Support parents and provide for the elderly.

Support parents and provide for the elderly.

Recently, the property arranged home visits to check the gas safety of each house, but no one went home during the day. Finally, one night, the inspector said that he was entrusted by a son to replace the gas battery for the elderly living here at night, and then he came to my house for inspection, which made me wonder. My parents are far away. What can we do to prepare?

Understand the life and eating habits of the elderly; Understand the basic diseases of the elderly, commonly used drugs, the contact information of nearby hospitals and pharmacies, the contact information of the attending doctor, the frequency of seeing a doctor, whether the attending doctor will keep in touch, and whether the treatment plan will ask for your advice; Understand the contact information of the community, property, water, electricity and gas company, police station and neighbors where the elderly live; Who to look for when water and electricity are cut off; Who to look for in repairing water pipes; Who to look for when changing light bulbs and gas batteries; What items need to be purchased regularly, such as medicine, clothes, shoes, etc. Key points: increase their sense of participation in life, and let them think of you as soon as they encounter something (90% of elderly people can be avoided from cheating). Matters that need to be considered in advance: whether to buy commercial insurance for the elderly, whether to take the elderly to live with them in their own cities, whether to book nursing homes, whether to hire nurses and nannies, and whether to replace the property, such as changing stairwells into elevators and changing high floors into low floors.

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1.？ Express feelings: I miss you so much.

2.？ Ask about the recent situation: What are you doing and eating recently? Do you feel sick? Did you take antihypertensive drugs on time?

3.？ Ask life: What TV series are you watching? What about pets?

4.？ Ask social status: Who has been to the house? Or go dancing/playing chess/singing in the park? Did you go to play cards or those friends?

5.？ Ask the demand: what is missing at home, I will send it to you; Are there any appliances that need to be repaired?

6.？ Talking about the weather in my hometown: Is it cooling/heating up? Have you had enough cotton trousers?

7.？ Talk about news or funny things, gossip about stars. If the old people know them, they can also talk about them.

8.？ Talking about health: soaking feet every day; Don't stay up late in the morning, get up slowly; Don't lift anything too heavy; Climb the stairs properly and exercise.

9.？ Tell me about your recent situation: what have you learned to cook again? I'll cook it for you next time (by the way, it's not as delicious as yours! ); What I do at work, my colleagues in the company are very good. I went hiking with some friends at the weekend and walked all day. You can see everything online, and now everything is online. If you have a date/child, tell me about your date/child. No one showed that he was actively preparing to reassure the elderly. You can talk about your depressed things, for fear that the old people will be anxious. If you judge that the old man can give advice, you can mention it.

10. Recall the past: recall your work and life when you were a child, or when the old people were young, especially your achievements. After the old people started the memory mode, they mainly listened, supplemented by sighs, thanks and praises; Never recall the sad past.

1 1.End: When will I call you again/video (if there is an appointment, I suggest setting an alarm clock or writing it on the calendar, and the old people will be looking forward to waiting); Eat this and that next time you go home; Go back and teach you to build a group with WeChat next time; Where to take you to play in the future.

The more emotional support the department can provide to children, the lower the depression level of the elderly. The old man talked and listened. Not many people usually talk, and he will be very happy when he opens his mouth. Listening to you talk about your life will make them feel more at ease, hoping to help; When I heard something novel, I didn't feel out of touch with the times. Don't blame and criticize the old people. They have their own living habits, ways of doing things and opinions. As long as it does not affect your health and safety, you don't need to change it. For example, old people queue up at the entrance of the supermarket early in the morning to buy special goods. Don't accuse them of "how much is an egg worth?" You deserve to queue up early in the morning to buy ... "

It doesn't have to be anything important to call, but they will also be happy to talk about the short-lived trivial things about their parents.