Psychological phenomena in life

The working principle of the brain is very interesting, not following logical reasoning, but following "thinking is acting", "concentration" and "ideal is reality". Knowing this, I can actively adapt to it, use it, respect it, use it for me and reduce my troubles. I have carefully sorted out the psychological phenomena in my life and welcome everyone to share them.

The story of losing an umbrella, "thinking is doing"

I got off work a few days ago, because it was cloudy, I brought an umbrella and a handbag. I went to the bathroom first, looked at the umbrella in my hand, hesitated, and thought it was good to put the umbrella on the marble countertop of the washbasin.

When I got home, I found that my umbrella was not in my hand. In retrospect, remember to put the umbrella on the table outside the bathroom and make sure the connection between the table and the umbrella, that is, the umbrella was left there.

I went to work the next day and looked outside the bathroom. I don't have an umbrella, so I contacted the building property company on WeChat and asked if anyone had saved this umbrella.

After work in the afternoon, I worked a little overtime. The night is getting dark and the autumn rain is falling. Not bad, not big. Holding a handbag in a light rain, I caught the bus, failed to read, and went home in a mess.

Until the evening, the property didn't reply whether I found the umbrella. I muttered to myself and took out a book from my handbag and rummaged about it, but I was surprised to find that the umbrella was in the bag. I never let it go like this! Explain the property to others quickly. I found it!

In other words, when I was in a hurry to catch the bus and travel in the rain, the umbrella was in my bag.

I carry an umbrella with me, but in my mind, I am a person without an umbrella, and even like that little story, I give birth to heroism out of thin air. "Children without umbrellas must run fast."

I believe everyone is familiar with this story of losing an umbrella, and they will have similar experiences, which shows that memory is unreliable, but besides, this story also reflects the essence of psychology very classically.

Psychology is the function of the brain, and the subconscious mind does not distinguish between "thinking" and "doing"

Scientific psychology tells us that "psychology is the function of the brain and the reflection of objective reality". This definition tells us what psychology is. To understand in popular words is what we often say, "What we think in our hearts will be seen" and "What we think outside will be seen".

However, psychological phenomena will fool us, such as losing an umbrella. Why do we believe that the umbrella will fall on the table when we are wrong? Is it because of our brain function problems or are we used to distorting and reflecting objective reality?

Of course not. But this occasional problem also reflects a subtle essence of psychology.

That is to say, in the psychogenic brain, the subconscious in the brain does not distinguish between "thinking" and "doing", that is to say, the subconscious only pays attention to the thing itself and does not care whether it actually happens.

Furthermore, subconsciously, when something appears in the brain, such as wanting to put an umbrella on the table, it is released. "Thinking is doing, and doing is thinking" is too lazy to pay attention to the difference between ideal and reality.

The story of taking medicine, "Doing is thinking"

Because of toothache, the doctor wrote two kinds of anti-inflammatory drugs in the medical record, suggesting that the anti-inflammatory drugs should be treated first. When I got home, I took the medical record book and wanted to go to the drugstore downstairs to buy medicine.

I walked around the house several times, trying to let my lover accompany me, but I couldn't find the medical record when I went out.

This time, unlike the so-called lost umbrella, my brain somehow found the connection place. This time, I really can't remember where I put it. It's strange to wander around the room I've just been to and find nothing.

Unconsciously, I touched my pocket. It was in my coat pocket, and the zipper was tightly pulled for fear of falling out.

In fact, this is still a ghost of psychological consciousness. It's like I already thought of it. As for whether to remember, that is another matter.

To the brain, things don't exist objectively at all. Things are only reflected in the brain, and what enters the brain is psychology.

Only in this way can we understand Wang Yangming's theory of mind that "there is nothing outside the heart, and the heart is rational" and correctly understand that "psychology is the function of the brain"

What benefits does this "mind is reason" have for us? Let's look at the following two inspirations.

Speak positively and say more positive words.

We know that educating children needs more affirmation, less punishment, more positive encouragement and less attack and sarcasm. In addition to the principle of psychological operating conditions, it can actually be explained by "thinking is doing" in the brain.

The subconscious mind does not distinguish between affirmation and negation, but only understands the focus of the "noun" we want to express, so your negation will only be understood by the brain as affirmation.

For example, we ask children to do their homework in time instead of watching TV. We just say "Do your homework quickly" and don't say "Don't watch TV" to gild the lily, so that children's brains will think that "homework and TV" can be done, because these two nouns are the focus of stimulation.

Of course, children will understand what their parents really mean, but don't forget that children's brains are similar to ours, and they will make the mistake of "thinking and doing". The subconscious receives two kinds of information. When these information are contradictory, it will consume children's psychological energy to distinguish. Energy is used in these ineffective aspects, of course, other aspects will inevitably reduce energy support.

This reminds us that what we want to say should be concise and direct, don't beat around the bush, use more affirmative sentences and less negative sentences.

To be specific, say more concise words.

The brain has to deal with a lot of subjective and objective stimuli every day, and in many cases it can only pay attention selectively. This is a skill that the brain must learn in evolution, otherwise it will only be confused and unable to act in choice.

The subconscious thinks it has its own characteristics, and it also tells us to be as specific and concise as possible, so that the brain can receive accurate information effortlessly and take action.

There is one thing to pay attention to when praising children. There must be something specific. Don't praise them in general. For example, if a child does well in the exam, he can say "study hard and get something" instead of simply saying "really smart".

There is a rule in interpersonal communication that critics must be specific and detailed, which makes people feel that they are "talking about things" and "not talking about people", otherwise they will be suspected of completely denying others.

On the contrary, praising a person can be general, and no one doesn't like being affirmed, even if it is exaggerated. This is the "aronson effect", and it is better to have concrete examples.

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