Aunt Square Dance's Senior High School Composition on Disturbing People

A few days ago, Chinese websites at home and abroad could see the news that aunt was thrown dung when dancing, and a man in Beijing was unbearable to square dance and put a shotgun on Tibetan mastiff. There are also some grandmothers who dance in the square dance regardless of others' study and rest, and ask each other why they don't pretend to be sound insulation glass.

Aunt's square dance has become a public hazard. Can the aunts' children spend some effort to persuade them to go back safely? Regarding this proposal, a friend of mine, Weibo, said, "Children can't persuade them to go back. Why let a generation of people who don't study go home? They can only watch their parents' short programs on blind date mediation on TV, and they will not be lonely at all. Going home, the old couple stared at each other for two days and came out again. "

China society is aging day by day. What should people do when they are old? According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, aunt dancing not only exercises, but also meets other needs, such as belonging. Unlike most office workers today, the older generation are mostly "unit people" and instinctively feel that they need to belong to a group, need to be concerned, needed and cared for.

Living in two "countries", I can't help but make a comparison for reference. It should be noted that both China and the United States have the problem of aging, and some of my remarks are only a rough summary from the convenience of narration.

In America, it is said that old people and children don't live together, and the land is vast and sparsely populated, so they should be lonely. But why is there no such problem? The phrase "the United States is a paradise for children and a hell for the elderly" is widely circulated among China people, because many elderly people have inconvenient transportation and language barriers. Most local old people seem to enjoy it, and even say that they are "young people in their hearts". There are also some communities and apartments for the elderly (commonly known as apartments for the elderly), saying that residents must be over 65 years old.

I found that the elderly in the United States retired later, which greatly eased the problem of loneliness. Many old Americans go to work until they really can't do it anymore. There is no concept of "unit" in America. After retiring from one place, they continued to work in another place, including doing chores at Wal-Mart. Maybe these retired jobs are not well paid, but there is always something to do. China retired too early, and some people retired at the age of 50. If you live to be 80, you will stay at home for 30 years. If you have the chance, you should find something else to do. It's not just about money. It's wonderful and fulfilling to be alive and dedicated to others. If there are no job opportunities, volunteering is not bad.

Now many old people think about how to keep fit all day. If a person always lives by his side, he will pack himself smaller and smaller and become more and more depressed.

Enriching community life should be the only way for an aging society. Community life in America is very developed. Many middle-aged and elderly people go to church, study the Bible on Wednesday and go to church on Sunday, and there may be other opportunities for collective study, which meets a deep need for community belonging. Besides religious institutions, there are many other community projects. For example, I have been to many clubs, such as "Women's Club" and "Poetry Club". If this kind of community center is also held in China (even if it is for profit, let everyone pay a fee), or if the existing community center is really put into use, it can also solve the problem that middle-aged and elderly people can't find a "third place" after leaving their units and families.

Writing here, some old friends may ask: Are you not old one day? I think it's unnatural for people to be sick and weak when they are old, and I don't expect it, but I like writing and translation, and no one bothers me. You don't have to worry about boredom when you are old. In fact, you should cultivate some hobbies when you are old. After all, you should spend a lot of time alone in your later years. At this time, it is good to regain the ideals of the past. For example, mccourt, an Irish writer, found himself free after retirement and began to write. In his later years, he wrote many influential books, such as Angela's ashes and Teacher.

Not everyone has this talent, but there are many things that can be done, and they are very operable. For example, an old colleague of mine spent a lot of time sorting out home videos. She arranged the family photos and then dubbed them to form various stories. She showed these films at the family gathering, and they were very popular with the extended family. Then burn it into DVD and distribute it to families. For these films, she even went far away to take pictures of her ancestors' tombstones and was busy all day.

I also know an old gentleman who began to learn to be a carpenter when he was old and made a lot of furniture for future generations and relatives. Then he began to buy machines and learn how to make pens. Last time we went, he gave us some. After all the deliveries were completed, he began to learn to grow vegetables at home. In short, it is anti-aging through learning.

There are also some old people who come to learn things and cultivate their sentiments. I just saw some old people start to learn vocal music and piano. According to conventional thinking, everyone thinks that children's learning is useful, so let them learn piano and painting when their cognitive load is heaviest, and let them complain. Speaking of the original intention, most parents don't want their children to become famous and married, just let them cultivate their sentiments. In the middle-aged and elderly stage, I have no feeling. Why not cultivate? Middle-aged and elderly people can learn a lot, so of course, don't study medicine casually.

A good family relationship should solve the problem of loneliness and boredom in old age. Those retired aunts who dance square dance may be empty nesters and feel that they are no longer needed by their children. They are very frustrated and need to find a way to prove their existence. As you may know, there are not a few Chinese marriages that ignore each other's quarrels. They find little comfort at home. It's good to go dancing in the square. Some become helicopter parents, hovering over their children's heads, interfering in their lives, forcing them to talk about marriage, rushing to have grandchildren, or directly reaching out to small families to manipulate and fight a proxy war. This is a sign that there is not much to do. If their wives please and appreciate each other, who wants to be outside all day? Always going out to dance, may not solve family problems or problems? I used to be