The Prose of Nanny Tang Xiao

The mother of the "leader" accidentally fell down, resulting in a fracture of the right femur. After hospitalization and some emergency treatment, other problems were basically solved, and the rest was the healing of femur. The old man is 88 years old, and the doctor says it is not suitable for surgery. He suggested conservative treatment, leaving the hospital and going home to recuperate slowly. As the old man can't move in bed, we decided to hire a nanny to take care of his mother at home.

In the afternoon, the "leader" called from the housekeeping company and said that he had invited a nanny. He is a rural man from Zhijiang next door, in his fifties. He used to be a nanny and worked in a hotel in Shenzhen. After more than an hour, the "leader" and daughter-in-law came back with the nanny. The "leader" pointed to the middle-aged woman who followed and said, "She's Aunt Tang, and she came to our house to nurse her mother."

People smile at us as a sign of greeting.

Her face was dark with a straight face, and she stuck it in her long, dull hair behind her head, squeezing out a little silver thread. Years have carved several shallow wrinkles on her face. Height 1.6 meters, looks healthy, energetic and strong. She put a big travel bag with personal belongings on the wall, sat down at the dining table in the hall and said shyly, "If I hadn't met you, I wouldn't know where to live tonight."

The "leader" explained to me: "When the housekeeping company met Aunt Tang, we explained the situation and basic requirements of our family. Aunt Tang said that she would come to our home for nursing. After briefly introducing her situation, we decided to hire her. I thought my mother would come back two days after she was discharged from the hospital. She said that she just came out from her home in the country today, and she has no acquaintances in the city and no place to go. I said, it doesn't matter. I agree that she will come to our house today. She immediately said,' I don't want to get paid these two days before the old man leaves the hospital.' "

I quickly said, "Well, welcome, welcome! This is a coincidence, which means that we are destined. Anyway, my mother will be discharged from the hospital in two days. "

The "leader" settled Aunt Tang in her mother's room. There is a sofa-type movable single bed at the mother's bedside, which is for the nanny. Aunt Tang put her bag on the sofa bed and saw a mop next to it. I just mopped the floor and stuck it on the wall. When she picks up the floor, she will mop it. I quickly told her to relax and have a rest first. She said "nothing, nothing" and then began to work skillfully. I thought to myself: This nanny is really active and fast.

"Aunt Tang, we are all older than you. Let's call you Tang Xiao in the future."

"Good, good!" She reacted quickly and said simply, "Then I'll call you big brother and big sister."

The next day, we went to the hospital to take care of our mother, and Tang Xiao also went with us. She said: "I will get to know the elderly first, and I will also go to the hospital to familiarize myself with the specific care."

In the hospital, we invited an aunt surnamed Li to take care of her mother. When Tang Xiao arrived at the hospital, he offered Aunt Ali's hand, asked questions, cleaned, massaged her mother, turned over and gave medicine. As long as she could do well, she would do anything. This made Aunt Li feel a little embarrassed and free.

Mother came home from the hospital, and the important task of taking care of her mainly fell on Tang Xiao. Coupled with two days of "internship" in the hospital and care for the elderly, she seems to be familiar with it. What surprised me most was that my mother was a little constipated, and she even helped her mother dig with her hands. This is something that ordinary nannies can't and don't want to do. In this regard, she seemed very ordinary and said, "Nothing. When doing housework at home, I often have to deal with excreta. "

A few days later, perhaps because of familiarity, Tang Xiao, who was not very talkative, began to speak slowly. She said that her family lived in a remote mountain village in Zhijiang, and her family was poor. Her two children are both in their thirties and both work outside. In recent years, she and her husband have also worked in Shenzhen and washed dishes in different restaurants. She is cheerful and sociable, and helped her husband find a job. When I returned to my hometown in the countryside in March this year, I didn't plan to go out to work again, because I saved some money and planned to build a new house at home. Unexpectedly, her mother-in-law, who had some contradictions with her and mental problems, picked her for three days and pulled out all her dishes. One is a wife, and the other is a spiritual mother. The two sides are at loggerheads, and it is useless to persuade them. The wife is silent, and the spiritual mother is always talkative and resolute. My husband is helpless. In a fit of pique, he returned to work in Shenzhen. Because of her mother-in-law's constant interference, Tang Xiao's idea of a house completely disappeared, and he decided that he could not afford a house for the time being. Later, he simply came out to find some money, but it was clean.

