Bow your head and enter the game

Put yourself into the game, that is, you must put yourself into it and turn yourself into a key variable to solve problems, so as to grasp the general direction of your career.

The first part of Zeng Guofan's "Introduction to the Court Classics" tells such a story:

An old man came to a guest and wanted to keep the guest for dinner. The old man told his son to go to the market to buy food and wine. But seeing that it was almost noon and his son hadn't come back, the old man was very anxious and went to see it himself.

As a result, the old man found his son standing face to face with a man who carried the burden of Beijing goods on a water ridge, and both of them were unwilling to give in and were deadlocked there.

The old man hurried forward and said, "Brother, I have guests at home waiting for these tables and drinks. Please move into the paddy field and let him come over so that you can pass. "

The man said tit for tat, "you and I will let him go to the field." Why not let him go? "

The old man said, "My son is short. If you go down to the field, food and wine will enter the water. Brother, you are tall, and your goods won't get wet. Please go down to the field. "

The old man's reason is good, but the man won't let him, because his son's burden is light and his burden is heavy and expensive.

The old man couldn't convince the man, so he said, "Well, let the old man let me go down to the field, and I'll put it on your head so that you can't touch the water, so you can pass by my son empty-handed, and I'll pay you back the burden."

The man felt bad when he saw an old man like this, so he said, "Don't bother, Lao Zhang, I'm going to the paddy field." Then I went to the paddy field to make way for the old man's son, and the matter was solved satisfactorily.

This is a story in the Court Classics. Zeng Guofan said from the perspective of "entering the game" that only by devoting himself wholeheartedly to the game can he succeed. Li Hongzhang told this story to his aides, and an aide named Wu Yong (Ceng Jize's son-in-law, Guo Fan's eldest son, and Zeng Guofan's granddaughter's son-in-law) said, "Ceng Gong said it well, and it was useless to shout outside. You must bow your head and enter the game, and you are quite responsible, but you can achieve something. "

So what does this story tell us?

(1) is the key to enter the game.

There is a popular saying on the Internet, "Why do we understand that, but we still have a hard time?" In the final analysis, devoting yourself to the game is the key, and taking action and putting yourself in the other's shoes is the key to making your life better. It is useless to just shout slogans and pour chicken soup on yourself, which will only make you more wronged.

(2) Hold on when something happens

Don't flinch when you meet something, don't give up like the old man's son and a peddler. If you encounter something like the old man, try to solve it actively, and don't forget the purpose, don't forget your active mind, you will be able to find a solution by devoting yourself to the game. The "pavilion" of the old man is different from that of a peddler. He is both rigid and flexible, which is the wisdom of dealing with people.

(3) Take a step back and broaden your horizons.

From the vendor's point of view, taking a step back also achieved your goal. Although not everyone is happy, at least the goal has been achieved. So, when you really can't find a solution, take a step back. This is also a kind of "coming forward", oriented towards the ultimate goal, rather than fighting with the old man's son.