Personal family etiquette

1, family style-it's so warm to be sensible.

"Poetic tradition" is a fine tradition of scholarly family, and "knowing books and understanding" should also become the basic creed of modern families.

When family members get along, they should be polite, respect each other, communicate in time, tolerate each other, create a warm atmosphere and live in harmony. Family members should work together, * * * share housework, and keep the environment inside and outside the home clean and tidy.

Go out and say where to go, and go home to report peace. Always be grateful, always smile, and never be stingy with words like "please", "thank you" and "sorry".

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Please don't forget all kinds of important festivals, the anniversary of the deceased old man, the birthday of each family member, the wedding and housewarming and other memorable days.

Young and middle-aged people who are busy with their careers outside, don't forget: always go home and have a look!

2, respect for the elderly-always grateful.

All virtues put "filial piety" first. Respecting parents and the elderly is the duty of being a man, the natural responsibility and the most basic ethical gift.

(1) Always be grateful. Children should always remember their parents' kindness and try to repay them materially and spiritually. In the eyes of the elderly, children and grandchildren always seem to be children, so even if parents and the elderly nag again, they will not get tired.

(2) Don't interfere in the private affairs of parents and the elderly. They also have their own social space and interpersonal communication, and also have their own emotional sustenance, so they can't intervene for the younger generation. Especially for the remarriage of widowed old people, children should take care of their parents' happiness in their later years and give them understanding and support.

(3) Considerate the details. Always be caring and attentive, greet the service, add clothes and prepare medicine in time to celebrate your birthday; Try to help parents sweep the floor and wash dishes; Chat with them often, take a walk, rub your shoulders and beat your waist when necessary; If you can, take your parents out for a trip.

3, love the young-care and not spoil.

Parents are children's first teachers, and the manners of adults have a far-reaching influence on children. Therefore, parents should pay attention to:

(1) Take the lead in setting an example. Parents should respect their elders and care about others, and don't talk about teachers and elders in front of their children; Husband and wife should be humble and considerate to each other and try to avoid quarreling in front of their children; Keep promises and keep promises, and parents should give clear answers to their children's questions; Do something that can't meet the requirements of children, don't be forced, but explain it clearly in time.

(2) Communicate with children more and be polite. Be democratic and kind to children and pay attention to identity distance; Not only care about children's study life, but also don't read their diaries and letters at will. Cultivate feelings in talking with children and * * * activities; It is necessary to create a democratic atmosphere in the family, so that children can understand the family situation, and they can also seek their opinions on major decisions and cultivate their self-reliance ability.

(3) Maintain children's self-esteem and pay attention to educational methods. You can't be subjective and arbitrary about children. In terms of food and clothing, you don't need to eat too much to keep warm; In learning, there is no need to pursue perfection, let alone force children to participate in various training courses regardless of their interests and energy, so as not to encourage them. Parents should welcome and respect their children's classmates and friends to visit their home. Don't say the child's fault in front of the guests; Pay attention to properly discover and praise the advantages of children.

4, husband and wife-practice "eight mutual"

Love between husband and wife is the basic element of happiness in life. And Deng summed up the "eight mutual" between husband and wife, which can be used as the secret of warm and happy life of husband and wife:

⑴ Mutual respect: Husband and wife should respect each other's personality and labor, and respect each other's interests and wishes. Don't be overbearing, but also respect each other's relatives and friends.

⑵ Mutual love: Love must not only stay in the stage of love and marriage, but also keep pace with the times, update and maintain it, even if it takes a minute to talk about love and make love every day. Please always "remember each other's good".

⑶ Mutual trust: Husband and wife should trust each other and don't think about it. Mutual suspicion and catching shadows will inevitably hurt the feelings of husband and wife. It is undoubtedly irrational to look at each other's mobile phones, stationery and income lists casually. You should give each other some social space.

(4) Mutual assistance: It is only natural for couples to help each other. No matter in career, life, or dealing with the relationship between relatives and friends, if one party is in trouble, the other party should accept it with humility and give as much help as possible, so as to consolidate the foundation of family happiness.