I asked her, "Why don't you go back to Shenzhen to work with your husband?"

She said, "The owner of the restaurant called me and asked me to go back. I don't think washing dishes there is very tiring, but the working hours are a bit long and the income is not high. Forget it, I don't want to go again. Find something to do here in my hometown. I am close to home and used to living. Moreover, when I am old, I don't want to wash dishes anymore. "

"That's true." I asked, "How long have you worked in a restaurant?"

"9 am to 2 pm, 5 pm to evening 10: 30."

"Ah, eleven and a half hours in all, which means working three and a half hours more every day!" I paused and asked her, "specialized in washing dishes?"

"Mainly washing dishes, but also washing dishes or something."

I said with emotion: "It takes a long time. Is there overtime pay? "

"Which have overtime pay! Say how much it costs in January, and there is no overtime pay during working hours. "

I immediately thought of reading an article on the internet, which revealed how private enterprise bosses skillfully squeezed the blood and sweat of migrant workers. The main way is to extend working hours in accordance with the labor law without paying overtime wages, which is similar to what Marx said in Das Kapital.

When I heard my mother humming, I went into the room and asked her if she wanted to drink water. After the diagnosis, she gave her mother some water. Back in the living room, she talked to me about her part-time job.

"I wash dishes quickly, others have to work for three hours, and I finished it in two hours. Once I finished washing dishes, so I watched TV on my mobile phone, which happened to be seen by my boss. My boss criticized me for not watching TV at work, and I was unconvinced. I thought to myself, I have finished my work and there is nothing else to do. What's wrong with watching TV with your mobile phone? So I reason with my boss. This time, the boss was unhappy and said to me coldly,' Do you still care about watching TV at work? Go home and watch TV if you want. "You don't have to come tomorrow," why is the boss so unreasonable? I was so angry that I shouted to my boss,' Don't do it if you don't do it. You can pay my bill now! The boss said,' Check out? "Come back tomorrow," I said. "No, didn't you say you didn't want me to come tomorrow? "You must pay me today," the boss knew he was wrong, so he had to settle my account and pay me. So I came out. "

"This kind of private small boss is like this. He doesn't talk about labor law and tries his best to deduct migrant workers. However, it is really wrong for you to watch TV at work, and it is not wrong for the boss to criticize you. However, it is too much for him to ask you to work for so long without paying overtime. "

"After I came out, I soon found a job washing dishes in another restaurant. The new dishwasher hired by the boss is slow and ineffective. He always needs help from others to finish washing dishes. The boss called me and wanted me to go back, but I refused. "

"Yes, I work everywhere. Since I am out, how can I go back? " I agree with her.

Tang Xiao is devoted to caring for the elderly and has some experience. She always feeds, drinks, turns over, washes her feet, wipes her body and changes clothes regularly for the elderly, which is very procedural. Sometimes we step in to help her, and she always says, "I'll take care of the old man, and you do your own thing."

I said, "It's our job to help you. You need a rest."

She insisted, "If I can't do it, I will naturally ask you for help. Now, having me is enough. "

However, after all, she has no culture. According to her own statement, she has been in primary school for several years and wants to ask my "leader" for help. There is a phone number in her mobile phone.

Once, she took her old mobile phone and asked me, "Brother, do you think there is something wrong with my mobile phone?" Why doesn't the radio always work? "

I haven't used this old mobile phone for many years, and I have forgotten how to turn on the radio. I fiddled with it for a while and found the radio program in the settings. Open it. I told her how to use the radio one by one. She smiled like a child and said happily, "That way, I won't feel lonely."

