13-year-old boy threw oil on the roof and set fire to it: good parents will do these two things when disciplining their children.

Recently, another Xiong Haizi made people angry!

In a residential area in Liuzhou, Guangxi, a 13-year-old boy went to the rooftop with a bucket of gasoline, spilled oil and lit it. The fire spread instantly and smoke billowed.

Some residents immediately responded to the property after discovering the abnormality on the roof.

Fortunately, the property arrived quickly, and the fire was controlled and put out in time, without causing casualties or too much property loss. Otherwise, once the fire spreads, the consequences will be unimaginable.

As soon as the news reached the internet, netizens all fried the pot. Some netizens defended the boy:

"I remember when I was a child, I started to light fires everywhere in autumn. Children are always curious about the world, whether it is good or bad, do it first. "

However, soon someone retorted:

"Didn't mean to play with fire, and arson, the difference is quite big. Children 13 years old, set fire to the roof with flammable materials, which is far beyond the curiosity of children playing with fire ... "

Yes! For most parents, safety education should be taught to children from an early age.

If a child makes a fire and plays when he is a few years old, it can be said that it is unintentional; However, when children are teenagers, they will still set fires for no reason. To some extent, it is a manifestation of "evil".

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"He is still a child, don't let him go."

Remember the case of "Blue Speed Internet Cafe" that happened in Beijing many years ago?

Four minors set fire to revenge for a dispute with the waiter in the Internet cafe. The youngest 13 years old and the oldest 17 years old. They planned together and finally caused a fire. Took 25 young lives and burned 12 people.

Afterwards, except for one child who was exempted from criminal responsibility because he was under the age of 14, the other three were sentenced. When asked if one of them knew how much damage he had caused, he simply said:

I always thought that no matter how many mistakes I made, after all, I was still young and the society should be more tolerant of me.

I thought I could do whatever I wanted because I was young, but I didn't expect to ruin my life by doing something bad once.

Coincidentally. 15 Huidong Yiwu Shopping Mall, a 9-year-old boy was playing with a lighter in front of the store, which suddenly caused the goods to burn. Eventually 17 people died and 1 fire officers and soldiers were seriously injured.

Shopping malls are places where a lot of flammable materials are piled up. You can't see Mars, let alone play with fire. However, the boy turned a blind eye, resulting in heavy losses and family breakdown.

This year, a clothing market in Changshu, Jiangsu Province also burst into flames. After investigation, it turned out to be an 8-year-old boy.

He was in the market, holding a lighter, and lit it three times in a row, lighting different places respectively. I jumped away when I saw the fire.

When the police asked about the cause of arson, it turned out to be: it was funny.

Whether it is the four children of "Blue Speed Internet Cafe" or the other two boys, they regard other people's property and life as trivial matters. This result is worrying, and such a child is also frightening.

No wonder Zheng Zhi, a writer, said in his book Raw Swallow: "The evil of children is pure evil."

We always think that it is normal for children to be naughty, but the fact is that sometimes we really don't know what kind of things they will do.

Behind the reckless evil of children, people are chilling.

Some children are children, and some children are demons.

Once you do something bad, don't let him go just because he is a child. If you don't teach him now, the future society will only give him more severe punishment.

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Behind the child's arson, it stems from the dereliction of duty and indifference of parents.

There is a long-standing proverb in Saint Amethyst: If the son doesn't teach, the father will make a mistake.

If the child makes a mistake, the main responsibility lies with the parents. Or parents are usually negligent in discipline, or there is something wrong with their parenting style. ...

So, what is the reason behind the child's arson?

First of all, parents are usually negligent in discipline.

/kloc-in 0/7, an arson case occurred in Foshan.

The reason is that two children found the neighbor's house unlocked and ran to the second floor to play with his children. When the host motioned them to leave, they ran to the third floor and lit the sponge mat on the ground, causing a fire.

Afterwards, the owner repeatedly claimed compensation from the parents of the two children. One parent told the child that it had nothing to do with the child on the grounds that the child was under 10 years old and the owner failed to fulfill his guardianship obligations, while another parent also argued: "My child is just watching."

Faced with the refusal of two parents to pay compensation, the homeowner had to appeal. In the end, the court ruled that the two children * * * compensated 80,000 yuan, ending.

Many times, parents will think that it is common for children to be naughty and make mistakes.

Although it is a child's nature to make mistakes, once a mistake is made, parents can't turn a blind eye, let alone cover it up. One indulgence may lead to countless mistakes, and children will never know right or wrong in the end.

When I was a child, my classmates also loved to play with fire, and often took a lighter and lit it everywhere. Once, his mother saw it, lit a candle and pulled him aside.

Let him touch the temperature of the fire while ensuring safety. Burning pain and burning sensation swept through, and he jerked his hand out.

With this experience, he never dared to play with fire again.

Parents are the guides of children's growth, and the correct way of parents' discipline plays an important role in children.

If children want to grow up well, they must have management and education.

In addition, there is the problem of family education.

American criminal psychology draws an important conclusion through the study of a large number of criminals, most of whom meet at least two characteristics of bed wetting, arson and cruelty to animals in childhood.

Arson seems to play with fire, but behind it is actually the expression of children's emotions.

Every child has the ability to perceive and experience love. When children grow up, they often get no response, care and companionship from their parents. They will learn to be indifferent from indifferent communication, and even do things including arson or cruelty to small animals.

Therefore, as parents, when children have certain behaviors, they need to observe the reasons behind them. The problem lies with the children or with yourself. Think again.

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It is necessary to give children "nutrition of love" and don't forget to punish them.

When raising children, we tend to go to two extremes.

The first is the so-called happy education. Guided by whether the child is happy or not, let him act according to his own ideas and give him full respect and freedom.

But the result is that because of infinite connivance, children not only don't feel enough care and love from their parents, but also have a great influence on their future growth.

The second is punitive education. Educating a child is like putting a spell on him. You should beat or punish your children from time to time. It seems that punishment can make children progress, and encouragement will only make children proud.

Although punishment is effective in the short term, in the long run, it cannot make children complain as parents wish.

In fact, education has never been a "black and white" process. The best way to educate children is to include discipline in love.

In other words, I will accept and love you wholeheartedly, but at the same time, I will also help you to establish a sense of rules and abide by the boundaries. Only in this way can we establish a good three views from an early age and have a good future.

I watched a foreign video, in which a father took his two daughters to the supermarket, and the younger daughter knocked out the things in the eldest daughter's hand.

When the father saw it, he sternly asked his little daughter to say "I'm sorry".

The youngest daughter doesn't want to lie on the ground and cheat, but her father always asks her to say something calmly and firmly.

Finally, under the guidance of his father, the child finally said these three words.

The father is telling his children with his own practice that mistakes must be admitted and corrected, and no one is an exception.

I believe this experience will make my little daughter know the meaning of apology all her life.

It is human nature that parents are eager to love their children.

However, there is a truth that is often overlooked, and the love of parents is far-reaching.

We should not only ensure the child's safety, let him grow up healthily and happily, but also teach him the running rules and ways of doing things in advance.

This is the "best magic weapon" to ensure his happy life in the future.

Raising children, love and punishment in parallel, is the best education.

Jenny alimu, a famous American writer, once said: it is not terrible for children to have shortcomings. What is terrible is that parents, as the guides of their children, lack correct parenting concepts and teaching methods.

Only when parents have a correct world outlook can they guide their children to the right path.

Only with excellent parents can we have good children.

May all children embark on their best life path under the guidance of their parents.