5. Comfort each other: There are often unpleasant things in life. Husband and wife should communicate more, often listen to each other's voices, comfort each other when encountering setbacks and tide over difficulties together.

[6] Mutual encouragement: In the face of a highly competitive society and an era of lifelong learning, both husband and wife are pursuing progress, and they need to encourage each other to enhance their confidence and firmly face their careers and lives.

(7) Giving and receiving: As the saying goes, "Tongue and teeth will fight", and the contradiction between husband and wife is inevitable. When one side is angry, the other side should be modest, not tit-for-tat, and avoid exposing the other side's shortcomings and being ruthless, thus aggravating contradictions. The old adage "Don't think twice before you act, regret it, and be patient and worry-free" still has practical significance.

(8) Mutual understanding: human beings are not sages, to err is human. When one spouse makes a mistake, the other spouse should carefully analyze the nature and causes of the mistake. As long as it is not a matter of principle, we should be tolerant of each other and eliminate the unpleasant atmosphere as soon as possible, so we should not cling to it. Even if the mistake is serious and the relationship breaks down, we should break up rationally and amicably.

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The nicknames of wedding anniversary are: 1 year paper wedding, 5-year wood wedding, 10 year tin wedding, 15 year crystal wedding, 25-year silver wedding, 30-year pearl wedding, 40-year ruby wedding, 50-year gold wedding, 60-year diamond wedding and 70-year white wedding.

5. Family ties-family ties are unforgettable.

Paying attention to kinship is a major feature of China culture. We should cherish the natural and precious fate between our relatives, and don't forget to communicate our feelings even if we are busy.

"Relatives and relatives, don't go, don't kiss." Explain that relatives need to move around and communicate to consolidate. But visiting relatives depends on the timing: relatives like to be congratulated but difficult to help, especially in wedding and funeral occasions, it is best to be present to congratulate or mourn; In case you really can't come in person, call to show your respect, explain and send a gift.

"The pastoral days have passed, but the relatives have left gently." It shows that relatives can't move around often, especially in today's society, where the pace of life is fast and the work pressure is high. If you visit relatives on special days such as non-festivals, it will often interfere with each other's normal work life and even add chaos. Not only does it fail to promote friendship, but it will make people feel embarrassed and disgusted.

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Relatives should also pay attention to: first, the communication between relatives can not be separated from the rich and the poor, especially the poor relatives can not be left out in the cold. Second, relatives should help others and help each other, but don't just care about their feelings and do things that violate the law and discipline. Third, the principle of "brothers settle accounts clearly" and "returning a peach in return" also applies to relatives. Fourth, avoid snobbery. Because interpersonal resources are a kind of potential intangible assets and wealth, we can pay attention to developing and maintaining relatives in our daily life to expand our contacts, but we should spurn the phenomenon that those who have power and influence will follow as long as they touch relatives and friends.

6. Hospitality-the feeling of being at home

The most important thing in hospitality etiquette is to be warm and thoughtful, and strive to create an atmosphere of being at home.

When you date a guest, you must keep the appointment. Don't let the guests catch cold. If there is something urgent, you should get in touch with the guests and tell them the reason.

Strive to create a clean, orderly and pleasant hospitality environment. Don't forget to tidy up your appearance. It is impolite to entertain guests in pajamas or to be disheveled and untidy.

When guests come to visit, they should get up and open the door to greet them when they hear a knock at the door or an electric bell. After the guest enters the door, the host should take the guest's shoes, hats and rain gear or indicate the location, but don't pick up the guest's handbag. Please find a seat in the living room before you can sit down. Family members or other guests present should also be introduced to new guests.

After the guests are seated, it is best to send a cup of fragrant tea or fruit.

When talking with guests, leave more opportunities to talk with them. Focus on your expression. Don't look at your watch all the time, or get up all the time, or talk to the guests while watching TV. If there is something urgent, you should explain it frankly to the guests and get their understanding.

