I work in Shanghai, my colleagues are all locals, and my family background and education are good. How can we overcome inferiority complex?

Me too. The working environment and colleagues are mostly locals, and there is no shortage of money. I feel superior, but to be honest, I am very nice.

I once asked my husband, I said that I am a rural baby with low education and no money. Will you look down on me? Husband replied: Will you look down on yourself? No one will look down on you unless you look down on yourself [laughs].

Actually, I'm quite touched [crying]

I feel the same way about this problem. 20/kloc-settled in Shanghai in early May. I used to live in a third-tier city in northwest China, and my living standard was still above average. When I came to Shanghai, I found that my income was often not enough to pay the rent. There are many excellent talents in Shanghai, and my age and qualifications are not dominant. Competition in various industries is fierce, and network operation is the world of young people. The terms update, iteration and optimization have overwhelmed me in the sixties, and with the difficulty of practice, it is almost normal to feel inferior. Fortunately, I know some methods of self-adjustment. After living in recent years, I have some effective experiences and experiences that I have experimented with, and share them with you for reference:

1. Allow and accept that you can feel inferior. We are all mortals, and we are all affected by the environment. In a first-tier city like Shanghai, it's normal to feel inferior, but it's important to pay attention to whether you are trapped or not and grasp the balance. When you accept yourself, you will feel relaxed.

2. Face yourself objectively and integrate into the present environment in time. When you relax, it will be easier to look at your real situation objectively, and you will also look at things around you objectively. Pay attention to adjust yourself and integrate into real life.

3. Pay attention to your thinking habits and correct them in time. Usually inferiority comes from one's own misunderstanding. Comparing one's weaknesses with others' strengths will amplify one's bad feelings.

4. Focus on what you are good at. If you can work in Shanghai, you must have your strengths. Keep modest and eager to learn, work hard, and try your best to improve and optimize what you are good at.

5. Enhance inner strength. No matter where you live, inner balance and strength are very important, and a person with a strong heart will be respected by more people.

Me too, and in a state-owned enterprise in Shanghai. The point is that I'm still in the property business. The nature of work is still different. Although they all seem to have a good family, I don't feel inferior by driving to and from work every day. On the contrary, I think almost all of them rely on home, and my husband and I both buy houses and cars by our own efforts. I have no inferiority complex at all. If they grew up in the countryside like me and came to Shanghai to start their own business, they would not be much better than me, and their starting point would be different!

I think normal communication is enough.

In fact, as a long-term local resident, I can't really feel that the life of foreigners is more or less enviable.

Just like Qian Zhongshu's Fortress Besieged: People in the city want to go out of the city and want to go in.

As an international metropolis, Shanghai has not only foreigners, but also foreigners, which is already very tolerant. They haven't done anything bad for you, so they can communicate with each other and go to work normally.

For example, during the Spring Festival last year, I was the only foreigner in the group. As a native of Shanghai, my colleagues will ask me, will I go back to my hometown during the New Year? I said yes, I must go back. They are envious, because they are in Shanghai every New Year, and they have no chance to go out when they work in Shanghai. Chinese New Year is also a day of reunion. Old people are reluctant to go abroad, but they still envy me for leaving Shanghai aboveboard.

In fact, the great difference between locals and outsiders lies in the pressure of life. Locals have no rent or mortgage in Shanghai, but they have food and care for the elderly at home. Their wages are used to take care of themselves and live a petty bourgeoisie life, while foreigners have their own everything and have no extra money to be chic, so it seems that their economic ability is limited. They can't buy whatever they want, but they have to be careful what they can buy, so there seems to be an inferiority complex outside.

Real inferiority comes from pressure. It is not a bad thing to have pressure, and sometimes it may be a good thing. Can promote you to learn more, have more requirements for yourself than others, and slowly open the gap. It is just as good to be a respected foreigner.

Filling yourself with self-improvement will make your time thicker and more meaningful than doubting yourself with anxiety and inferiority.

As a foreigner, working in Shanghai, as long as you are polite, understanding and tolerant, there is nothing to feel inferior about. I believe Shanghainese will treat you as a friend. Good luck in your work in Shanghai.

Why feel inferior? You yourself have become colleagues with these so-called people with good innate conditions. You are on the same starting line, so you should be proud.

Big cities (except Shenzhen) are generally more exclusive. If you want to get their approval and integrate into their circle, you must be able to speak the local dialect. For example, Shanghai and Wuhan, no matter where you come from, as long as you can speak the local dialect, you will be recognized by them, which will be much more convenient for your future work, study and all aspects. Otherwise, you will be different, and they will always look at you with strange eyes!

They are local, which is their advantage, but we have worked hard from other places to Shanghai, which in itself reflects our own ability and personal quality. With this spirit, we keep working hard to improve our ability, psychological quality, work performance and confidence. You ask here, which actually proves that you are reflecting. In the long run, we will certainly develop well, and our inferiority will gradually withdraw.

People who can come to work in Shanghai and continue to live and develop are excellent people. This may be the mainstream understanding of 24 million people living in Shanghai.

Shanghai has a registered population of140,000, including 8 million people in old Shanghai (including surrounding areas) before the reform, more than 5 million foreigners who have been naturalized after the reform, and 9 million people who are not registered in Shanghai.

It is an insult that Shanghainese are Puxi people in the traditional sense. Now most of them live in scattered places. Locals in the traditional sense refer to people from Pudong, Nanhui, Jiading, Songjiang, Fengxian, Qingpu and Chongming.

It used to be difficult for Shanghainese to listen to Chuansha dialect or Nanhui dialect in Pudong, but now it is basically close.

Three or four generations of Shanghainese are from other places. Shanghai has always been an immigrant city, but it has been fixed for more than 40 years from the founding of the People's Republic of China to the reform. Most people's ancestors lived alone, and worked hard to make the younger generation live and work in peace.

By understanding the history of this city and the surrounding experiences of Shanghainese, we can understand the values and ways of doing things of Shanghainese.

Now, as long as you have a higher education and a stable and decent job, Shanghai people agree.

Every city has ordinary citizens who have a sense of superiority. It's just a way for people to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, so don't worry.

Have their own skills, professional ethics and values and habits of respecting contracts and keeping promises, and they will be respected everywhere.

Welcome to Shanghai!

There are also many people who feel inferior because of family and education. I used to feel inferior for this, and then I tried to overcome it myself. How to overcome your inferiority complex? Let me talk about my opinion, hoping to help you!

First, adjust the mentality and maintain a normal heart.

Everyone's family background, education level, economic ability, talent and so on are different, so there is no need to care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations, keep a normal heart and look at the problem objectively. Everyone has their own unique advantages. However, people who feel inferior will compare their own disadvantages with others' advantages, and as a result, they are inferior to others, resulting in inferiority complex, so it is very important to adjust their mentality!

Second, read more books and study more to improve and enrich yourself.

There is a psychological compensation effect in psychology, which refers to a psychological adaptation machine to overcome one's physical defects or psychological inferiority and develop one's other strengths and advantages in order to catch up with or surpass others. In fact, many people who feel inferior overcome their inferiority through psychological compensation, because only if you have your own unique advantages and strengths, you will not pay attention to your own shortcomings, so you will become confident and stop feeling inferior.