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20 things that modern women should do to enhance their charm.

20 things that modern women should do to enhance their charm.

What must modern women do in the initial stage of enhancing their charm? According to the investigation of women's aesthetic education in China by experts in the field of beauty aesthetics, at least the following 20 things should be done.

Item 1: Before going out or receiving guests, get into the habit of looking in the mirror and check the basic condition of your appearance. At least I'm used to using cold and warm lipstick. Women with poor skin color must adjust their skin color with foundation.

The second item: take a bath every day, change underwear every day, change your coat every day in social occasions, and have no body odor such as body odor and bad breath.

Item 3: Wash your hair once a day or two. Women with short and medium hair should be trimmed at least once a month. Be sure to take care of your hair before going to important occasions, so that it is neat and shiny.

Article 4: Dress appropriately, have a sense of fashion, know what style to wear on any occasion, and understand the basic relationship between clothing and identity, personality, temperament and upbringing.

Fifth: Learn to smile, be able to control your expression, and always remind yourself to keep the most pleasant smile and expression.

Item 6: Dignified, elegant and decent. Have well-trained correct and healthy posture such as standing, sitting and walking posture.

Seventh: Learn to control the pronunciation, intonation and speaking speed when speaking, so that the voice is clear, pleasant, natural and friendly.

Eighth: you can control your weight and you can't feel full every meal. In particular, it is necessary to control eating high-fat and high-calorie foods such as sweets, greasy foods and fried foods. These two foods are best avoided.

Ninth: Eat at least 1 ~ 2 fruits, 500 ~ 1 000g of fresh vegetables, 500ml of milk, two bottles of yogurt,1egg and some bean products every day. In addition, you should also choose high-quality health care products, such as multivitamins.

Pieces 10: spend at least two hours a month doing 1 ~ 2 beauty treatments. You can choose to go to a beauty salon or learn more professional beauty methods yourself, such as thorough skin cleaning and massage. Persisting in beauty is not only beneficial to the skin, but also can get long-term spiritual aesthetic education.

Item 1 1: insist on physical exercise 2 ~ 3 times a week, and exercise every day is the best. Alternately choose tennis, swimming, fitness and other interesting but limited sports, or walking, running, gymnastics, climbing stairs and other boring but can always do sports.

Item 12: Go shopping at least 2-3 times a month. Shopping malls should not only choose shopping malls that are higher than your spending power, but also enhance your aesthetic taste and activate your feelings and moods. Also visit the shopping malls suitable for your own consumption and update your clothes and accessories rhythmically.

Issue 13: read at least 3-5 fashion and beauty magazines every month. Even if you are busy or not interested, you should force yourself to read them often. You can browse them in newsstands, newsstands, bars, teahouses and other places in your spare time, stick to the fashion atmosphere and prevent yourself from becoming withered and stale.

Item 14: read at least one book about women's life, beauty, clothing, makeup, health and wellness every month to gain some new knowledge, and try to use it and share it with friends.

No.65438 +05: read at least 3 ~ 5 books of your own literary works every year, and constantly enrich your knowledge and interest.

Item 16: Know basic etiquette and etiquette conventions, respect others, treat others sincerely, habitually say "thank you" when getting help from others, and habitually say "sorry" when disturbing and influencing others.

Item 17: I care about my family, have a good family relationship, remember my family's birthdays and other anniversaries, and can share joys and sorrows with my family.

Item 18: Be kind to friendship, and have more than 10 close friends and more than 10 good friends who actively contact and associate frequently every month.

19: Have more than one strong professional knowledge or skill, constantly improve professional quality, and become a person needed by society and people around you.

Item 20: Be kind, caring and grateful, be kind and understanding to others, keep a peaceful mind, and take pleasure in "giving more than gaining" when getting along with others. These are at least 20 things. If you can persist in doing it, or have done part or most of it, you are a woman holding hands with charm.

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Enhance your charm

In my opinion, there are two main ways to enhance charm: one is to correct the concept; The second is the learning method.

If you don't have a need for charm, where can you have a desire for charm? Where will there be sustained motivation? Naturally, we will not make enough efforts. This is a support for the future destiny, not as simple as putting on lipstick to change clothes! Charm is different from beauty. Charm is a project, and it is also a "huge" project that women have been practicing all their lives.

Most women who are eager for success know how to work hard for their academic qualifications, knowledge and skills. Many excellent women have made unremitting efforts all their lives, but how many women have really made the same effort for charm? This is what I call ideological deviation and lack of thought.

If you are ready to get attached to charm, you should stretch yourself all your life as much as you love literature, photography or painting. What good works can you have without stretching yourself? "Ten Years of Phoenix Pool", only when you are full of energy can you show your youth and get ahead in this life.

Learning is a shortcut to enhance charm. You should learn to improve your literacy and expression, which is the purpose and means to enhance your charm. Literacy guides you and affects your training orientation. In life, we often see some women who are wearing famous brands and gold and silver, but they are not attractive at all. In other words, if the literacy is low, the aesthetic ability and taste will be low, and the result is counterproductive. As the saying goes, "it will make it unnecessary for the rich who are not there to wear more clothes."

