Why can the person have trouble?

People live in this world, and everyone will have their own troubles. When I was a child, I was frustrated because of toys, and later because of my academic performance. When they grow up, they are not satisfied with their expectations of work, love and even marriage. When they get old, they will continue to look forward to growing up because of the decline of their children's health. When they grow up, they want to retire, and finally they want to go back to the past. Our life seems to be a troublesome relay, constantly plagued by depression. So, what caused all this? How to solve this kind of emotion?

Because of greed

Everyone has their own standard requirements for life and their own plans, ideals and pursuits for life. We collectively call it self-motivated, but in fact it has a nickname called greed. In the process of growing up, if we can properly control ourselves, it will become the driving force for progress. However, once your desire is out of control and exceeds your self-control, it will become a kind of greed.

We constantly pursue and compare, and strive for the goals that we have not yet achieved. It is human nature to think about it, so there will always be some destinations ahead that consume the true meaning of our all-out efforts. When we have no job, we just want to have enough food and clothing. When we get paid, we need high technology. After we have high technology, we expect a high position and a recognized attitude and reputation. We are always increasing our desires and goals, but it is difficult to moderately control the scope and speed of their development.

Therefore, in the process of chasing, people are easily lost, so that they forget the purpose of starting at the beginning and rarely stop to think about their own behavior and life. Whenever they accomplish their ideals, they will never feel happy, nor will they occasionally stop to enjoy the pleasure and achievements, but blindly continue the next journey.

Man is just an intelligent machine. Sooner or later, his energy will run out and he will continue to be physically and mentally exhausted repeatedly. He doesn't even know why he wants to live at a certain moment. It's hard to keep this state without worrying. In fact, it is not a decadent lack of progress, but a kind of recuperation that is ready to go. Communicating with your lover can enhance feelings, increase motivation, interact with children, make children grow up more happily, enjoy the temperature of home, talk with wise people around them and expand their new ideas. Sometimes stopping will be a faster and better booster for your next walk.

Forget the initial heart and lose yourself.

Whether it is love or life, we often call it the most beautiful metaphor. Don't forget your active mind. In fact, because it is the most difficult thing to do, it is as full of satisfying expectations as wishing on a meteor. Another weakness of human nature is that it is easily changed by the environment, and the atmosphere of the circle really easily affects a person's temperament.

Sometimes I always feel indestructible, but I will still be controlled by some normal thoughts and behaviors around me, and I will be more easily bound by my own free thoughts. Sometimes I just want to reply to an email when I open a web page, but I accidentally see a news and encounter a name I haven't heard before, so I started the process of searching for information from Baidu. In the process of searching, the recommended goods suddenly pop up, which once again becomes a process of adding shopping carts to compare the price and quality and repeatedly converting and overlapping.

We always repeat similar behaviors day after day. Sometimes people have their own survival values and bottom line standards, and they will be full of disdain for some strange behaviors and dresses of people around them. However, there is a great chance of being infected and becoming a type of group, avoiding the inevitable contact every day and every year, and feeling that my original definition is too hasty and I don't understand the charm worthy of appreciation. Sometimes we become people we used to hate, which is a kind of self-suppression and compromise to realize reality, more because we are used to the end of all this being transformed and assimilated.

Unnecessary worry

Be prepared for danger in times of peace is the premise of great wisdom and great achievements. Instead of excessive behavior based on anxiety and worry about gain and loss, it will become an alarmist. This kind of worry will not be thinking about yourself, but will over-strengthen the worry, be afraid of the possibility of the scene that you think will appear, and fall into a dead end of self-limitation and be unable to save yourself. Such self-seeking troubles will not only bother you, but also affect people around you.

What an alarmist can do is not to solve his worries, but to increase his anxiety today, increase his burden tomorrow and lose his happiness today. I am happier than ever before, and I don't need to be eager for other people's understanding and recognition in my life. Excessive anxiety and expectation will become the root of people's survival troubles. Sometimes entertaining yourself is the secret of a happy life. Even in the face of an imperfect life, it is the most correct choice to face it bravely, because covering up the truth often requires more efforts.

Therefore, instead of worrying, it is better to cultivate yourself and enhance your value. Think positively in everything, look forward, think about solutions in everything, treat things in life with a relaxed heart, and see through more, so that you will naturally not ask for trouble and be full of troubles.

Only yourself, no one else.

