How to treat children's "ideals"?

Every child always has various ideals when he is young, such as "I want to be a doctor when I grow up", "I want to fly a plane when I grow up" and "I want to be ……", etc., or when I watch TV, I think this profession is cool and I want to work in this industry in the future, or an elder around me has this idea because he is in this position. In short, children always express their ideals to their parents. Perhaps parents will not take it to heart and think that children are joking, but many times children are very serious and parents should not underestimate them.

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Parents should correctly understand their children's ideals.

1: What is ideal?

In fact, the ideal belongs to one's imagination and can also be called one's goal. It is also an ideal to keep working hard to realize one's own ideal, which makes people insist on doing one thing. People with ideals usually work hard for it and have certain plans for their lives.

2. Children's ideals

Children's ideals also belong to imagination, more precisely, a psychological process, mainly full of hope and longing for the future, with their own emotions. Therefore, most children's ideals contain some fantasy elements. For example, some children tell their parents to open a big supermarket in the future because their parents don't give snacks.

In the sensitive period of children's imagination, with the gradual development of imagination, many ideas about ideals will begin to sprout, and children will begin to know how to distinguish different occupations. However, if it is a mature and realistic ideal or life goal, it will generally gradually form in youth, because at this time, the child's heart is gradually mature and he has a certain understanding of his own abilities. At this time, most of the ideals and goals will be realized through serious efforts.

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How to treat children's ideals?

1: Be practical.

For children of different ages, parents should pay more attention to the ideal problem. Although it may be that young children are not so realistic and unrealistic to talk about their ideals, parents can't ignore them, lest their children have psychological problems and feel that parents don't care about themselves.

Parents should tell their children to be realistic about their ideals. An ideal without reality can only be called fantasy. For example, when a child is worried about doing homework, he says to his parents, "I want to be a teacher in the future and then cancel my homework." "I don't want to do homework in the future, I just want to play computer every day." Then parents need to explain to their children in time how unrealistic and impossible these words are, and at the same time, prevent their children from having such thoughts again.

2. Appropriate support

When children tell their parents their ideals, parents should identify the practicality of their children's ideals themselves. If children's ideals can really be realized in the future, such as wanting to be a painter, pianist, athlete, etc. Then they can support their children. Because this is a child's hobby, parents can send their children to interest classes at this time, because it is very rare for children to have their own hobbies.

However, parents should also distinguish whether their children are impulsive or have learned. For example, if a child tells you today that he wants to be like this and tomorrow that he wants to be like that, then it is actually just an illusion. If children keep repeating their ideals to you, then parents have to pay attention to them. Children are very serious.

3. Help children achieve

For adolescent children, most of their ideals have been thought out, and parents should help them realize them. The so-called help is not to help children reach a certain point directly, but to provide them with ways to achieve it.

For example, if a child says he wants to be a painter, then parents can send their children to an interest class to learn painting, which is a kind of help; It is also helpful to take children to the park to sketch outdoors on weekends;

When a child has his own ideal, it shows that he knows exactly what he is doing and will fight for his ideal. Therefore, parents should support and encourage their children's ideals and help them realize them, instead of directly "killing" or "throwing cold water".