Why did you quit your family and friends?

Why did you quit your family and friends?

How many chat groups are there in your mobile phone?

How long has it been since you spoke to your classmates and family?

Why do the closest classmates and family members seldom talk?

Why are groups like parents, property groups and colleagues very active, and everyone is more willing to express their ideas in them?

In fact, there are several life truths hidden behind this: relatives and classmates have no intersection of life, and the acquaintance relationship is also cold; On the contrary, the relationship between "strangers" related to their work and life is getting warmer and warmer.

To sum up in the words of our ancestors, all the noise in the world is for profit, and all the noise in the world is for profit.

People are profit-seeking animals, and everyone in the world is running for profit and a better life.

That's understandable.

It is in this context that more and more people quietly quit their former classmates and family groups dominated by emotions.

However, the specific reasons need specific analysis, and I will give you some thoughts.

Three reasons for quitting the league are for your reference.

1, I don't want to be disturbed by messy news, so I quit the group. Have you noticed that when I first started to build a classmate group and a family group, everyone chatted happily and exchanged feelings? But when there is nothing to say later, people in the group will send all kinds of messy news from time to time.

Netizen b also said: I feel that the classmate group is just a form without classmates. Now there are only all kinds of advertisements and all kinds of voting praises left in the classmates. Why don't you take a step back and leave some memories?

I don't want to be disturbed by all kinds of messy news, which may be the most important reason why many people voluntarily quit the group!

2. I didn't mix well and felt inferior, so I quit the league. If today's class reunion is all about showing off by comparison, mixing well and mixing well at the same table, and mixing poorly and mixing poorly at the same table, then we can also imagine: Is the class full of all kinds of flattery? Those young and promising leaders, such as section chiefs, are getting bigger and bigger. Will saying something casually be regarded as the truth by many people?

And those students who are mixed up in general say something, and no one responds to him.

. You said it was embarrassing!

As the saying goes: money tells the truth, but no money tells lies.

In this way, students will only make those students who don't mix well feel inferior, so they gradually alienate everyone and silently quit their classmates.

This is also an old saying: don't talk lightly, don't persuade others, people are too poor to enter the public, which is very heartfelt and realistic.

For example, helping to vote, helping to buy train tickets, helping to bargain, crowdfunding sick news, getting married, selling goods by a merchant, forwarding negative energy articles and videos, and so on. This group chat has become a variety of advertisements flying all over the sky, which makes people upset when they look at it.

When you talk about them, I feel that they are all relatives and classmates. I am afraid that I will hurt them and I can't open my mouth. If you hold your tongue, you will be repeatedly disturbed and your internal injuries will be suppressed.

As a result, you finally realized a truth: out of sight, out of mind, different circles, there is no need to force integration!

Everyone has different qualities and cognitive levels. We can't change others, but we can change ourselves-take the initiative to quit the group, stay away from the messy news in the group, and lead a totally clean life.

Netizen a said: that classmate group pops up several messages every day, either bargaining or canvassing, and occasionally there is a funny video or joke. I was in that group. I didn't speak for two years and finally chose to quit.

What about relatives? In fact, just like the students, they all do well in prosperity and do poorly in cold.

Netizen c said:

Relatives are really boring. Usually nothing happens. Whenever there is movement, they are showing off their wealth. Several years have passed, and they have not said more than ten sentences in it, and they have been in an uninterrupted state. Just a few days ago, they finally got up the courage to quit the group! Everybody relax!

For thousands of years, human nature has been the same: the rich have distant relatives in the mountains, and the poor live in downtown areas and no one cares.

It can be seen that relatives are also poor and do not love wealth, and there is also a phenomenon of comparing and showing off wealth.

However, these behaviors will invisibly hurt many people's fragile hearts and make them feel more inferior.

In this way, it is only a matter of time before they quit the league!

3, the three views do not agree, and have been hurt by people in the group. Therefore, there is a saying that if you quit the group, you will lose. There are many people. Therefore, the ancients advocated: live in groups and keep your mouth shut.

However, group chatting violates this principle of life. If everyone gossips in the group, it is naturally difficult to agree. The last few people may quarrel because of the disagreement between the three views, so the relationship will break down. I remember that in a classmate group, one classmate forwarded an article and another classmate raised an objection, so the two began to comfort each other at length, and the classmate group became a place for them to chat alone.

Finally, the group owners come out to mediate, make them pay attention to peace, and remind everyone not to post controversial articles in the future.

Not long after, the students who forwarded the article automatically retired from the group.

After this incident, the classmates became quieter and quieter, and few people spoke.

Later, it was found that the number of people in the group was decreasing.

Later, I also found this classmate group boring, so I simply quit the group.

These are all in response to Zhuangzi's words: It's better to forget each other than to feel sorry for each other.

The netizen said: junior high school students, team leaders and squad leaders hope that everyone can talk more every day and deepen their feelings, and also call on everyone to get together often. I took it seriously at that time and had nothing to say in the group. Later, the monitor was the first to say: Are you bored? Just because this sentence hurt me, I immediately quit the group.

Let me cite another thing that happened to me: one year, my sister said it was my birthday at home, and I thought it was inappropriate at that time, for fear of disturbing everyone. But what I didn't expect was that all my relatives didn't respond all day, not even a "happy birthday". It's really embarrassing.

Since then, I have stopped talking in this family group, because I know my weight in their hearts through this incident, and I will not be cut off. However, due to feelings, I have not quit this family group so far.

I also heard a netizen say that he wished everyone a happy holiday among his classmates, but no one answered him in the end. He was very sad and chose to quit the group.

It can be seen that everyone is an adult and has different views. If we have to be together, it is very easy to have differences and hurt some people invisibly. Because of being hurt, it is enough to take care of it once, which is also the third real reason why some people voluntarily quit the group!

Perhaps, those who voluntarily quit their classmates and family groups can comfort themselves with some words: a gentleman is harmonious but different; It is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes; Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.

However, they can't erase the pain in their hearts after all:

Why are the feelings of classmates and relatives "stale" in the Internet age?

Why were all the good things once "things are different"?

As the ancients lamented in the poem: If life is just like the first sight, the autumn wind doesn't have to draw a fan. It is easy to change, and it is also easy to change.

Perhaps, it is not that the ancients changed too fast, but that we can't keep pace with the changes of the times, because the only constant in the world is change.

We are still looking at people and things with old eyes, which will naturally hurt our feelings.

To sum up, more and more people voluntarily quit their classmates and family groups, which is actually a last resort. The real reason behind it is very sincere and realistic.