lao Wang suggested that she:

1, we should face up to the fact of our psychological resistance, listen to our inner thoughts and adjust our psychological state, and we will get better gradually.

2. Learn to accept yourself. After a long time, the resistance will gradually disappear.

3, adjust the state, the world is so big, go out for a walk, play, change the environment, change the way you live, and your resistance will naturally be good.

Lao Wang also gave her some objective suggestions on career counseling. Lao Wang sincerely hopes that she can quickly get out of the psychological shadow of resisting overtime, return to the workplace, and be an excellent professional.

Write it at the end

The workplace really doesn't believe in tears. If you want to cry, cry. But keep running with tears in your eyes. Once you give up running, you may not even have a chance to cry.