What do cheating women want?

I remember a divorced lady said: Maybe marriage is just an impulse of love, and I was lost in that impulse. I was wrong about someone and married the wrong person.

I don't ask how many times I love in the afterlife, but I only ask if I can love without regrets in this life. Since I met him, I can't let myself regret it any more.

The lady fell in love with another man because of an affair, and then rejected her husband. Her husband, mindful of the old love, tried to persuade her, but three months later, he got her ruthless divorce request.

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I have heard many men say that their marriage is bitter, their wives move on and men become lonely. They still want to save it, but their wives have become cold-blooded.

There are many men who give me private messages. A question was asked over and over again, and they couldn't figure out why his wife liked a man who was obviously uglier than himself. They can't figure out why their wives want to move away and why they don't want to live. It all happened so fast. Why on earth?

In fact, these questions are not difficult to answer, just in line with that sentence: when love comes, it can't stop. When a person is confused for love, it is difficult to wake up. Maybe it's really hard to wake up, or maybe I just don't want to wake up

When married women fall in love with men outside marriage, their hearts may only have this "hard-won love". As for what marital responsibility, as for what to grow old together, it can't touch a woman's heart.

Yes, when a woman falls in love with another man, she will soon forget the original match. She thinks this love is true love, and she thinks she can give up her marriage for this love.

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This kind of psychology is very strange, but women have their own "reasons".

A woman nicknamed "The Year of Flowers" told me about her extramarital affairs. In my conversation with her, there may be answers that men need.

She said: I used to think that love is warm and marriage is caring. But after I got married, faced with the pressure of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, I realized that marriage is difficult, and it is nothing like falling in love. Food, clothing, housing and transportation cost money, and it costs money to walk around on holidays. There is still a lot of money to pay for all kinds of human relations.

Did the economic pressure ruin your relationship?

She said: economic pressure may be one of the reasons for the change of our husband and wife's feelings, but it is not the main reason. He is still my favorite man. At least that's what I thought before I had children.

After having children, there are more places to spend money, and the relationship between us is gradually tense. His salary is not high, and I know he is under great pressure, so I seldom complain in front of him. But he never considers my pressure and always talks about me. I have been holding back a grievance. I don't care about him for the sake of my child. But he is like an uncle. He likes to yell at me when he is angry.

It was his temper that angered you and made you move on, wasn't it?

She said: Not necessarily. Although he thinks I only care about the child and don't care about him, although we have quarreled many times. But I didn't change my mind at that time. I still love him, but my complaints are beginning to increase. Maybe my love for him is not obvious. He thinks I don't love him anymore and has always doubted me.

I have been trying to manage my marriage until my child is one year old. I devote myself to my family and just want to make the future better.

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Since you know so much about running a marriage, what makes you move on?

She said: I don't know why, that thing is like a set of dominoes. With the beginning, everything may be doomed. After the child was one year old, we invited her mother-in-law to look after the child. I started looking for a job and found a job in property management. I am responsible for calculating all the expenses.

In the process of working, I met a divorced man who lived in the warehouse behind the property. He always makes me happy. He often cooks lunch for me. At first, I was embarrassed to eat. I always go home and do it myself. But once it rained, I couldn't go home. He cooked me a big meal. Although embarrassed, I finally ate his cooking in the office. I won't go home for lunch after that. We take turns to buy food and eat together.

All this is done step by step. Did you like him then?

She said: Not necessarily. I just think he is easy-going and understands women's hearts. My husband and I have been married for two and a half years, and he cooks for me only a handful of times. Without contrast, there is no gap. I feel very sad in my heart. It should be sad. I always feel that my husband doesn't love me.

Once I went to his house to get a pipe, and it was as messy as a kennel as soon as I entered. I wonder if my brain is short-circuited. I can't believe I picked up tools to help him clean up. He has been thanking me since he came back, saying that if his ex-wife is one tenth as good as me, he will not divorce. He grabbed my hand and I was embarrassed, so I pulled it back. But I still feel flattered, unable to speak my mind, and my heart is pounding.

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I think you are in love with him this time. How did you start?

She said: I was not completely in love with him at that time. I really fell in love with him after my husband hit him. Once my husband and mother-in-law took their children back to their hometown, but I didn't. I was watching TV in the evening and he sent me a message. He said it was his birthday and no one was with me. He asked me if I wanted to have a drink with him. I thought something might happen, but I couldn't help going.

Maybe we drank too much, so we let nature take its course. Since then, we have been lovers. He said he wouldn't ruin my marriage and he respected my family. But there is no windtight wall in the world, and my husband saw my mind. He looked at my mobile phone and knew everything.

The next day, my husband went to my company and beat him up in front of many people. He was beaten badly. From then on, I felt sorry for him and I began to hate my husband. It's pathetic enough that people are divorced. It's too much for you to beat people and bully honest people.

I feel sorry for him, even if I use it for a lifetime, it can't compensate my husband for the harm he has done to me. After all, I am the one who is wrong, not him. Why did my husband hit someone else? He should have hit me. I love him out of pity, right? Finally, my husband and I divorced and planned to stay with him and find a place where no one knew us.

I see, this is your typical routine. This is not out of pity, but your subconscious excuse. All kinds of pressures in marriage make you slowly lose your attachment to marriage, but you have not found this crisis. When you meet a man who can move you, all kinds of dissatisfaction will erupt. Rome wasn't built in a day, which is the result of a one-off outbreak of the contradiction of long-term extrusion.

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The lady in her sixties divorced her husband, but her lover remarried her ex-wife. She is trying to get her ex-husband back now, and she knows she is wrong.

She said that every time she recalled the previous scene, she was confused. Perhaps "brain disorder" is the reason why women cheat. They may not covet anything, just because that lover has some advantages that her husband doesn't have.

Two people have been together for a long time, and if they don't pay attention to cultivating their feelings, there will be more and more bumps in their lives. This is a subtle change, slowly magnifying each other's shortcomings and narrowing each other's advantages.

From the perspective of marriage, this result is the responsibility of two people, not the divorced man. She can only blame herself, but her husband doesn't know how to cherish it. Of course, the main reason is that she doesn't cherish marriage.