Is life too stressful for men?

I'm talking about the main responsibility, not all. The pressure of life is too great for anyone to bear, especially without any background and help from parents.

There are too many trivial things in life, such as money, rice, oil and salt, educating children, caring for the elderly, promotion, family planning, future direction, quality of life, friends and relatives, relationship maintenance and so on. Wait, there are too many things to consider. When instinctive women do so much, it is difficult to devote themselves to their work, which leads to less room for promotion. Should men take the initiative to support their families at this time?

To tell the truth, these ten years of marriage are really tiring, without any background or help from parents. At first, I thought this person was very practical, liked by his parents and close to home, so he felt inferior and got along. Before I got married again, I always felt that this person was not satisfied, but I always wondered if there was something wrong with me. I got married with discontent and suspicion. Getting married, buying a house, having children, confinement, sending children to school, moving their registered permanent residence, going to primary school, giving birth to a second child, changing rooms for the sake of a good education for children, etc. In my opinion, except for the second child, he decided to stay, and the others were not planned by him, but led by him. To outsiders, this man is so excellent that his wife always criticizes him. However, only I know how bad this person is to me and this family. The family burden is getting heavier and heavier, the children are getting bigger and bigger, the elderly are getting older and older, the pressure of mortgage is getting bigger and bigger, and our physical condition is getting worse and worse. He is over 40, and I am almost 40. The only constant is his life. Every night, he downloads many movies on his mobile phone. When he went out at 6:30 in the morning, he put headphones in his ears. He turned on the mobile phone movie and got home at 9: 30 in the evening. When I came back, I put my headphones on my ears and started eating while watching movies. Occasionally go to the company for one day on weekends, every month 1 10,000, and so on. Like a pulled donkey. The mortgage is 9000 yuan, the boss's education, the second child's milk powder diapers, life, family chores, the older one is my daughter, my grandmother has never brought it, because he worked in a foreign country for three years at that time, so the basic boss is that I ask my aunt in the community to help me pick it up, and I send it when I go to work. So when I gave birth to the second child, I agreed that someone would bring it, but no one would bring it, so it was impossible to take it home. Finally, it was agreed that the old man would take care of the second child for three years, go to kindergarten and go home, and the old man would go home soon. I have to go out at 7 o'clock at work, and my second child hasn't found someone to pick up the plane. I discussed with him that he would give it to the boss, who was only in his early 10, and there were many cars downstairs. I don't think it's safe. After all, he is still a child in his early 10. When it rains, the boss can. From then on, he didn't speak and didn't have any thoughts. He asked her again, forcing him to find a way, saying that he said I didn't agree with the way, so he didn't have a good way. There is nothing to talk about with him about this problem unless I find a way to solve it myself. He doesn't object, but he can't make some changes or sacrifices. All the problems between us are like this when we can't talk properly, so many times, he basically doesn't participate in many things, because everything is discussed with him, but his opinion is not adopted, because it is really his opinion when he can't make sacrifices and changes. He would rather put the risk on his children than let himself bear a little.

I earn about the same as him. I was a little more than him in the first 2.3 years. Because of his betrayal during that time, my personal status fell to a low point, which led to a complete failure of my work, a crisis with my leader, and my work could not go on. Resignation and adjustment work at home 1 month. Because of old age, it is difficult for the epidemic to find a job. In my present job, it's a little less than before, just like him.

At this time, communicate with him and let him bear the burden of supporting his family. Forced him to be a little enterprising, make progress, and use the time of watching movies to improve himself. In case of his middle-aged crisis and unemployment, he can have another chance, but after countless disappointments, he has no choice but to communicate again and fail again. But you can't despair. He thinks that bringing home the bacon should be shared by two people, and I agree. I said that there are too many housework and housework, and I have already undertaken most of them. Should he undertake more financially, or at least be able to support his family? Then he asked me, what do I think is the ability to support my family? I asked him, our current situation, the average household expenditure is around 20,000 per month, and we can give our family 1.8 million per month. At least the most basic mortgage and life can be met, but he thinks it is not. He thought he could do it at 1.8 million per month. I travel every once in a while, but she doesn't believe me when I say I have no extra money. I always feel that it is not arranged. I told her about the mortgage, the children's interest classes, the second child's milk powder diapers, clothes and toys, the boss's study materials, pen and ink, property management, water, electricity and gas, home insurance, and so on, and he stopped talking. I don't know whether to believe it or not. In a word, silence is the only way to deal with anything. The same account is repeatedly discussed every once in a while, which is really speechless. This kind of life really bothers me. I'm already a disgruntled woman, and I really don't want to live like this.

Countless times, I have thought about divorce and getting rid of this person's living environment. Before the betrayal, I just felt that although this person had no skill, he was not worried, at least his character was ok. It is fate that parents work hard for their children.

After the betrayal, he made up his mind to divorce, but he didn't want to leave anyway. I don't want to go to court Everyone knows that children are in their teens and don't want to be laughed at. I hope to be with him and divorce peacefully, but the children still have to be raised together. He didn't want to, until now.

Actually, I think about it myself. Divorce is not the best solution, because I really can't afford two children. Even if he doesn't worry about anything, even if his contribution to the family is only 9 thousand, it is better than nothing. The divorce went well, but it is also true that life can't go on. Without his thousands of dollars, we really can't eat. We want to sell the house. Our children have no place to study. There is no house when I go back to my hometown. Besides, I finally got out. I really don't want my children to be left behind. I can't eat and sleep every day, and now my stomach is very serious. The future life feels dark, but I can't give up. The second child is only 3 years old. What if I give up on them?

At sixes and sevens, I really want to sleep, and I can't sleep all night tonight, so I still want to consult netizens online to see what others think. Can you find some breakthroughs to change the status quo?