Don't get married in a hurry. Understand these aspects before making a decision.

Don't get married in a hurry. Being single is not terrible, but with the growth of age, when you see people around you getting married and having children, and feel that you are getting farther and farther away from them, don't rush to get married. Don't get married in a hurry. Understand these aspects before making a decision. 1 Regarding the double bed, Shanghai Municipal People's Congress representative Bai said that chastity is the best dowry for girls. This sounds literary enough, but the following question is, if a girl gets married with this good dowry, but finds that the boy can't get it, should she change the archway until she dies? Before getting married, Claire knew that her boyfriend's sexual ability was normal, but she thought that her requirements were not too strong, and they were even and brought out the best in each other. What she didn't expect was that after marriage, her husband's decline was much faster than she thought. Besides, her desire is more like a flower that blooms every spring. Things you should know before marriage 1, men with average ability at present may plummet with acceleration after marriage; At present, the average ability of women, at least before the age of 40, is increasing year by year. The importance of sex will not only end with marriage, but also become more important. Even now, there is no problem with your asexual marriage, and it may become an atomic bomb that destroys relationships in the future. 2. Even if you really decide to take chastity as the best dowry, you need one or two experienced girlfriends to let them identify your boyfriend's ability in bed from appearance and intuition. But the most trustworthy thing is your mother's words. If your mother's evaluation of your future boyfriend is that you are in poor health, you basically don't have to ask what's wrong. It's said that personality is incompatible, but it's actually sexual. Cardiovascular work is stressful and fast-paced, and cardiovascular diseases have become the main killer threatening human beings. Compared with the fragile heart, the fragile nerves also belong to the "cardiovascular". A man's melancholy, weakness, childish and narrow-minded will be infinitely magnified by life. Although the husband is a woman's first son, a woman can never find a husband by the standard of finding a son. During the earthquake in Japan, Lucy's boyfriend suddenly got "Armageddon phobia". Even if he didn't want to go to work, Weibo kept brushing his screen. One minute I called her to tell her that nuclear radiation had reached Singapore, and the next minute I texted her that there had been a major earthquake in Beijing in recent three years. Lucy was troubled by him and began to doubt. She warned her that "such a fragile man must not get married." Don't expect him to mature, he will only grow old. " During the preparation of the wedding, Li Lan had frequent contact with her future husband's colleagues and friends, and found that when he was with them, he was cynical and foul-mouthed, and his closest friend was either unemployed or prepared to lose his job. Li Lan hesitated to get married, but she found that she didn't fully understand him. Things you should know before marriage 1. What are his friends like? Friends are our mirrors. If you are always alone with him, being together is nothing more than flirting and being very much in love, then you only know one-fifth of him. 2. What does he think of stress and frustration? If he always feels a lot of pressure, it can only show that his ability to resist pressure is poor. If he always complains about his incompetence, it can only show that his emotional intelligence is low. If he always says that he is busy, it only shows that he is not good at managing time. The problems in everyone's life are actually their own problems, and every loser is used to putting the blame on others. If there are problems in marriage in the future, he will only blame you for not loving him enough or having a bad temper. On the issue of money, Jingjing never talks about money with her boyfriend. She thinks it hurts to talk about money, and takes it for granted that her husband will give her a salary card after marriage. After marriage, the husband not only kept his finances secret, but also blamed Jingjing for spending money indiscriminately. The two often quarrel about who pays for the month and how much to give their parents. "When it comes to money, he seems to be a different person." What you should know before marriage: 1, his views on AA system. You can try to put forward the idea of going Dutch at dinner. If he accepts it frankly, it means that he may also want AA to spend money on your family after marriage, from property, water to monthly payment, raising children and supporting parents. Before you get married, you must find opportunities to make him spend a lot of money for you. The so-called large sum of money is not enough to bankrupt him, but five to ten times more than the money he is willing to spend for himself on weekdays. Please forget for a moment that thrift is a virtue. A man who is too thrifty in love often just feels that it is not worth paying money and anything else for you. When the money is not enough, does he think of making more money or cutting expenses first? This question helps to define whether he is a pioneer potential stock or a conservative blue chip stock. Both are good, but for materialistic women, potential stocks will be more helpful to meet your future needs. Don't get married in a hurry. Understand these aspects before deciding. Are you willing to help me financially? Frederick, divorce lawyer? Know if your partner wants to manage their finances alone and be honest with each other about their financial situation, Hertz said. How much are you willing to spend on a car, a sofa or a pair of shoes? Couples should ensure that the consumption concept is basically the same. Dr. Hertz believes that both sides can also turn the question into what they will spend. Can you accept that sometimes I go out to play by myself? Seth, president of the training institution "Practical Application of Intimacy Skills"? Eisenberg said that when people get married, they will want to have independent space in some areas of their lives. They may not want to share their hobbies or friends. If they don't communicate, it may cause estrangement between them and lead to tension between them. When you have differences with your relatives, how do you deal with them? Peter, founder of the American Couple Promotion Association? Pearson pointed out that the success of a relationship depends on how to deal with differences. This question will let you know how the other half solves the contradiction: quarrel, cold war or rational face. Of course, you can also talk about how parents handle conflicts, because many people will imitate their parents to handle family conflicts. Are we going to have a baby? Debbie, divorce and relationship counselor? Martinez said that it is not too early to talk about children before marriage. Whether to have children, how many children to have, when to have them, and contraceptive methods before not having children are all very important. The survey shows that nearly 40% couples will have a marriage crisis before and after giving birth, which has a lot to do with their different understanding of children. Is the experience with our predecessors helpful or an obstacle to us? Bradford, director of the National Marriage Program at the University of Virginia? Willcocks said, if you have experienced heart-and-soul feelings before, you might as well say it directly. On the one hand, it can avoid jealousy or harshness after marriage, on the other hand, it can explore each other's attitude and avoid comparing the present with the past. What's the difference in regional background? If they come from different regions, they are likely to have different cultures, living habits and languages, so they should agree on some common issues, such as children's education and marriage concepts. Tips: When choosing a marriage, men need to make great efforts to prepare for this wedding, and there are still many problems between men and women that need to be thought out before marriage.