Selfishness is human nature, which is actually not a heinous character and problem. But some people only consider themselves, their own views, positions, demands and needs. "I will be comfortable like this" "I will succeed like that" "How can you help me and make me get more benefits easily" "I like XX" and "I love XX". Everything is perceived and standardized from the starting point of self. He longed for people all over the world to be his own slaves, but unfortunately he didn't have the strength. If he doesn't get expectations for a long time, he will naturally be upset.

People with such temperament and conduct are most likely to have conflicts with others, because no one will really be born for him, can work for him for money, and can be temporarily tolerant because of too much love. But over time, people will have resistance, and he will be filled with more serious irritability because everyone is not up to standard. The conclusion is that no intelligent and caring person in this world can cooperate with himself. It's a pity that he is really tired.

delay

I don't know when procrastination has gradually become an epidemic, which exists in almost everyone. However, I think there is almost no possibility of procrastination in the pleasant thing of taking money out, so we can see that whatever the reason, the procrastination must be something we didn't like at the beginning. When we don't like it, we will conflict with it. The price behind the delay is that it takes more time and energy to complete this single question. A mountain of troubles came to us to collect debts. I'm afraid an upset word can't explain the mood at that time.

In fact, most of the so-called troubles are caused by themselves, which is inevitable after the accumulation of many accidental thoughts. But whether it is temporary or lifelong depends on your ability to control your life. Let's keep inner peace, prevent troubles from taking root in the inner green space, think about problems from multiple angles and care about the feelings of others. While being popular with people, you will be less likely to have trouble. Whether you are happy or not, whether you are happy or not, life will never stop for you, let alone listen to you. But as long as you are sincere and calm, God will certainly hear your troubles, open your high-dimensional wisdom, give you an energy to get rid of your troubles, or treat your troubles tenaciously and openly.

All this is actually done quietly, every second of your life. They are consuming your life and creating more "new life" for you.

Tell you a story. Eight years ago, my family rented an elder sister from Anhui next door.

During that time, we went out early and came back late every day, and we could see her walking, shopping and chatting in the community. Daughter called grandma, she pretended to be angry, and then happily told her children to call aunt next time. Finding that the roadside lights were not turned off, she would take the initiative to go to the property to help find the owner; Whenever there is a big discount in the supermarket, she will inform us upstairs and downstairs ... everything looks so beautiful.

But one day, at the gate of the community, we heard her husband tell us in a choked voice that she was actually in the terminal stage of cancer, with only the last eight months left. At that moment, we were all silent, filled with sadness, pity and sigh.

In the last three months of her life, she was admitted to the hospital. Our neighbors in several buildings took turns to visit her in the hospital. We pretended as if nothing had happened and told her that a new bus had opened on the edge of the community and that a school was opening. We told her many happy things, but we didn't want to mention her illness.

But what we didn't expect was that she grinned and acted strong. She said:

Don't always hesitate, I know my illness myself. You always think you can hide it from me. Actually, I knew it before I lived in your neighborhood. I only have seven or eight months to live ... think about it. No big deal. People will die. Since there is no way to prolong life, please enjoy the last quality left by life.

Then she added: Look at the young people under 30 in our 22 buildings. They were fine when they went out in the morning. When they came back in the evening, they had already left. The children are only over two years old ... what am I? I am much luckier than him! At least, God gave me half a year to say goodbye to this world.

Yes, eight months is not a long time for many people! But for me, I can do a lot of things ... my parents' life after a hundred years, I have all the clothes and shoes ready. I went to the gold shop a few days ago to buy gifts for my future daughter-in-law and grandson. Although I am gone, they won't see me, but I can't live without these things.

Perhaps, at the last moment, people will especially believe in fate. She told us: people are like this all their lives! Sometimes there must be something in life, and there is no need to force it in life. Now I can figure out many things that I couldn't figure out before.

In the past, I was always worried I have been worried that I can't find a good husband, my life is not as good as my sister, my work is not as good as people, and my performance can't go up. I'm worried about the safety of my husband's sports car outside, and I often take care of myself, but I can't take care of my home and my children, but I can't take care of my husband. I hate my low education and I can't be a harmonious person.

Later, the child went to school and began to worry about his son's grades. He won the tenth place in his class. I don't think he is in the top five. He was admitted to a key high school, and I am worried that he will not be admitted to a good university ... People are always arrogant, their hearts are higher than the sky, their lives are thinner than paper, and their desires are always beyond imagination. If I can stay longer, I will definitely worry about his graduation, marriage and children, and I will try my best to buy him a bigger house. ...

When I am alive, I always like to constantly ask for trouble, press it repeatedly, and then push myself to the corner step by step.