What are the hidden rules? What's the harm?

The characteristics of hidden rules 1, hidden rules are behavior constraints recognized by people privately; 2, this kind of behavior constraint, according to the two sides (parties) to each other's interests or harm, spontaneously formed in the interaction of social actors, can reduce the conflict between the two sides of the interaction, reduce transaction costs; 3. The so-called constraint, that is, the behavior that crosses the border will inevitably lead to revenge, and the understanding of this terrible consequence strengthens the stability of the expectations of both parties to each other's behavior; 4. This actually observed rule deviates from the concept of justice or the provisions of the formal system and infringes on the interests maintained by the mainstream ideology or the formal system, so it has to exist in a hidden form, and the parties have a clear recognition of the hidden form itself; 5. Through this concealment, the parties shield the representatives of formal rules from local interaction, or pull the representatives into private transactions and rely on the substitution of private rules to obtain benefits that formal rules cannot provide. In the process of generating hidden rules, the parties are not only the two sides of the transaction, but also the third party representing the formal rules. When the two sides use the hidden rules to conduct private transactions, they actually form an alliance against the official representatives of the third party (it is the formation of many powerful alliances that make the hidden rules have long-term, powerful and even stable confrontation ability). The "potential" of hidden rules is a survival strategy in itself, and it also shows the existence of higher-level formal systems and rules. The unspoken rules of consumption refer to self-evident but tacit rules of consumption, which are acquiesced and observed by most people in the field of consumption and become another set of codes of conduct and norms besides relevant laws and regulations. The "hidden rules" exist in some consumer fields such as commercial sales, catering and accommodation, tourism and entertainment, property decoration, beauty, education and training institutions and agricultural products. If you can't bring your own drinks when eating, you have to pay extra for using sterilized chopsticks and towels ... entertainment circle, industry, workplace, school, etc. It can be said that no matter where you go, there are more or less hidden rules to obtain the interests of individuals or a small number of people in all walks of life. Sometimes it violates the law, and sometimes it goes against morality and conscience. There are four reasonable attitudes towards "hidden rules". First, as for the "hidden rules", it is not excluded that there are reasonable places. Then, let the reasonable place "surface" and everyone will abide by it. Don't let reasonable and unreasonable "diving"; Second, for decision makers, those "hidden rules" are always hidden and destroyed in the initial state, and it is too late to wait for these "hidden rules" to become popular; Third, for officials, they must be immune and cannot do things according to "hidden rules"; Fourth, for the society, we should vigorously advocate the awareness of rules and resolutely oppose the awareness of "hidden rules."