What if my mother-in-law cares too much?

? My husband and I got married last year 1 1 month. They met on a blind date and got along well! Before getting married, my husband said to me, "There is no hurry to get married. We'll have a wedding when you decide! " ! I think my husband respects me, but I can't help my parents urging me to get married.

? After marriage, I also feel that I am still young to develop my career first, and I am not in a hurry to have children, and my in-laws are not born. I think married life is also quite smooth! But last June+February, 5438, an unexpected pregnancy was found. At that time, the whole family was very happy and looked forward to the arrival of new members, but after going to the hospital for examination, they found that the child was biochemical pregnant! This matter is very depressing for me, a sentimental person, and I always feel that I have not paid attention to it! Later, my husband always comforted me and adjusted my state of mind. We also postponed having a baby according to the doctor's advice! I'm still very happy when I come back from the review, and there is nothing wrong with my health. The doctor also said that this biochemistry is just like my menstrual delay, and everything is normal. When I got home, my mother-in-law was at home. I am very happy to share this with her. As soon as I entered the door, I found that she had washed all my shoes, leaving only a pair of autumn shoes! I was a little angry at that time. The weather in June+February in 5438 was a little cold. I think these shoes are definitely not warm, some shoes can't be washed with wet water, and some snow boots worn in winter are soaked, so the weather at that time can't be dry for four or five days! My mother-in-law looked at these shoes and gave me the answer: "This child is like sitting in a small confinement. You can't wear hard-soled shoes, so I'll wash all your shoes! " ! I thought she meant well and didn't say anything, so I went into the room to rest. When I entered the room, I was about to put the medical records and checklists from the hospital into the locked drawer of the wardrobe. When I opened the drawer, I found that all the jewelry I bought when I got married was gone, even a box of coins I put in was gone! I was shocked at that time and ran out to tell my husband if there was a thief at home. All the jewels in my drawer are gone! Just after that, my mother-in-law came to answer the phone and said, "How did you put the jewelry there? What if it is stolen by a thief? I cleaned it for you today. I saw it and put it away for you. It's in the top cupboard in the kitchen. If you want to wear it, just tell me and I'll bring it to you! At the moment, I feel extremely angry. No one knows about the jewels in my drawer except my husband. My mother-in-law can't find the drawer without opening my wardrobe, let alone opening my clothes to find the jewelry inside! Considering my husband, I didn't lose my temper on the spot. Back in my room, I told my husband that I couldn't accept this behavior. Before I got married, my mother would tell me when she came into my room to get something. If she is cleaning, she won't touch anything in my room, let alone put it in a relatively hidden position! I think my mother-in-law doesn't respect my privacy! My husband has been comforting me and coaxing me, saying that he would tell her mother-in-law that her living habits are different and she needs to adjust! I don't want to fight either. I didn't make a big deal out of it, but I never mentioned wearing accessories!

You can't rest at home during the epidemic. My mother-in-law knocks at 6: 30 every morning to wake us up for breakfast. Every meal will make me eat more, saying that I am too thin and have no nutrition, so I should take good care of myself! I didn't feel anything at first, thinking about my mother-in-law's concern. Then one day, my husband and mother-in-law were cooking in the kitchen. I was packing in the living room and heard her mother-in-law say to her husband, "Aren't you going to have children?" I've been resting and recuperating for months. Let your daughter-in-law eat more, but she can't eat any more. How can you raise a child without nursed back to health? And you have to lose weight! I'm also sensitive to this. It feels like I'm usually told to eat more and recuperate just to have a baby! That night, my husband and I raised the question of having children. He didn't say her mother-in-law's exact words, but said that her parents-in-law are old and want to have grandchildren, so we should satisfy their wishes! Actually, it's quite uncomfortable. I didn't respond to him and didn't want to talk to him. Later, I made a video with my parents. My mother said I had to understand them. I must have had this idea when I was old ... and my parents advised me a lot. I want children. Let it be!

After the epidemic, I began to return to work. There are many things at work. I go out early and come back late every day! I feel that my life is also very fulfilling. My husband said that I feel much better! However, it didn't take long for me to return to work. It's a pity that the place where I work has to be demolished and closed for one year because of construction needs! The company also arranged other positions for employees' reference, but none of them were satisfactory. After the handover, I resigned and went home, and decided to find a new job!

On the third day after leaving home, I received a phone call from the property manager, and our wedding room was ready to be handed over (we lived with our parents-in-law all the time when we got married, and the new house said we could hand over the house on New Year's Day because the epidemic was postponed). We are still very happy, and we will discuss the decoration with our husband after all the formalities are completed! Before getting married, my mother-in-law said that they would pay for the renovation of the new house with us. After completing the formalities, I also mentioned this to my husband. At dinner, my mother-in-law also took the initiative to talk about the decoration. "House decoration, we out of the 80000. I think it should be enough for you to decorate, and you don't have to pay, let alone install it very well, not bad! " Hearing this, the husband replied with a smile: "The suite is more than 90 square meters, and it is still a blank room. You said that 80,000 pieces can be packaged, so the materials used are not particularly good! " My mother-in-law doesn't believe me, and she has been clamoring for 80 thousand pieces to be packed, so much is enough! My father-in-law and husband have been telling her that the price is not suitable, and this matter has never been mentioned!