Due to lack of culture, Tang Xiao is used to experience and taking things for granted. Mother is in bed for a long time, weak, has a poor appetite and sometimes doesn't want to eat. She was fed porridge instead of swallowing it. Tang Xiao will continue to feed her, fill her mother's mouth, push her chin with her hand, and let her mouth open and close. She wanted to swallow it herself. I immediately stopped Tang Xiao's reckless behavior and told her, "Mom doesn't want to eat because she has a bad appetite. I'll feed her later. " Sure enough, after a while, when I was fed again, my mother quickly finished eating half a bowl of porridge.

Afterwards, he explained to me, "I used to do the same thing when I was breastfeeding my mother-in-law, and the effect was ok."

I said: "Everyone's situation is different, and the methods of nursing should be different from person to person, so we can't simply copy them. Because of her weak constitution and poor swallowing function, it is obviously inappropriate to use your previous method. She has a lot of things in her mouth, which affects her breathing. If you choke, you will be in trouble. "

She said nothing but nodded slightly.

On another occasion, Tang Xiao brought a bowl of fried chicken to the table and looked at the delicious food just made. I said happily, "It smells good."

Tang Xiao said: "I will stir-fry the dishes first, stir-fry the fragrance, then boil the water, add spices, and then collect the juice out of the pot."

The "leader" said, "It might be better if you stew it."

Tang Xiao said, "Stewed? That's not fragrant, it's not delicious. "

I thought, after all, Tang Xiao has no knowledge, she can only cook. I said kindly: "speculation is also a common occurrence. When it comes to nutrition, of course, stew is better, so the damage to nutrition will be minimal. This is called radish cabbage, and everyone loves it. "

One morning, I just woke up and heard my mother coughing. I didn't care much at first, because my mother has been coughing since she left the hospital, but she doesn't cough often. Just cough once or twice. However, my mother coughed for more than ten minutes today and still didn't stop. I ran to my mother's room and the "leader" was wiping her feet. I said, "What happened today? It seems a bit abnormal. "

"Leader" wiped his feet and said, "I don't know."

"Is it a cold?"

Then Tang Xiao came in. I asked her, "Did you turn on the air conditioner last night?"

"It's open."

"By what time?"

"Two o'clock in the morning."

"Oh, that must be a cold." I explained: "When people fall asleep, their resistance drops, especially the elderly. When they fall asleep, it is easier to catch a cold by blowing air conditioners. "

Tang Xiao complained a little: "I turned on the air conditioner to 26 degrees, but the elder sister had to turn it to 28 degrees. It may be that the air conditioning temperature is too low. "

I was a little amused that she didn't know the relationship between the level of air conditioner and temperature, so I further explained: "The higher the air conditioner, the higher the temperature; Conversely, the lower the driving, the lower the temperature. "

She suddenly realized, "I really don't know. I thought the higher the drive, the lower the temperature. "

The "leader" put a hot towel on his mother's neck for a while, and her cough slowly subsided.

After these things, I said to the "leader" privately: "Tang Xiao took the initiative to take care of the elderly, but after all, she lacked education and limited knowledge. Sometimes she is a little self-righteous, uncertain and doesn't ask us. Cooking is a trivial matter. We can eat whatever she cooks, as long as we can eat. I can't believe she can't even turn on the air conditioner, and she almost caught my mother cold. In addition, if I give my mother medicine without asking us, I am worried that she is used to doing things according to her own understanding and experience. If I give my mother the wrong medicine, I will be in big trouble. So be sure to make it clear to her in advance, pay more attention, and give advice in time to avoid mistakes. "

