The daughter-in-law wants to buy a house, and the mother-in-law doesn't borrow a penny. The reason is very good. Daughter-in-law cannot argue. Why?

In today's society, the importance of a house to a family is self-evident. When a family lives together, only when they are sure to own a house can they feel safe from the heart. Besides, the young couple must want to enjoy their own world. They have been living with their parents-in-law. In any case, there will be cases that they don't handle. The closer they get, the more contradictions they have. Whether for the quality of life or for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should go out to live and buy a house by yourself. Judging from the reality, it is difficult for young couples to complete the task of buying a house, and most of them need the help of their elders. However, some mothers-in-law are unwilling to help this, and they will have their own seemingly reasonable reasons. Lolo's mother-in-law, that's it.

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For Lolo, she never thought that she would live with her mother-in-law one day, because in her impression, her mother-in-law and herself and her husband are completely in life, and there should not be too much overlap. Even if it's nothing particularly serious, it's enough to meet only on holidays. Of course, the ideal is full, but the reality is very skinny. The first condition for going out to live by yourself is that you have enough financial ability to bear the down payment and subsequent expenses of the house.

Mortgage and property management fees are not small expenses for the newly married Luo Luo couple. If the salary is used in this respect, the quality of life of two people will be greatly reduced. The only solution is to live with my mother-in-law. Of course, before getting married, her mother-in-law knew Lolo's worry, so she also agreed that she would do her best to help buy a house after getting married.

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After three years of marriage, Lolo and her husband have a little savings. As long as their mother-in-law can give them a little support, they can go out to buy a house and have their own two-person world. They don't have to be so stiff as they are now, but their mother-in-law's attitude has changed a hundred and eighty degrees. Not only did she not support this decision, but she even said that Lolo and her son were unfilial and thought about running away every day, regardless of her feelings, which made her particularly sad and disappointed.

Mother-in-law said, the family lives together, can take care of each other, can see each other every day, how happy ah, we get along very well. If you want to move out, what's the use of my hard work to raise my son? No one was around to take care of me when I was sick, and no one came to talk to me when I was unhappy. What is the role of this son?

Therefore, the mother-in-law did not support her son and daughter-in-law to buy a house and did not provide the necessary help.

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Lolo and her mother-in-law think differently. She thinks it is inevitable that her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will quarrel when they live under the same roof. Such a quarrel will not only confuse right and wrong, but also be detrimental to the continuation of the relationship. It will only make two people more and more unhappy, and it is difficult to continue a happy life. But my mother-in-law just thinks it's nothing. And my mother-in-law thinks that my money will be yours in the future and my house will be yours in the future. This is inseparable from each other. It's not like our house can't accommodate you. Isn't it good for everyone to live together? Why do you have to move out?

Although it sounds reasonable, Lolo remembered her promise before marriage and asked her mother-in-law, but you promised to buy us a house. Even if you don't buy it for us, can you lend us some money? Or, what you said before was all a lie?

Although my mother-in-law was a little at a loss, she still insisted: Of course it's not a lie! The point is, if I hadn't said that, you wouldn't have got married! It is better to be considerate of each other. What's wrong with you living with us?

Lolo really understood at this time. My mother-in-law never thought about buying a house for herself from the beginning. So it's just a delaying tactic.

[Conclusion] Daughter-in-law wants her own house, because it means she has started her own life. Before she got married, her mother-in-law's words were generally regarded as promises. Now when she is ready to fulfill them, she has changed her mind. She had to say it was a joke and find various reasons to defend herself. This kind of behavior will seriously damage the daughter-in-law's heart, her mother-in-law's status, and even affect their trust.

If the mother-in-law doesn't have this plan at all, then she shouldn't give the daughter-in-law this hope from the beginning, give her hope first, and then let her down. The negative energy brought by this behavior is immeasurable. The daughter-in-law wants to buy a house, but what she gets is the result of her mother-in-law's reneging. Through this matter, you can see through your mother-in-law In her later life, be more vigilant, don't trust her easily, or realize that you can only rely on yourself in this life, others are unreliable, and there will always be a day to escape betrayal. Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no need to make it so complicated. It is enough for two people to be honest. Instead of doing so many tricks, it will eventually go away. It is better to come straight to the point and tell her the truth from the beginning, so that this situation will not develop.