When a guest wants to leave, the host should kindly keep him, but he can't be forced to do so. The host should wait for the guests to get up before getting up and seeing them off, and the guests should reach out and say goodbye. Fujian should be sent outside, and it is necessary to turn around and close the door when the guests disappear.

7. Enjoy it-you can't do whatever you want.

After intense work, in my spare time, I sing, dance and entertain myself. Or invite some relatives and friends to play cards, have a drink and have a good time ... this is human nature, there is nothing wrong.

But don't forget: your loud voice may also become unbearable noise for your neighbors; The excitement of your home may also seriously interfere with the normal life of your neighbors.

Therefore, when you are entertaining, you must have a good proper limit and take care of your neighbors' feelings.

During lunch break, late at night, and even when students are preparing for the exam, you can't play the piano and sing, drink and guess boxing, make high-decibel noise, and play cards and rub hemp all night.

When neighbors have family difficulties such as funeral, don't sing and dance at home, and don't invite friends to play.

8. Neighborhood-don't forget that a close neighbor is better than a distant relative.

As the saying goes, "a distant relative is better than a close neighbor", and it is obviously an important factor for a happy life to do a good job in neighborhood relations.

The new neighborhood relationship should be: respect the private space of neighbors, keep a proper neighborhood distance, and not be indifferent.

Nod and smile when you meet. Meet and say hello. Since you can't see your head up, you can't be a stranger. Say hello without losing your share, which is harmless to yourself and conducive to harmonious relations.

Be strict with yourself and pay attention to details. Try not to interfere or interfere with others. Keep the environment clean and tidy, don't throw garbage and sewage out of the window, and don't throw garbage outdoors at will; No peeping through the window, no eavesdropping in the carriage, no talking on the phone while climbing; Go in and out of the door, go up and down the stairs, walk slowly, especially when you come back late at night, don't surprise your neighbors; Parking vehicles outside the house shall not hinder traffic; No littering is allowed in corridor space.

Be tolerant of others and learn to be polite. Be polite and approachable to your neighbors, and don't be demanding and complaining. If you can talk, communicate more. If you can't talk, keep a friendly attitude and keep an appropriate distance. The unreasonable demands and behaviors of neighbors should also be properly handled in line with the principle of "rational restraint".

Help each other and be considerate. Neighborhood should help each other warmly when they need help, and should not be indifferent and refuse, stand by and watch, let alone gloat. We should also be considerate of the inconvenience caused by neighbors' decoration and other reasons.

9. Community-jointly safeguard a beautiful home.

Creating a peaceful, warm and beautiful living environment is the common expectation of residents and managers. However, to have a peaceful and beautiful residential environment, in addition to well-managed neighborhood committees, it is more important to closely cooperate with owners, property and security guards to jointly maintain.

Respect each other. Property management personnel and security guards should be polite to the owners and their visiting guests, and earnestly perform their duties. Owners should also fully respect property and safety, and should not be arrogant and rude. Say hello when you meet, say goodbye when you meet the cleaner and care for each other. Why not?

Control the decoration noise. All parties concerned should try their best to avoid the excessive interference of decoration noise on the normal life of the neighborhood. According to relevant regulations, home improvement must be stopped before and after work. The property management department should also assist the parties involved in home improvement to arrange the construction period reasonably and help reduce noise pollution.

Standardize parking. The property should negotiate the rules with the owners' committee, and vigorously publicize, guide and educate the residents in the community to regulate parking. Car owners should also follow the rules, paying special attention not to occupy other people's parking spaces and not to hinder others from getting off.

Civilization takes the elevator. Residents in the community should consciously abide by the rules of taking the ladder, especially adults should educate their children not to make jokes by pressing the ladder keys.

Don't trample on green land and destroy trees. Many communities carefully built green spaces, planted landscape trees and designed "winding paths" leading to seclusion, but soon, many new "shortcuts" were trampled on the grassland, destroying the beauty of the landscape. Therefore, every resident should cherish the beauty of the environment.