"Yes, I also found this problem." One afternoon, I saw that Tang Xiao was going to give her mother antihypertensive drugs, so I asked her,' Didn't you take antihypertensive drugs this morning? Why did you eat again?' She said,' Isn't it twice a day? I told her that the doctor made it clear that antihypertensive drugs can only be taken once a day. She said shyly, "Sorry, I forgot." However, on the whole, Tang Xiao's care for his mother is good, although there are some shortcomings, which are secondary issues. As long as we are careful, try to explain the relevant matters to her in advance, observe more and pay more attention to communication with her, so as to avoid her making her own decisions according to her subjective wishes. "

I quite agree with the statement of "leadership". To treat nannies, first of all, we should respect each other and treat nannies as members of the family equally, instead of bossing them around blindly, which makes people feel that there are personality differences. In the process of nursing mother, we try our best to think things over carefully and explain them to her concretely, so as to give full play to her strengths and make up for her shortcomings.

When chatting with us, Tang Xiao also told us some of their "dirty laundry", which shows that she trusts us more. At this time, we tried not to express our opinions, but listened carefully to her narrative and only responded with Nuo Nuo, noncommittally. I find it impolite and inconvenient to make irresponsible remarks about other people's family affairs. After all, what we have heard is her one-sided statement, which is easy to dictate and careless, and may be unfair. Perhaps, she just poured out some unhappiness to us to ease her inner boredom. Here, apart from us, she really has no one else to talk to, and she doesn't expect us to judge her speech.

Tang Xiao is quick-thinking, not beating around the bush, and sometimes a little stubborn. He is never shy in front of us. One day, the doctor came to change his mother's medicine and asked us, "Did you massage the old man's broken foot?"

I said, "twice a day."

The doctor said, "No massage."

This is completely different from what the doctor said when I was in the hospital. I can't help but feel a little confused.

Tang Xiao, who was standing by, immediately said to me, "I said I can't massage, but your wife must insist on massage."

"If you massage like this," the doctor explained further with a massage, "it will make your feet rotate axially and affect the healing of broken bones."

After the doctor left, Tang Xiao was still mumbling about the topic just now, as if she wanted to prove her experience. This caused me some unhappiness, so I stopped her: "Stop it. Massage was specially ordered by the doctor when he was in hospital. At that time, the main consideration was that my mother's legs had been pulled and could not move, and she was worried about venous thrombosis, which would lead to lesions. Now my mother's condition has greatly improved, and venous thrombosis is unlikely. The main consideration is the healing of fracture. The doctor's request for no more massage is naturally correct. The requirements in different periods will naturally be different. We will do as the doctor asks. You can't simply say that massage is right or wrong. "

Of course, we are not doctors after all, and we should listen to doctors in nursing. Some of our practices may also have subjective wishes. However, we certainly follow the doctor's previous statement when the doctor has no new requirements on what to do and what not to do. Tang Xiao's statement may be just a coincidence. She has never taken care of a similar patient before, and she is not very clear about when to massage and when not to massage.

Nevertheless, I still have some appreciation for Tang Xiao's stubbornness. She expresses her true thoughts and doesn't want to flatter others, especially her employer.

Tang Xiao prefers watching TV. She doesn't watch the news or songs and dances, but loves watching TV plays. She likes watching "Mom's Peach Blossom" being broadcast by Hunan Satellite TV. As long as she has time, she reads almost every issue. After dinner every day, she feeds her mother medicine and food, and then washes her body and feet. After doing this, my mother began to fall asleep, and the TV series "Mom's Peach Blossom Luck" was about to begin. She sat in front of the TV set, enjoying the TV play seriously. As the story goes on, she often comments to herself about the story, and sometimes laughs and is extremely involved. But as long as she heard her mother's movement, she quickly ran to her mother's room to check, which was sensitive to her profession. In the afternoon, I don't know which channel it is. She also watches The Journey to the West. Once, my brother-in-law saw her watching Journey to the West and asked her, "Journey to the West is an old TV series many years ago. Haven't you seen it? "

Without taking her eyes off the TV screen, she said, "Yes, as long as there is something to see, I still want to see it. This Journey to the West movie is good-looking. " It can be said that she is a fan of Journey to the West.

