Why do women need "economic independence"?

Yesterday, in my blog post "Love in the Heart, Moment is Eternity", I introduced "On the Other Side of the Ocean". I highly praised the author Jiang Ping-her economic independence and her work attitude. I have long appreciated and appreciated such a woman. Boyou Xiaoqing left a message: "Tao Jie pays too much attention to women's economic independence. I think women's spiritual independence is the magic weapon to win men. I don't like men who can't support their families. " I replied: "Spiritual independence is relatively virtual, and economic independence is real." Jiang Ping inserted a paragraph in the middle: "Economic independence shows your ability and level ..." Boyou Xiaoqing replied: "I have never been financially independent, but I have never lacked the love of men." Therefore, the men we meet should be different men. We should organize all kinds of women to hold a salon to discuss this topic. "Hee hee, interesting! Blogs are interesting, bloggers are interesting! As a senior writer of women's magazines and a person who relieves emotional confusion for sisters, I know very well why women need economic independence! How important this question is! The woman is married, married, and your husband is willing to support you, raise children and support the family-congratulations, you have found a responsible and good man! But the problem is: men have families, your in-laws, aunts, sisters-in-law, seven aunts and eight aunts; You still have family members: your parents, brothers and sisters, seven aunts and eight aunts-what kind of performance do these people have under the premise that you are not financially independent? -I can't remember the story I answered for the magazine. Tell me about yourself. For example. Twenty years ago, the people of China were very poor. At that time, my salary was around 50 yuan, and my economy was basically independent. Growing up, my favorite things are dressing up and books. Both of them cost money. When I first got married, I gave my mother-in-law meals every month, and the rest of the money was either clothes or books. To this end, menstruation and her mother-in-law have been nagging. The basic idea is: 1, Tao, you can't spend money indiscriminately, but it's sunny, it's sunny! Refutation: I spent my own money, none of your business! My sky is always sunny! Tao Qianwei, can you show me your passbook? Don't you save money for your son? What will he do if he marries a wife in the future? From now on, save five yuan every month! Refutation: Why should I show you the passbook? I'll worry about my son, it's none of your business! 3. Tao Qianwei, you are saved! Refutation: money is earned, not saved! I earn 10 thousand a month and spend 5 thousand, leaving 5 thousand, earning 1 thousand a month, saving 500 and leaving 500! My aunts held a grudge against my "wasteful behavior", fearing that their younger brother would suffer and that I would wear their younger brother out-this situation lasted for about eight years. After the reform and opening up, after leaving the system, my income doubled. In the early 1990s, I went to Hong Kong on business for the first time and bought three suits, two fur coats and several ties for my husband. Just in the Spring Festival, several grandmothers came to my house, screaming with clothes. I solemnly said, "I emphasize again that from now on, you are not allowed to call me a loser!" "I like to waste! I just want to waste it! Your brother married me and made a fortune! You are not allowed to interfere in our family affairs "-from then on, I was silent. I forgive my mother-in-law for nagging; After all, it is elders and old people who have come from hard times; But for my grandmothers, I am an unforgivable person, and I will be sarcastic whenever I get the chance. It is these people who talk about "saving" all day: going to the supermarket to grab cheap rice and wearing a sweater for 15 years-what a suck! Therefore, a woman can remain economically independent and stay in her husband's family, so that she can stand firm and aim high! In the 1990s, my mother was a member of the chorus of veteran cadres (my mother, who never made progress, was actually a retired cadre! Tell you a story later). There are official wives in the choir who often show off their clothes. My mother is also a woman who loves beauty, thinking: Your clothes were bought in Chinese mainland, and my daughter's clothes were bought in Hongkong. So whenever I go to perform in other places, my mother runs to my house. Although my husband and I have gone to work, my mother seems to be at home. She rudely opened the wardrobe, took away her favorite clothes that fit her, and sometimes "blacked out" a lipstick. My mother-in-law, served hot food and rice, and sent a step before leaving: "In-laws, easy to go"! If I am not financially independent, I eat my husband's food and wear his clothes, and he buys all my clothes. Does my mother have the courage to come to my house to get clothes? My brother, whether a family of three or a family of five returns to China, will definitely live in my house! The life of "Chinese Americans" is particularly picky: no matter winter or summer, they take a bath twice a day; I want to eat lotus root clips, steamed pork with flour, drink ribs lotus root soup, make jiaozi, and make fried dumplings. My husband and I always go to the supermarket before my brother comes home. Of course, I swipe my card and my husband is the driver-Evian mineral water, Enshi local pork, the best seasoning, imported olive oil, and then buy 3000 kwh of electricity from the property! My brother's family eats, drinks and turns on the air conditioner. My mother-in-law and my husband have no complaints! -If I am not financially independent, I will eat my husband's food, wear his clothes and use his, and the electricity bill at home will always be on the bus. Can my brother live in my house? It is because he knows that his sister is an economically independent woman that he lives comfortably! Therefore, only when women maintain economic independence can parents be confident: I take my daughter's, I eat my sister's, and we are confident! I have to do this. My son and I are good friends. Every time my son patted me on the shoulder and said, "Tao Ge, I have something to discuss with you, hee hee." Tao Ge listened quickly, knowing that he had something to ask. On the 11th holiday, my son asked me to buy a computer: "Dell Alien". The U.S. military's dedicated computer makes tables and drawings very fast. The price is also expensive. "Mainly for work, Tao Ge, hee hee." The son stressed. My son and I went to Wuhan Square. My son chose the right model and I swiped the card. If I am not financially independent, my son meets a stingy father: no! Siyanli Club brings together local high-end women. Proud and magical women are basically professional women. Although some rich women are pampered, they don't have to rush to work or punch in, but their mental state is not as good as that of professional women. She is a woman in her forties who lives in a luxurious villa and often sighs. Why do you ask? Answer: "My family has many relatives, all of whom belong to my husband's family. I accompany my nanny to buy food and direct her to cook every day. I am exhausted, and my family has never been quiet! " A woman said, "Do you want your husband to bring relatives back?" The woman replied, "My husband says he earns money, he supports his family, and he can live wherever he wants!" " -the audience was silent. With economic independence, women can confidently supplement their families, and men dare to "take wherever they want!" Absolutely overturn the table! I have to do this. Key words of women's economic independence: 1 In order not to be despised, women should have their own careers and must be economically independent; 2, the popular "three noes" song of men: no refusal, no initiative, no responsibility. Why do women rely on those unreliable shoulders? For a long-term meal ticket, toilet paper is much more important than a marriage certificate. Economically independent women don't hate getting married. 3. Women's economic independence is a means to gain men's respect. If you want to hold a man's heart firmly, don't hold his stomach. Be an independent and self-loving woman. When a woman makes money by herself and spends money for herself at will, she is truly free. Even if you only earn 1000 yuan a month and spend 800 yuan to hire a nanny to do housework, it proves that you are independent. I have to do this.