The ability of emotional management determines how far away from success.

Sometimes we can't concentrate on one thing well, largely because we can't control our emotions well.

You may have had the experience of sitting there trying to read a book, but you couldn't read it. Your mind is full of ideas, which makes your heart restless. So, you may open a book and close it in a hurry without reading a few pages.

Do you remember reading a novel in one breath when you were a child? Do you remember playing with your toys when you were a child? At that time, we were very simple and didn't know how high the sky was and how thick the ground was.

When we grow up, our minds carry too much information: studying, looking for a job, buying a house, getting married and so on. Everything contains countless information that we need to master. As a result, anxiety came, troubles came, and our hearts became no longer calm.

Now, I live a simplified life, manage my emotions with the power of simplification, and keep my heart in a completely calm state. Today, Xiao Fang will talk about how to keep his heart calm, eliminate external interference, concentrate on doing what he likes and enjoy it.

First, stop complaining about the world.

There are too many people around us who complain about the world. I get complaints from all kinds of people almost every day. Mother complains that she has too much housework and has no time to do what she likes. A friend complained that the food in the school cafeteria was terrible. When playing basketball, some people complain that basketball is flat. If you do a statistic, how many people are complaining at the end of the day, I think this number will surprise you.

How nice it is to live in this world, why complain? I am full of troubles today, isn't it the tomorrow that the people who died yesterday prayed for? We should look at the world with gratitude. Thanks to these sufferings, I can still feel the pain in the world.

Sometimes, things are not good or bad, but people who look at problems are in different realms.

Maybe you live in poverty, maybe you have no friends, maybe you have no job, maybe you have no family, so you are eager to lighten your heavy burden. However, sometimes fate is not so smooth, and there will always be one or two things that will make you fall into the abyss of complaining. Sigh your bad fate, complain about your origin, parents, boss. ...

Stop your complaining and calm your fidgety mood. These things you complain about are not the cause of your present situation, but your own mentality. And these situations will never change unless you are willing to change your mentality.

When I complained about my poor jumping ability, I met someone without legs in the street.

When I complained that there was a fly in this dish, I passed by a scavenger on the roadside.

When I complained that the house was too busy, I saw passengers sleeping on the street at the station.

When I complained about too much homework and work, I saw out-of-school children and laid-off workers.

These things we complain about may be worth showing off in the eyes of others. Are we moaning or moaning?

Second, simplify life and stay away from the hubbub.

There is a simple story: a man saw an old man fishing by the sea. Strangely, he put the fish he caught back into the sea. The man didn't understand and asked the old man, "Why don't you sell the fish you caught?" "The old man asked," Why should I sell it? " The man replied, "then you can make money." The old man asked, "What if you have money?" The man said, "It's good to have money. With money, you can earn more money, and then you can buy a house by the sea, where you can blow the sea breeze and fish every day. What a wonderful life ... "The old man smiled and said," What do you think? "

This story is profound. What we have been pursuing is actually what we already have. When we stop complaining about the world, we will look at the problem with gratitude.

Only when a person is calm and calm can he have keen insight and extraordinary judgment. Therefore, in life, I often look for this opportunity to be alone and think about how to simplify my life and stay away from the hubbub.

If you feel that your emotions are out of control, try to stay away from this flashy world and walk alone in the mountains. Feel the power of nature and calm your heart. At this time, your thoughts will gather together, and your insight and judgment will reach the peak, so that you can face any difficulties, including your own shortcomings.

Third, know yourself deeply.

Get to know yourself, know your inner enemies, and start thinking about how to solve problems and defeat them.

The ability to manage one's emotions is gradually cultivated. After numerous setbacks, I will gradually cultivate my perseverance. In the face of any problem, to keep inner peace, first of all, don't complain, but look at the problem with gratitude. Use your innate keen insight and judgment to solve problems. Only by solving the problems that you can't do can you be promoted. The same is true of emotional management ability.