Why are employers so decent and skeptics so nasty in nanny arson?

The male employer in the nanny arson case is decent, and the skeptics eat so badly.

"I have heard a lot of truth, but I still can't live a good life." This is a line from the movie. Drinking a lot of tolerant chicken soup, but still not tolerant, is a portrayal of many realistic people. The attitude of some people towards the families of the victims of nanny arson proves this.

After being questioned about the "sky-high claim", Lin Shengbin, the family member and male employer of the victims, responded in an interview a few days ago. He denied the online rumor that he proposed a compensation plan of "one child is 100 million", saying, "How can I make this request? My wife and children are priceless. " "Four favorite people are gone. What money do I need alone? " On July 12, he also said in Weibo that he decided to set up a public welfare fund with friends to improve the fire prevention and disaster reduction level of high-rise residential buildings in China and promote the domestic industry to improve the nanny selection and management mechanism.

Some netizens said that Lin Shengbin was a rare decent person. For the time being, he deserves such praise. "The world kissed me with pain, and I will repay it with a song." He did what many people didn't do, if it is a proverb.

What is the pain of bereavement? He was also heartbroken in words, but he didn't play the sad card and complain sharply. He didn't indulge in sadness like Xianglinsao's "I'm so stupid, really", but he was modest and restrained in expression, and even though he slandered the current situation, he didn't show anger. Setting up a foundation dedicated to high-level disaster prevention, and seeing the hidden dangers and chronic diseases of the public from personal experience will show their personality thickness.

However, the complaint of the injured party is not the reason why the outside world can muddy or splash dirty water. Compared with his decency, some people's mentality is not only indecent, but even a little dirty. For example, "the man had an affair with the nanny", for example, exaggerating the conclusion that has not been fully confirmed-the victim's family demanded that "a child claim 100 million yuan" and accused him of "eating the blood steamed bread of his relatives" to force him to prove his innocence. These people are either spectators who don't care much about major events, or "pseudo-reasoners" who think the truth is in their hands and shoot arrows of doubt at random.

"Generosity" is a correct value, but in reality, it is always easy to criticize others, and it is too difficult to understand others. It is easy for those who get the pleasure of onlookers from unfounded rumors and doubts, but it is too difficult to be harsh. When they weigh the attention gains corresponding to "harshness" and "understanding", they will ignore the secondary harm that blind doubt may cause to the injured party.

In public opinion events, especially tragic events, the public should have been more generous to the injured party at any time. "No funeral ceremony" should be the same for individuals. We may not be able to hurt or understand people, but we can try not to besiege people with unconfirmed or unconfirmed information to avoid "re-injury".

As far as this incident is concerned, it is reasonable and reasonable for the male employer to ask the property to thoroughly investigate the truth; Even if a claim is made, no matter how high the claim amount is, it is also a claim. Punishing him is a cognitive distortion, and it also loses the minimum humanistic spirit.

Recalling that a debate program once discussed whether the protagonist of a scandal should be abused by thousands of people, the host Ma Dong said, we should not confuse the protagonist of a tragedy with the protagonist of a scandal. At present, there are always people who try to turn the victims of tragedy into the parties to the scandal.

To be sure, the fewer people in this society throw stones at the victims like this, the clearer the public space will be.

People who like to make things out of nothing are hard to change, and they can't hide the goodness of others. Others are not good at joking, and others are jealous when they are better than him. So ignore such people and let them die!