What should I do after the first abuse?

After the first domestic violence, we should seriously reflect on the causes of domestic violence. If the other party has a problem of principle, divorce decisively.

Little friends all know that in real life, domestic violence is an upgraded version of family conflicts, which is extremely disrespectful and harmful to partners. In my opinion, the first time you suffer from domestic violence, you should seriously reflect on the causes of domestic violence. If you have a principled problem with the other party, you should divorce decisively; If both sides are impulsive in anger, both sides should reflect deeply to avoid similar situations in the future.

Unhappy marriages tend to breed domestic violence. By my side, there is an example: I have a female friend who has been married for five years. At the beginning of marriage, the relationship between the two sides was very good, but in recent years, because the man cheated on the woman and forced her to divorce, this female friend never agreed to divorce, considering that the child was only three years old and worried that the child would have a shadow after divorce. Therefore, it was convenient for the man to start picking fights at home, with a small quarrel for three days and a big quarrel for five days, which made her miserable. This year, her husband often spoke ill of her for no reason, and later even punched her. Some time ago, she was admitted to the hospital, which caused her to be rescued in the hospital for several hours before she was temporarily out of danger. When we went to the hospital to visit her with friends, the doctor told us that she was beaten with subarachnoid hemorrhage and her head was congested, which almost killed her. The female friend chose to divorce. She said that if she chose not to divorce for the sake of her children, she and her children would be victims if there was domestic violence.

? ? In case of domestic violence, choose to let go and give children a good growth environment. I have a college classmate. Because my husband cheated on me, I moved in with her at first. Later, her husband's domestic violence intensified and she abused her. She resolutely chose to divorce and live with her children. Our classmates are very responsible for their children. They not only took good care of his diet and daily life, but also trained him to learn to play ice hockey in his spare time, which made the child have a very strong interest in sports and became wider and wider on this road. At the beginning of this year, after selection, the child became an official ice hockey player in our winter training center with excellent ice hockey professional skills. It can be said that it was my classmate who chose to let go after being abused by domestic violence, created a good growth environment for the children, and carefully cultivated them, so that the children would have today's achievements. Therefore, choosing to let go after domestic violence is not only responsible for yourself, but also respect for children.

Expanding knowledge: getting out of the shadow of domestic violence

To get rid of the psychological shadow after domestic violence, one is to help the victims of domestic violence integrate into life. It is necessary to integrate into the current normal life as soon as possible, face it positively, and let them believe that the beautiful life is still going on; The second is to help victims of domestic violence improve their self-confidence. Make them feel the value of their own existence and social recognition, thus further enhancing their self-confidence and sense of accomplishment. The third is to help the victims of domestic violence divert their attention. Accompany them to participate in sunny and active activities, divert their nervous and abused psychology and further experience the beauty of life.