What kind of mentality does a person feel that he is not worthy of the person he likes?

Fromm is a famous American psychologist.

One day, several classmates asked him: What kind of influence will mentality have on a person?

He smiled and said nothing, and took them to a dark house.

Under his guidance, the students quickly passed through this mysterious room.

Fromm turned on a lamp in the room. In the dim light, when the students saw the layout of the room clearly, they broke out in a cold sweat.

It turns out that the ground of this house is a deep and large pool with all kinds of poisonous snakes crawling inside, and several poisonous snakes are hissing at them with their heads held high.

Just above the snake pond, there is a narrow wooden bridge from which they came.

Fromm looked at them and asked, "Now, would you like to cross this bridge again?" Everyone, look at me, I look at you, and they are all silent.

After a while, the three students finally stood up hesitantly. As soon as one of the students went up, he moved his steps carefully, which was many times slower than the first time. Another student stepped on the small wooden bridge with trepidation, trembling involuntarily, and couldn't stand it halfway; The third student just bent down and climbed over the bridge slowly.

"Pa", Fromm turned on several other lights in the room, and the strong light suddenly made the whole room look like day. The students rubbed their eyes and looked carefully, only to find that there was a safety net under the small wooden bridge, but they didn't see it just now, because the color of the net line was extremely dim.

Fromm asked loudly, "Now which one of you wants to cross this small bridge?"

The students were silent. "Why don't you want to?" Fromm asked.

"Is this safety net reliable in quality?" The student asked trembling.

Fromm smiled. "I can answer your question. The bridge is not difficult to walk, but the poisonous snake under the bridge has caused you a psychological deterrent, so you lost your cool head, lost your reason, panicked, and showed varying degrees of timidity-the mentality certainly affected your behavior. "

This typical example vividly shows that mentality will have an impact on people's behavior, even a major impact.

From here to there, everyone's life is like this.

Sometimes, in the face of various challenges, failure may not be due to cowardice, insufficient IQ, or unclear goals. It may be because we think too much about the possible difficulties and setbacks and exaggerate the unfavorable factors, but we will be intimidated by difficulties and struggles.

As the saying goes, even smart people worry a lot, and sometimes they lose it. Worry and hesitation will interfere with your courage and persistence in action.

If we can forget the background, ignore the danger and focus on the road under our feet when crossing the single-plank bridge of life, maybe we can reach our destination faster.

A philosopher said, "Your mentality is your real master!"

An artist said: "You can't extend the length of life, but you can expand its width;" You can't change the weather, but you can control your mood; You can't control the environment, but you can adjust your mentality. "

If you can't control your mentality well and adjust your mentality, you may miss success without any suspense.

For example, in the sports arena, defending champions is often more stressful than challenging players, and mentality often plays a decisive role. The former is more concerned with the loss and tears after losing the championship and honor, so it is most prone to psychological changes, and a slight setback will lead to impatience and abnormal performance. The latter is just the opposite. Anyway, barefoot people are not afraid to wear shoes, and it doesn't matter if they can't win the championship. However, they will bite the bullet and devote themselves wholeheartedly, and it is easy to get good results. This is also the reason why seed players often fail to defend their titles or go out early, and it is also the inevitable result of dark horses rushing out frequently on the field.

As Dickens said, a sound mind is more powerful than a hundred kinds of wisdom.

So what should a sound mind look like? In life, we often hear people around us say that they are in a good mental state. In fact, this person will not get carried away when he is proud, decadent when he is frustrated, confused when he is noisy, and helpless when he is free.

Maybe this is a good and sound mentality.

When it's calm, let's not get carried away, but have a calm heart, calm as ever, Do not forget your initiative mind, and go forward bravely;

When encountering setbacks, I hope we will not be pessimistic and disappointed, but have a positive attitude, be optimistic and open-minded, dare to face up to difficulties and problems, and explore and discover a new situation with a bright future;

When we are in the hustle and bustle, I hope that we will not be kidnapped by colorful bubble illusions. We can stick to our inner purity, not be contaminated with dust, lead a clean life and be kind and beautiful ourselves.

In this way, I hope we can all have a positive attitude, gain health, happiness and wealth in the long journey of life and live a truly happy life.