Property contempt

There is a classic poem in Pipa: I want to shine on the moon and the moon shines on the ditch. The fallen petal intentionally follows the flowing water, and the flowing water has no beloved fallen petal.

I am kind to you, but you are indifferent and ungrateful, that is, your sincere efforts have not been rewarded and respected.

In daily life, when we recognize and like a person, we will naturally give everything to him, hoping that the other person can feel our sincerity. However, people can't get along with each other, especially if you meet some unintentional people. No matter what you do to them, it's all in vain. He doesn't take your kindness seriously, and even looks down on you.

When your hot face sticks to your cold ass, you should stop in time and stop trampling on your dignity, especially the following three things, which are not worth doing.

When someone asks you for help, you agree to the other person's request without hesitation. Don't think this kind of thing is the most generous behavior. In fact, in the eyes of others, your help will be considered cheap and unequal.

In Standing at Thirty, Zhong is a property manager, but in the department, she is a "fire extinguisher" and goes to put out the fire wherever it catches fire. Every day, after her first step into the company, voices calling for her came from every corner of the office, "Qin Xiao, the coffee machine is broken again, please fix it", "Qin Xiao, the printer is stuck, come and fix it", "Qin Xiao, do you have a needle and thread? Lend it to me " ...

Every time I hear a colleague's call, the simple and kind clock always responds "coming", "happy" and "coming right away" at the first time. She has been helping her colleagues with housework until the chair is hot. She seems to be spinning like a top.

Just because you meet other people's demands the first time doesn't mean you are warm-hearted. Kindness just means that you are cheap.

You know, people get along with each other and pay attention to mutual benefit. I help you when you are in trouble, and you help me when I am in trouble. This kind of equivalent exchange is valuable. But when you help others blindly and help them solve their difficulties at the first time, when this becomes a habit, it is easy to get used to each other for granted. When you don't help him one day, you will be accused and condemned. You are kind to others, but you are not taken seriously. It's a hot face and a cold ass.

There is a kind of person who is more emotional. When others complain to him and vent their frustration, their mood will be liberated. However, he just kept it in his heart for a long time and could not calm it down. He also gave too much advice to others, making the parties feel that they were making a mountain out of a molehill.

Li Zhen, a friend, had a problem with her boyfriend and found Chen Mei. Chen Mei bears a grudge against Li Zhen. She thinks her boyfriend is cruel and tells the truth that he is love rat. Li really didn't expect Chen Mei to be more excited than herself.

Since complaining to Chen Mei, Li Zhen's mood has been much relaxed, and she has slowly made up with her boyfriend after returning home. But this matter has been put in Chen Mei's heart and cannot be erased. She couldn't avoid being bullied by her good friend, so she thought of many ways to uphold justice for her friend.

She asked Li Zhen to teach her boyfriend a good lesson and took the opportunity to run away from home to make him angry. But seeing Li Zhen and her boyfriend reconciled, Chen Mei felt that Li Zhen was too independent and principled, and always criticized her for not being too weak. Li Zhen thinks that Chen Mei has gone too far, and she can solve her own problems. How can it be her turn? Besides, living a good life is a matter for couples, and it is unreasonable for outsiders to intervene.

Because Chen Mei's "enthusiasm" suffocated Li Zhen, they fell out.

As the old saying goes, don't persuade others to be good without others' suffering. If you are not a party, you naturally don't understand the party's ideas, so don't impose your ideas on others, which will only make people feel very disgusted. Originally, you hit people too hard, which led to self-defeating and annoying. It's really not worth doing.

Around us, I believe everyone has experienced this feeling: in the eyes of others, it doesn't matter, but now you are more anxious than others. As the saying goes, the emperor is not in a hurry and the parties are not nervous. On the contrary, if you care too much about other people's affairs, you will only cause dissatisfaction in the end.

My cousin is going to buy a house in the suburbs. After hearing this, relatives and aunts all thought that my cousin thought it was too serious. Because my cousin works in the city center, it is more convenient to buy a house near the city center. But my cousin doesn't have much savings on hand, so he can barely pay the down payment for a house in the suburbs. Cousin stamped her feet in a hurry and bluntly said, you will regret it in five years.

My cousin thinks my aunt is worried about it. If she is so nervous, she might as well pay for it and help herself. My cousin also consciously took out 300,000 yuan to lend him a down payment, hoping that he would buy a house in the urban area.

After the down payment, my cousin endured great pressure to repay the mortgage. Later, because of job transfer, my cousin didn't want to work in other cities, so he resigned. He began to blame his cousin for acting on his own initiative. If she hadn't encouraged her cousin to buy a house in the city, she wouldn't be under such great pressure. My cousin reached out to borrow money from her cousin again, but she flinched: I did it for your own good. Finally, you bit me back, which was a baiwenhang.

At this time, it is really fair to say that the old woman is right. Both cousins thought they were cheated by each other, and even their relatives couldn't do it in the end.

Indeed, there will be too many enthusiastic people around us. They like to give advice to others and are too nervous about other people's private affairs. He was the first person to be blamed when something went wrong. We don't have to worry about things that the parties are not anxious about. It's good to meddle. There is no need to mind other people's business, let yourself worry.