Have you ever had a little fear and hesitation before you got married?

What I dare not tell others is that I was a little scared and hesitant before I got married, and it might be worse.

My boyfriend and I met in college and fell in love on campus. We are simple and know each other well. He is two years older than me. After graduation, he went to Xinjiang and stayed for half a year. He went back to his hometown for family reasons, and I just graduated, didn't go abroad, and found a job locally. The two of us are going to work hard here at present. He is four years older than me, and now I have graduated. His family strongly urged marriage. Actually, to be honest, I'm a little resistant, afraid and hesitant. I don't know if this is emotional instability, but I feel that this emotion does exist. ?

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I have always felt that I am still the kind of girl whose feelings are supreme, but it is difficult to face the unrealistic marriage. I'm more worried about two points. First, people are fickle. If you are good to me now, will you always be good to me? There is a saying that no girl is always eighteen, but there will always be eighteen-year-old girls. And people's inferiority is like young and beautiful things. When I am tired at home and take care of my children at work to deal with interpersonal relationships, will you help me share it, or will you drink and sing with my colleagues and friends outside on the pretext of working overtime? Besides, will you hook up with other little girls? Whether you can always love me and take care of me as you say. Will you lose your temper with me, will you hit me, and will you think that you can be a nanny if you marry a daughter-in-law? Secondly, money is becoming more and more important in our life. If we want to get married, buy a house, buy a car and live, can our salary cover these expenses? How much do we need to borrow? When can we repay it? I'm afraid of owing friendship to others. I owe so much. Think about what we can repay. It's terrible.

There is a trace of fear and doubt before marriage. The key is to think about why and understand why.