Do you know why Lin Xiaoniang would rather be a rich second generation than a poor wife?

After reading the original "You only know that it should be green, fat, red and thin", the most thought-provoking and touching role is Lin. If she hadn't been too greedy and didn't know how to advance and retreat, her ending would have far surpassed Wang. Aunt Lin used to be a poor young lady of eunuch family. Before she died, Mrs. Lin was worried that her daughter would be neglected and that her wolf-hearted relatives would plot against her, so she entrusted her to Shanda Niang. Mrs. Sheng is kind-hearted, thinking of her boudoir friendship with Mrs. Lin, she took in Mrs. Lin. I have to say that Mrs. Lin has a good eye. At least, her decision changed Aunt Lin's down-and-out life.

Although Mrs. Lin entered as a maid, Mrs. Sheng never treated Mrs. Lin as a maid, teaching her to write and read, playing the piano and flute, just like her own daughter. She also tried to find a good partner for her. Mrs. Sheng was born in Houfu. She grew up in luxury and never experienced human suffering. She often chants in front of Aunt Lin: priceless treasures are easy to find, but lovers are hard to find. Aunt Lin strongly disapproves of this concept of mate selection. This has nothing to do with Aunt Lin's experience. She is afraid of poverty.

When Aunt Lin was 7 years old, her family was ruined, her father went early, and orphans and widows lived alone. Needless to say, it was hard. Mrs. Lin doesn't know how to calculate, so she pawns for a living. Never had a good day. When Aunt Lin was very young, she often listened to her mother chanting. Obviously, she grew up with a big sister. Why do some people wear gold and silver and enjoy the splendor? Others are so poor that even their parents look down upon them. After all, it depends on how you get married. Therefore, when Aunt Lin was very young, she had already thought about who she would marry in the future and what kind of husband she would find.

Obviously, Mrs. Sheng's concept of mate selection runs counter to her idea. She is dependent on others. How can she show her heart, let alone refute it? She can only find a way out by herself. Many people want to know why Aunt Lin insisted on marrying Hong Sheng as a concubine, and left the first wife outside. Even her daughter Moran asked her this question herself. Facts have proved that Aunt Lin's choice is extremely correct. Aunt Lin's first concept of mate selection: material conditions are the basis of a happy marriage.

When Aunt Lin first arrived, she saw exquisite and beautiful gardens, tools and furniture painted with gold and silver, and four-season clothes with satin and down. She has never thought about this problem in her life. There are such rich days and such a pampered life in this world. At that time, she moved her mind and tried to make herself have a place in Fu Sheng. Aunt Lin once calculated that a student can only spend six or seven barrels of rice and one or two yuan a month. Maids in Fu Sheng have eight taels of silver, only one coat is worth fifty taels or sixty taels, and the silver thread burned in the hand stove is 22 taels of silver. With the daily consumption, how many students can afford it?

If you want to talk about affection and righteousness and drink enough, it is the love that only those who are used to a rich life, have their parents behind them and never have to worry about life can pursue. For a weak and helpless woman like her, that kind of marriage pursuit is an extravagant hope and an unreachable dream. She will not pursue a life with only love and no material guarantee. As the saying goes, but unlike those who have been poor together, you can't talk about love when you can't fill your stomach. Aunt Lin's second view of mate selection: Who said that poor children must have good conduct?

Although it is often said in life that only those who have suffered can be considered masters, it is also possible that only inferior people can have to suffer. Aunt Lin is deeply touched by such an incident. Her cousin married such a poor scholar.

My cousin is also counting on the scholar to be admitted once, and then live a good life with his light. But this scholar didn't get into anything, didn't get into the imperial examination, didn't get into business, and relied on his cousin to support him at home and abroad. Cousin worked hard and suffered a lot, and finally saved a few acres of land. If life at home is better, poor scholars will marry a concubine. My cousin refused, so the poor scholar beat and scolded my cousin all day, calling him immoral and almost divorced.

Cousin could only swallow her pride and allow my room to enter the gate, but a few years later, she was so angry that the ending was really tragic! Coincidentally, Sheng Shulan, the daughter of Shengjia Sanfang Shengwei, also married into the lower level. When Sheng Wei was looking for his daughter's husband's family, he met Sun Xiucai because he felt that his family was poor. Sun Xiucai suffered hardships from childhood and was able to make progress. Through hard work, he will have a bright future.

Moreover, Lan Shu brought a generous dowry, bought fields and villages for slips, and even a group of servants were brought by Lan Shu. The purpose is to make Lan Shu cocky in her husband's family, so that bamboo slips can read Lan Shu's good words and be kind to Lan Shu. However, this is a good day for Lan Shu's Sun Xiucai. He drinks and has fun all day, and he has sex with a romantic woman and insists on coming in.

In the end, not only her family came out, but also a "perfect" ending of peaceful separation. Sheng Wei is well-known in the local area and his family is well-off. Shu Lansheng is the first daughter, and the dowry can ensure that her husband's family has no worries, so it is over. Imagine that if Moran married Wen Yanjing, there would be no rich dowry, no concubine's identity, and it would not happen overnight. Really wait until Wen Yanjing is admitted, and the family is rich, and Moran will become a thing of the past. If Wen Yanjing continues to take concubinage, will Mo Ran have a better life? Therefore, Aunt Lin's third concept of mate selection is the most important, that is, it depends on each other's character and ability.

In the society at that time, women depended on men all their lives. If a man is a loser, no matter how strong a woman is, she can't back down. Therefore, Aunt Lin believes that no matter how big or small a husband is, he must be outstanding in character, affectionate and talented, and be able to shelter from the wind and rain at home, so that not only his life can be settled, but also his children can rely on it.

Shengji is such a person.

I have to say that Aunt Lin is very accurate in judging people.

When Aunt Lin first married, Bi Sheng's official position was not big, but he was very self-motivated. In recent years, Bi Sheng has been rolling in the officialdom, although it is not very prominent, but it is also promoted step by step.

Misheng attaches great importance to feelings and justice. He and Aunt Lin read his old love together. Although he has taken a concubine in these years, he has never neglected her, but he loves her very much.

Seeing that Mrs. Lin is not an ungrateful little person, she often threatens "I'd rather give up my first marriage for you than be a concubine". The implication is that after all I have done for you, you can't fail me.

So in these years, she was given land and shops, allowing her to have children. An aunt from humble origins has grace with her first wife. Envy others!

Although a marriage that only pursues material things without paying attention to feelings may not be happy. But if you don't consider material things, just pursue feelings. When one day your feelings are weak, you can't even guarantee your material life. It is best to have material things around you, at least to ensure that your life is worry-free. Although modern women don't have to live entirely by men, their husbands' personality can't be ignored.