I am very sensitive. Why am I always unhappy?

Hello, Dr. Zhang! I am a sensitive person. Many times, I am always in a mood of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss. When I associate with others, I always keep my distance and never talk to others easily, because I don't like others coming too close to me, and I especially care about others' comments on me. Although I know many people and have many casual acquaintances, there are very few friends who really talk to them, so sometimes I feel helpless when I have something in my heart. Looking around, I can't find anyone to talk to, because I am always worried that after telling others, others will spread it, or they will look at me differently afterwards, for fear that others will think that I am not what I appear to be. Our neighbor's car was parked in front of our house the other day. Although our car went out, their car stopped in front of my house, which still affected the traffic. I don't usually like this neighbor. They always talk beautifully, but behind their backs, they are the kind of people who hide the knife in their smile. I am very unhappy to see their car parked here, but I can't say anything. Later, I wrote a note and stuck it on their window glass, telling them: Please don't park in front of my house, it will affect our parking. As a result, I have been uneasy since I posted this note. I'm afraid they will see it, and I hope they will. I'm afraid they will think I'm a picky person and exaggerate others. I am afraid that those who are not familiar with me will leave a bad impression on me. That's it. A note made me nervous all day. Maybe this is nothing to others at all, but it is an unspeakable helplessness to me. Often do bad things with good intentions, and finally get depressed and unhappy. In particular, I am very enthusiastic about what I am involved in. Sometimes I seem to be too enthusiastic and feel that my behavior is regarded as a joke by others. And I can't have anything in my heart. If something needs to be repaired at home, my husband has no time to take care of it, so I have to do it myself. I'm annoyed. I'm worried that my daily life will be affected if the broken items are not repaired in time. I'm also worried that I can't find a good teacher and I'm worried about time ... I'm always afraid that I can't do it well. As a result, things are not as complicated as I thought. I always like to plan ahead and find things difficult. Because sometimes I think things are simple, but when I actually do what I want to do, I always can't do it well, so in the long run, I imagine the problem is very complicated. Fortunately, I still have my own hobbies: reading books and listening to music. I think books are my most loyal friends. It will always be with me as long as I need it. Music can adjust my mood and make my thoughts fluctuate with the melody. According to the letter, the client described her as sensitive and always in the mood of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss. When she has something on her mind, she is afraid that others will spread her own affairs, afraid to confide in others at will, and very sensitive to others' comments and opinions on her. However, faced with things that need to be solved independently, they are always afraid and worried. Judging from these performances, customers have more serious anxiety. First, find your hobbies and relax. In the letter, the client mentioned that his hobbies are reading and listening to music. I think these are two very good hobbies. The parties can usually do more activities in this area to relax themselves. Besides reading books and listening to music, you can also do more physical exercise activities, such as mountaineering, swimming, walking and playing ball games. See which sports you are interested in and choose the one that suits you. Because reading books and listening to music are mostly static activities, which are also the scope of mental activities, and anxiety itself is also a manifestation of brain activities, it is easier to make the brain feel tired just by reading books or listening to music, and increase some physical exercise to adjust the body, so as to achieve the combination of static and dynamic, style and style, which not only cultivates the sentiment, but also exercises the body, relaxes the body and mind, and releases your anxiety in these activities to make yourself happy! Second, adopt the method of "desensitization". Although the parties can't let go of everything, they should at least be able to control their entanglement in some things. If you park your car in front of your house like the next time you meet your neighbor, you can ask your husband to inform the neighbor or report it to the neighborhood Committee and the property management staff for coordination, and remind yourself not to take this matter to heart, not to care about other people's opinions and comments, no matter what the final result is. If the items at home need to be repaired or have someone repair them, you can tell yourself to do it with confidence. It's no big deal if it's not fixed. It's really impossible to exchange it for a new one. Although there will be some economic losses, it will always be fixed in the end, so your mood will be very relaxed. Although it is difficult for customers to completely desensitize, through handling these small things, through their own efforts and appropriate reminders from their families, they can gradually desensitize themselves, relax themselves and successfully desensitize themselves, without worrying or haggling over it. If the client can combine style and style, desensitize the system in a targeted way, and at the same time ensure his sleep time so that he can have a good rest, then his body and mind will gradually relax, and the anxiety symptoms that follow will gradually be alleviated. Although customers are sensitive to many things and easily anxious, which leads to unhappiness, these are not personality problems, but anxiety symptoms are more serious. The parties concerned can relieve their anxiety symptoms through their own efforts, and will not be unhappy because they are too sensitive!