Importance and practicability of learning western social etiquette

There is a data that a person who values etiquette can reach a successful position five times faster than a person who doesn't. What does this sentence mean? The importance of etiquette,

Dumas, a French writer, said: "Some people have studied all their lives and learned everything except how to be polite." Historically, China was once regarded as a country of clothes and manners. As long as we read a little history, we can know the height of civilization reached by our ancestors 3000 years ago: The Book of Rites Quli records a lot of ancient etiquette. Taking the appearance of food as an example, the food ceremony warns people not to put rice in a bowl when eating, not to pour soup out when drinking, and not to chew. Similar etiquette content also appeared in some etiquette textbooks and other books in the late Middle Ages, but just think about the great Shakespeare and Da? Finch eats a hand-grabbed meal every day, so we can know that the country of our ancestors is called the country of etiquette because of this gap.

There is no doubt that in the pre-modern world, China is the country that pays the most attention to etiquette, and East Asian countries are also deeply influenced by China's traditional etiquette. For example, Zhu's "Zhu" gave birth to the Korean etiquette that has been preserved to this day, and life has largely retained the traces of China's ancient etiquette. However, due to various reasons, traditional etiquette has been lost in China. A survey in Beijing in 2005 showed that people's awareness rate of basic etiquette knowledge was less than 40%. Su Yan goes to work; A nurse with yellow lips, colorless hair and long nails looked at the patient with a sick look; Go shopping in pajamas, go shopping in the park in a suit and tie, go in and out of the office in revealing clothes, wear O-leg skirts and varicose veins of lower limbs; Pretty girls spit dirty words and expose people face to face; Finger refers to people, with toes, shaking hands has become a bow and scrape begging; When you don't keep your promise, you procrastinate everywhere. This has done great harm to personal image, and also hindered the development of their own and departmental undertakings.

It is generally believed that these are just some details and details, which are not harmful to elegance. But as it turns out, it is often these sections that determine the success or failure of things and careers and distinguish people's civilized education level.

Story: A boss advertised for a handyman for the company. About 30 people came to apply. The boss chose a boy from among them. His partner asked him, "Why did you single out this boy?" He didn't bring a letter of introduction and no one recommended him. ""In fact, he brought a lot of letters of introduction. "The boss said," When he entered the door, he wiped off the soil at the door and closed the door after entering the door, which shows his carefulness. When he saw the lame old man, he immediately got up and gave up his seat, which showed that he was kind-hearted and concerned about others. When he entered the office, he first took off his hat. When I asked him to sit down, he thanked me before sitting down. I asked him a few questions, and he answered simply and neatly, which shows that he is a polite and educated person. Also, I deliberately put today's newspaper on the ground, and other candidates either passed by or didn't respond when they saw it. Only he bent down to pick up the newspaper and put it on the table. Besides, although he is not well dressed, he is clean and tidy. Not only did he comb his hair neatly, but he also trimmed his nails neatly. For such a young man, don't you think he didn't bring the right letter of introduction? I believe that doing odd jobs is only the beginning for him, and his future will be bright. "

The great writer Cervantes said, "Politeness costs nothing, but it is more valuable than anything else." . Some etiquette forms seem simple, just a smile, a thank you and a little effort, but this humble performance may become a magic weapon for us to stand on the world. For example, at the job fair, college students who are elegant in speech, well-dressed, dignified in appearance, generous in manners and personable are more favored by employers.

By learning etiquette, you can improve your moral cultivation and civilization, and better show your elegant demeanor and good image. A polite and well-spoken person will feel like a spring breeze all his life and will be respected and praised by people. In addition, he is a spring breeze, bringing warmth and joy to others and society. Etiquette education is an important part of cultivating successful people, and its role is irreplaceable by other forms.

If a person can understand and use the etiquette knowledge of different occasions, he can more easily mingle with the people he contacts, make them feel more cordial and natural, and feel your familiarity, understanding and respect for them, so as to treat you as one of his own and be willing to accept and approach you. John Locke, a great British philosopher, believes that the function of etiquette is to "make him respect others and get along with others", which will be of great benefit to him in the future. With this small achievement, he can have wider channels and more friends, and his attainments in this world can be higher than the profound words or real knowledge he has learned from profound art, tutors and encyclopedias. Etiquette itself, as a special key to interpersonal relationship, can easily open the door to various communication activities. That's why I say "Good manners bring good prospects". Politeness travels around the world.