Because there are many people who hand over the house for decoration, good workers have been set by other families. We want to decorate ourselves. Comparing the wages of workers, we said to wait for a while before loading. We think that even if the decoration technology is not in place, the money is wasted! When my mother-in-law asked about the decoration, she also explained the situation to her. My husband and I both said that the renovation would be delayed for a while! The next morning, my husband and I both received a phone call from my mother-in-law, asking which wall to hit and which wall to build on the floor plan (I asked my mother and uncle to design the floor plan, with some twists and turns in the middle). My husband and I were puzzled and asked each other if anyone had told her to start construction. The answer is that we didn't mention it. By the time we drove to the new house, she had found someone to break the wall and put three walls together? It takes 1.200 yuan to remove the balcony door. I asked a friend of ours who bought a house together. She told me that the price is expensive, and the same apartment in their house only costs 800 yuan. I didn't tell my mother-in-law I think if I tell her, my mother-in-law will feel cheated and feel very uncomfortable. My husband knew about it, and everyone tacitly didn't tell my mother-in-law. On the day of tearing down the wall, at dinner, my mother-in-law and father-in-law arranged for him to do water and electricity decoration, let an acquaintance install floor tiles, and let her husband's uncle make carpentry cabinets ... My father-in-law retorted that he had no time recently, so he had to postpone the arrangement for a while, and told his mother-in-law that the person who installed floor tiles had no time, and now his salary was high ... My opinion at that time also said that it was useless to delay, and she agreed! As a result, the next day she went out to inquire and contacted several people, and others agreed to help, but the salary was higher than usual 10 ~ 30 yuan. After she came back, she told me these things. At that time, my father-in-law objected and said, "These people are not good at craftsmanship. No one dares to use it, it's all your contact! " The mother-in-law felt embarrassed by her father-in-law's words, so they quarreled. After the husband said that both of them were, he stopped and agreed to wait for a while before decorating!

The next day, my husband had a rest, and we discussed going to see the furniture and appliances together, so that the size of water, electricity and woodworking decoration could be maintained. At lunch, my mother-in-law received a phone call from her husband and aunt! My aunt bought a house for her long-married daughter. My aunt said that she would give carpentry to her uncle for decoration, and her daughter didn't want them to quarrel. Later, I asked my uncle's son-in-law, and he said, "You'd better find someone to take the cupboard yourself. You want me to pretend to be a father-in-law, and then I will probably wipe my ass and waste materials. " Aunt and mother-in-law called to ask her mother-in-law what to do. I feel that my husband's uncle is doing this. I'm afraid my uncle will have an idea if I don't ask him for help. My mother-in-law didn't give a reply, saying that she wouldn't participate in housework.

? Hearing this, the husband asked his mother-in-law, "What do you think of this matter? Don't you want my uncle to help decorate? Now you hear that many people don't want him to do carpentry because of his poor workmanship. Do you think we should let him do it? " "If you don't let him do it, you will give the money to others, whether east or west. Why not give it to acquaintances? " The mother-in-law retorted. "So you mean, you have to let big uncle to hit the cabinet, right? Maybe you should ask him to do it, too? " My husband was a little angry when he said this! Then he said, "Let's start! I don't want to take care of this house. If you want to arrange an acquaintance to decorate, go and find an acquaintance to install it. You are looking for unreliable acquaintances, don't waste a lot of materials? " "That if you don't let big jiu hit the cabinet, he can't do this line. What will people say when they come out? His nephew asked him to help him. Does he have anything else to do? " My mother-in-law was also very excited about this matter, and her husband went on to say, "What if it doesn't work? Do you want him to change it or not? Uncle is quite old, and you don't have to go out to work! " Mother-in-law stood up and said, "I can't do this yet." It's not that my uncle didn't help others make cabinets, so it's hard for others to say. " If you can't install it properly, give him some cabinets. "My husband is angry and stands up to refute. I took him by the hand and said, "Mom, I know what you mean! Even if it's not installed, we just take money to buy human feelings, right! "Mother-in-law nodded and her husband walked away angrily. They didn't speak!

Another day passed, and my husband said he would come back late at night after working overtime. When eating, my mother-in-law said to me, "If you don't want your uncle to install the cupboard for you, let him open the door!" " ! I told him that now that the doors at home are all installed, there is no need to invite workers alone. My mother-in-law argued for a long time, and finally broke the jar and said, "Anyway, you don't want my uncle to help you smash the cabinet, just buy some cigarettes, wine and fruit milk and tell him." Give him three or four hundred dollars to rest when he is old, and then you can find someone to install it. " Then I added, "I'll say it again. If you don't want your uncle to hit the cabinet, you must do so! " I answered slowly: "I am optimistic about how to decorate the cabinets of my sister's daughter's house for our reference!" " Don't rush to decorate for the time being, maybe just leave it! "She didn't speak. When my husband came home from work at night, I told him what my mother-in-law told me. I said that buying tobacco, alcohol and fruit in this way is almost a salary, and you have to pay extra. I can't accept this practice! At some point, my husband and I had an argument. My husband said I was too entangled. Forget about this decoration, let my mother-in-law do it. If she can't live independently, we won't go. But I think it's a waste, a waste of materials and a bad relationship. My husband said that I can't tell my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law is very stubborn. She said that if she wants to eat money, she won't interfere, and she knows that there is something wrong with her idea! My husband comforted me for a long time, and I didn't struggle. Up to now, none of us has mentioned the decoration. It's been more than a month since I hit a wall. Every time my mother-in-law mentions her husband, she will say that the house should not move, or reply that you can do whatever you want. It doesn't matter!

Now she will ask me not to look for a job from time to time, and arrange home decoration during this time! However, there were not many responses to her. Many acquaintances will tease her when they see her and say, "Didn't you say that you will decorate the house when you get it?" Will this wall stop moving when it is smashed? "She just replied," Our children don't want to pretend. They don't want to start work now if I give money, saying that the salary is expensive, wait a minute! "

? I don't understand why she is willing to participate in many things and even help us make decisions. Sometimes I want to tell her that she is old and thinks differently. Sometimes she can't participate in worrying and operating the whole thing! Sometimes taking care of too much is really a headache!