We also try our best to take care of Tang Xiao's entertainment hobbies. Afternoon, or after eight o'clock in the evening, is often the time for mother to fall asleep. At this time, we took the initiative to look after our mother and let Tang Xiao watch TV. Although there is no clear agreement between us, we both know each other well and have become a routine, but we also cooperate tacitly.

One day at noon, Tang Xiao answered the phone. On the phone, she was emotional and rude. Afterwards, she told me that her youngest son called her. So she told me about her little son.

Her youngest son is in his early thirties. He talked about a girlfriend, a native of Shaanxi, whom he met while working in Dongguan. They lived together for several years. Later, they set up a clothing factory, and her son invested all his money in it. However, due to poor management, the clothes produced could not be sold and the factory closed down, so all the money went to Shui Piao. As a result, the son and his girlfriend were in conflict, and his girlfriend left his son. Later, a Jiangxi girl who worked together pursued her son, who liked the girl very much and came to their home. However, the girl has a four-year-old child. Because her husband is lazy, loves playing cards and doesn't care about his family. They often quarrel. To this end, she wants to divorce her husband and pursue her son, and she is still struggling until now. She reminded her son that she was a married woman. Aren't you afraid of delaying yourself when she keeps pestering her like this? But her son wouldn't listen and said, "I'm responsible for my own business."

"Oh, it's not up to mother!" She sighed heavily and said helplessly, "I told you, let him go, I don't care!" " "

Looking at her breathless and helpless appearance, I have some sympathy for her. So I said to her very seriously: "Your little son's affair is actually an affair, which involves legal issues. If the woman really wants to get along with your son, she must make up her mind to dissolve the existing marriage as soon as possible. Otherwise, it is likely that her money will be hollowed out and her love will be over, just like his previous love. "

"This is unlikely, because they have been together for several years. That woman really likes my son. " Tang Xiao's stubbornness appeared again.

I further explained: "Since we have been together for several years, and the woman really pursues your youngest son, why can't we get a divorce for a long time?"

"Men don't want to."

"What if that person sues your son through legal means on the grounds that a third party has destroyed his family?"

"I didn't think about it." She was silent. I know, she has no education and narrow knowledge. How did she think of such a profound question?

"Tang Xiao, don't think I can't do this problem. This is the reality facing your son. Once a lawsuit is filed, it will be very troublesome. First, it will hurt your mind. Second, it will hurt your money and consume your son's good years. "

Tang Xiao was silent. My words seemed to touch her and make her start to think seriously.

Then go back to my hometown in the country to see my brother. When I came back the next day, in the living room, Tang Xiao and the "leader" were talking about her little son's date again. She said, "I think what my eldest brother said that day is reasonable. Later, I called my son to remind him to handle things properly and learn from the previous lessons. Otherwise, you will still be empty-handed after working for many years. However, the son said on the phone,' Mom, why do you always mention money? I'm in my thirties, so you must believe me. Alas ..... "She sighed heavily and shook her head with a helpless look:" I made it very clear that my son wouldn't listen, and there was nothing I could do. Let him go. "

I interjected, "Your son is probably getting to the bottom of it. Not to mention money', he was fooled again, the money was hollowed out and the time was delayed. How can he find someone alive? "Her son's attitude makes me feel helpless.

The "leader" interjected: "Your son is so old that you have done your duty as a mother. But you can't give up easily. Persuade him a few times, maybe you will understand. "

Tang Xiao said helplessly, "This is the only way. Hey! "

What happened to her youngest son really bothered her, but it didn't affect her care for the elderly. When she started doing things, it was like a different person, and the gloomy clouds on her face disappeared. She also talks and laughs with the "leader" from time to time, and occasionally plays a joke or two with her mother to make her happy. I was deeply impressed by her professionalism and good psychological quality.