What is the method? The method is the knowledge and skills about makeup, hairstyle, fitness, dress, self-cultivation, courtesy and etiquette. There are many things to learn in this respect, but there is no perfection, so that women can have fun all their lives. Of course, you must cultivate this interest.

Charm has the characteristics of lifelong learning and is gradual. Learn a little, fix a little, and you will improve a little. Even to a certain extent, it is staged. With the changes of your aesthetic ability, perception ability, experience accumulation, life experience, age, culture and social background, you need to keep learning new things.

Charm is enough for a woman to learn and toss for a lifetime. If you are really interested in the word charm, you will be tireless and benefit for life.

When you have the desire to improve your charm, the first step is to "know yourself", analyze and grasp your existing strengths and weaknesses, especially to find out where you can change and the potential you can play. That's the most valuable space for you to enhance your charm. You may not be beautiful, but your temperament, upbringing, dress and even your voice and smell can make you attractive.

10 years ago, I used to be a small beautician in a small beauty shop. At that time, what beauty salons did most was eyebrow eyeliner. At that time, customers knew little about beauty services. The most frequently asked question from customers is "How long can a skin care last?" Their most direct demand and desire for beauty is that I spent one or two hundred yuan on a beauty treatment. How much younger can I be? How long can it last? In fact, a beauty and skin care will not be much younger, nor will it "stay" for a long time. Therefore, in the early days of the prosperity of beauty services, people's interest turned to eyebrow eye lines that can be colored with money, and for a time eyebrow eye lines became synonymous with the beauty industry.

At that time, whether you can attract customers with eyebrows and eyeliner will also become an absolute factor for the survival of your store. At that time, I became the local "queen of tattooed eyebrows" and wrote in a daze from morning till night every day. There are not only guests visiting by plane from all over the country, but also many foreigners, actors and celebrities.

I have always been proud of my craft, and many customers who became friends later told me? They didn't know my skills in advance, but my feelings and temperament attracted them, especially my standard Mandarin, which gave them affinity and trust. For a long time, Mandarin has been the internal and external communication language of our team, and speaking Mandarin is the basic condition for recruiters. Later, I found that 10 years ago, when the local Mandarin was not popular, we borrowed the language charm of Mandarin, which added a lot of quality to each team member who was not outstanding in appearance and created many unexpected opportunities for the overall development.

Enhancing charm also requires a strong sense of expression. You apply the charm method you have learned to practice, constantly accumulate experience, reflect on problems, express your wishes, enhance your charm and enrich your interests. This process will often make you happy.

Body language, charming radio waves of women emerge in the air.

An interesting experiment found that if a woman wants to convey complete information to the outside world, her language components only account for 7%, tone accounts for 38%, and the remaining 55% of the information is conveyed through body language.

In other words, anything related to social interaction may have two phenomena: first, 55% communication is nonverbal? Second, the influence of nonverbal expression is about five times stronger than that of verbal expression?

Head posture is attractive because of its richness.

A woman may not be outstanding in appearance, but she is absolutely eye-catching when walking in a crowd. Why?

Women who are used to cocking themselves everywhere are usually arrogant, maverick, arrogant and self-centered. Perhaps it is because their innate conditions are generally better; Perhaps it is because they are good at using the beauty of body language. First of all, they are superior to others from the beginning.

Women who like to tilt their heads are usually full of curiosity, enthusiasm and vitality, but sometimes they are stubborn.

Spoken language of sign language mask for women

A woman with dry palms is cheerful; Women with wet palms are more introverted.

In addition, when shaking hands, women with palms up are more obedient and easy to get along with; Women with palms down are more competitive and have a desire to lead; A woman who can only stretch out her fingers is sophisticated and calculating.

Social etiquette code with arms crossed

Hands holding arms posture, showing tension and confusion; The posture of crossing one arm is the body language used by women when they lack self-confidence or are in unfamiliar environment, indicating that they need help.

Crossing arms is a common posture of women who often appear in public places. Most of these women are hypocritical and sophisticated.

Emotional signs of women with hip expressions

Women who swing their hips up and down while walking are often enthusiastic and informal, and like fantasy.

It is realistic and utilitarian for women who hardly swing their left and right hips when walking. They like to fall in love as much as chocolate, and the purpose seems to be only for themselves.

Most women who are naturally upturned when their hips are still are enthusiastic, cheerful, sociable and dare to love and hate; Most women with drooping hips are gentle, single-minded and emotionally persistent.

What do women want to tell you about leg posture?

Bend your legs while sitting down: this is a woman full of romantic fantasies. They are generally superior in their own conditions and pay great attention to their behavior.

