A few simple tricks persuaded my mother-in-law

After four years of marriage, my mother-in-law and I have been getting along very well. In fact, there must be contradictions with my mother-in-law. After all, I am not a real mother, but I should know how to resolve conflicts and avoid some unnecessary troubles, instead of playing hardball.

Let me talk about some of my ways of getting along, hoping to help my sisters.

First, if possible, try to live separately to avoid unnecessary contradictions.

I used to live in the same city as my mother-in-law. After I bought a new house, my mother-in-law once said that she wanted us to rent it out and live with her. Actually, I refused at first. However, I didn't tell my mother-in-law about it. I asked my husband to convey that we young people need our own space, which is different from our elders' schedules and living habits and may affect each other. My mother-in-law agreed. If you don't live together, there will be fewer natural contradictions.

Second: Do more housework, talk well and be diligent.

Every time before I go home, I will buy walnut powder, calcium tablets, clothes and bags for my mother-in-law. Anyway, every time I go, it's a big bag. See what she lacks or casually mentions, buy it next time, and thank you for the money on holidays! Usually I often chat with two old people, take the initiative to go to the kitchen to help cook and wash dishes, do as much housework as possible, and occasionally help my mother-in-law to beat her back. There is no harm in doing more work. The old man is naturally happy to see me so considerate and filial. She said I was sensible and often complained to my relatives and neighbors. The daughter-in-law buys her everything. She is diligent and more caring than her son. Facts have proved that this trick is really effective.

Third, give her son dignity and make her feel that he has found a wife who loves him.

My mother-in-law will also come to my house. It is often said that a mother-in-law protects her son. In fact, this is normal, just like our parents will protect us! Every time my mother-in-law comes, I will rush to work and not let my husband do anything. In private, my husband also does housework, because we both work and are equally tired, so I instilled in him the idea of doing housework together. My mother-in-law was unhappy at first sight and turned to scold her husband. If you don't work, you can't do anything, and then she will tell her father-in-law with a smile, see how long your son will live and find a good wife! Mother-in-law is like this. Her son is her soul. You treat her son well, and she will treat you well.

Fourth, let your mother-in-law know your position at home.

This mainly depends on my husband, who will tell her mother-in-law that I am in charge of all the money we earn. Moreover, my wife works well in the company and can often give him some work advice. This is what I often tell my sisters. Anyway, the reason for not being a housewife is economic independence. People who often go to work have more contact with others, their thoughts will not age, and there will be more * * * in language with their husbands. Housewives' eyes are full of rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, and they care about big things like sesame and mung beans. When a man comes home, he always feels that a little thing will make a mountain out of a molehill, which will affect their relationship to a certain extent!

Fifth: vote for what you like.

You should know what my parents-in-law like best and value most. My mother-in-law loves her two sons as much as her own lifeblood, so as you can imagine, she also protects her shortcomings. But as long as you know what she cares about most, you will know how to deal with her. Her youngest son is in college and has a very good relationship with me. As a child, she just cares more about him. Every time she comes to me, she will give money, and I will buy him a birthday present.

Sixth: convince people by reasoning and let her mother-in-law go down the stairs.

When the daughter-in-law has an opinion, be careful not to go to war with her. If not handled properly, it is likely to escalate the situation and cast a shadow, which will be bad for everyone in the future! As a junior, we must have a modest attitude, don't criticize, convince others by reasoning and strive for victory. At the same time, you must let your mother-in-law have a step to save face. It's like naming my son. I wanted to get it from Master Wang Liping introduced by my sister, but she is also one of the top ten Feng Shui masters in Zhouyi. It was a big deal, but my mother-in-law insisted on finding a numerology teacher in the street. Nowadays, charlatans are good at grasping the psychology of the elderly and are gullible. My mother-in-law believes it, too, but she means well and I'm embarrassed to say anything. Finally, by comparing the names taken by both parties, Master Wang's various analyses are in place. As a daughter-in-law, we should be aware of this and give the elderly a step down, so I gave her patient analysis and said a lot of good things. I'm not embarrassed to coax my mother-in-law into putting in a good word. In fact, we are all women, and we all need to be coaxed. If we are happy, there will be fewer natural problems! So in the end, this problem was solved perfectly!

Seventh: Don't pay too much attention to money, let alone calculate the mother-in-law's property.

If you buy a house and have children, you can't live without money! Everyone cares about money, but some people care about money, but when faced with the conflict between money and family, they will not hesitate to choose family. Don't care too much about the gains and losses of small money in front of your mother-in-law. Generous and decent. Spend the flowers of this province. Let your mother-in-law know that you are good at property management, and she will feel at ease. Whether my mother-in-law has money or not, we should not think that her assets will be inherited in the future. I believe that yours is yours after all, not yours.

Of course, my mother-in-law is also a little dissatisfied with me. For example, because I go to her house every week and seldom call her, she is dissatisfied! I didn't plan to have children in the first year of marriage. My mother-in-law was anxious and repeatedly called to say that she wanted children. I asked my husband to solve these problems. Sometimes my husband is an important role in coordinating the relationship between the two sides, and it will be much easier to deal with them.

To sum up, actually getting along with my mother-in-law is a psychological offensive and defensive war, which needs to be handled carefully! Understand what your in-laws need, be virtuous and filial, and love your husband and daughter-in-law. It's that simple. Then be a good wife with your heart! As for my husband, as long as you are kind to his parents and the elderly, he will feel it if you do it. When there is any contradiction, he will take the initiative to help you solve it!