Women who put their right legs on their left legs are more educated and conservative, because they are introverted and rational, and are used to suppressing and controlling their personal feelings? A woman who puts her left leg on her right leg is just the opposite. They are adventurous by nature and are active and bold in love. They are standard modern women.

Tiptoe-crossing type: Most women who swing their legs like this are narcissistic or gay, or women who are frustrated in love and hate men.

If you only have ability and no charm, you are incompetent;

If you are average in ability and charming, you are lucky;

If you have both ability and charm, then you will be proud of the spring breeze.

Nowadays, many people feel that they are less attractive than others. Some people simply think that beauty is charm, and this charm is innate, and no matter how hard you try the day after tomorrow, you can't have charm. There are even some people who simply equate charm with ability and think that their abilities and skills are attractive. Actually, it's not. Some people, no matter how capable they are, are still unattractive in the eyes of others and cannot be liked by others.

So what exactly is charm? Simply put, charm is the ability to benefit others inside and outside, and let others show a positive attitude. In other words, charm is an attitude that can influence and infect others and make others as enthusiastic and positive as you. Having charm can enhance interpersonal relationships, do a good job in career management, maintain good health, gain family happiness and overcome difficulties. In order to gain the support of colleagues, win the loyalty of employees, lead the team to a bright future, have a healthy life and finally realize their dreams, we must first make ourselves full of charm.

At the same time, a study by Columbia University shows that success in the workplace lies not in what you know or who you know, but in your popularity. Popular employees are generally considered trustworthy, proactive, earnest, determined and hardworking, and they are more likely to get a quick promotion and a generous salary increase. Unpopular colleagues are regarded as arrogant, and their academic and professional qualifications are ignored.

It can be seen that a person's charm is of great benefit to his career development, work and life. So what can I do to improve my charm?

First of all, you must calm down and reflect on yourself. What kind of person are you in the eyes of others? What do your relatives, friends or colleagues agree with you?

Usually, when excavating our own charm factors, we can usually find a place to calm down and recall the recent scenes of your relatives, friends or colleagues praising you (when, why and what they praised you); And you can ask your lover why he or she likes you; Think back to the places that have been praised the most by colleagues or bosses in the last six months or a year. Think about who fascinates you the most besides your family. This man always praises you warmly in front of others. Only in this way can we understand and understand our own charm factors from other people's evaluations.

Then we can ask ourselves, what do you like most about being praised by others? Praise your enthusiasm, initiative, ability or loyalty. Think about the compliments that others gave you last year and choose one you like best. If a job interview asked you to write your best side, what would you write? At the same time, write down what others often praise you and what you want others to praise you. Through comparative analysis, the intersection of the two is your most potential charm factor. You will know what is attractive and charming about yourself.

Secondly, try to care about others, including your family, friends and colleagues. When you know your charm factor, you can constantly strengthen and shape it to make yourself more and more attractive. But the charm mainly lies in infecting others and letting others accept you and agree with you from the heart. Therefore, in order to close the distance with others, you need to care about others, don't always think about yourself, and be too self-centered. In addition, some people care too much about family or friends, but ignore the affairs of colleagues or subordinates. We should care about everyone around us or around us from the bottom of our hearts, just as we care about our family. In this way, in the eyes of others, you are a very enthusiastic person and others are easily infected by you. Your gestures will also look more attractive in the eyes of others. To be warm, kind and friendly, we need to restrain ourselves and get rid of unfriendly places in our words and deeds. You can cultivate optimistic, positive and cheerful values in your life and work, and try to intervene and control yourself before you make any unfriendly words and deeds. Never take it out on others to satisfy yourself. If you do something unfriendly, you should apologize to others afterwards and repair the door to communication with others.

Third, if you want others to really like you, you should put yourself in others' shoes. With the increasingly fierce market competition, there is less and less communication between people. People seldom go and are too lazy to understand other people's ideas, and always impose their own views and ideas on others. First of all, we need to try our best to listen to and discover the true feelings of others, and don't judge, reject and resist the authenticity of others' feelings easily. We don't need to judge whether others' feelings are right or wrong, we just need to try our best to understand and appreciate others' feelings. Try to expand your imagination from a new angle, put yourself in others' shoes, actively respond to others' feelings, share others' feelings, and put forward positive and effective methods for others.

Carnegie once said, "You have two months to discover the advantages of others, and you will make more friends than two years to let others discover your advantages."

Fourth, be yourself. Are you showing your true self? If your answer to this question is "no", your charm index will suddenly drop, and everything you do will be greatly discounted. On the contrary, if you answer "yes", your charm index will rise and other characteristics will be strengthened.

Therefore, you must know who you really are, recognize your present and future life value, recognize some of your beliefs and styles, and recall your personal history. After knowing yourself, be loyal to yourself and your true colors. Here are a few tips to keep yourself true.

When you sail in life, let your values become a compass; Always check whether your behavior is consistent with values; Practice looking at yourself from the perspective of a bystander; Always be confident; Weaken the reasons why you don't like yourself; Check and reflect on yourself regularly.