"Why don't you divorce? It's ridiculous that she let her mother keep the money I earned. " What do you think of this?

I have a friend. I call him Tao Ge. Tao Ge, 29, got divorced soon. Asked why, he said to me, "Why not get a divorce? It's ridiculous that she let her mother keep the money I earned. "

Chen Xia is Tao Ge's ex-wife. She has a younger brother at home who is about to graduate. When Tao Ge got married, the bride price gave Chen Xia more than 200,000 yuan, but only a few quilts were used as dowry. However, Tao Ge didn't care. He thinks it is appropriate to give his mother-in-law more than 200 thousand. After all, she raised Chen Xia for more than 20 years.

Tao Ge is a very responsible man. He loves his wife very much. In our eyes, he is simply a henpecked wife. He does whatever Chen Xia says. When Chen Xia is unhappy, he will try to make her happy. Chen Xia is ill. The first thing after work is to visit Chen Xia and stay with her.

Since we got married, Tao Ge stayed at home with Chen Xia all day, seldom attending parties or playing games. By rights, Tao Ge looks handsome and has a good job. Chen Xia should be very satisfied. However, she never liked Tao Ge because it earned little money and didn't subsidize her family.

He is a senior manager in the company, with an average monthly income of more than 30 thousand, including year-end dividends and wages. When Tao Ge told us about it, I still didn't believe it. I always thought he was lying to me. When it comes to the reasons, I understand that Chen Xia is in charge of the family's financial power, and she controls Tao Ge's expenses.

It does not include utilities, fuel costs, expenses between husband and wife, car loans, mortgages, property fees, etc. Tao Ge probably calculated that there should be more than 10,000. He used to wonder why Chen Xia said she couldn't subsidize her family.

Two days before the divorce, he knew the reason. That day, the weather was a little gloomy. Tao Ge's father called Tao Ge and told him that his mother was ill in hospital and needed money badly. Tao Ge hurriedly asked for leave, returned home and took the bank card to the hospital his father said.

When he arrived at the cashier's office in the hospital, Tao Ge gave the card to his father and asked him to pay by credit card. After a while, my father walked up to Tao Ge with a straight face and said, "Son, if you have no money, just tell me, and I can ask your brother for it. Give me a card with insufficient balance. What is it? "

Confused, Tao Ge replied, "Dad, what are you talking about? How can there be no money in this card? My monthly salary will be in it, and so will your daughter-in-law's salary. Did you enter the wrong password? "

Seeing that his son didn't believe it, Tao Ge's father gave him the card and asked him to brush it himself. Tao Ge took the card to pay, and sure enough, as his father said, the balance in the card was insufficient. Tao Ge quickly called Chen Xia: "Wife, my mother is ill. I took my bank card to pay the hospitalization fee and treatment fee, which showed that the balance was insufficient. What is this? "

Chen Xia didn't make it clear on the phone, and Tao Ge didn't consider so much, so she hung up and asked her cousin to call herself more than 10,000. When I got home at night, Tao Ge, who was worried, took a bank card and asked Chen Xia, "Tell me, where did the money in this card go?"

"I set aside a month's expenses for us. I will give the money to my mother and ask her to save it for me. My mother said she left insurance to prevent the two of us from spending money indiscriminately. I think she is right, so I will do as she says. " Chen Xia's weak reaction.

Tao Ge was a little unhappy and asked, "Then why don't you discuss it with me and tell me?"

Chen Xia whispered: "My mother said not to let me tell you, for fear that you might misunderstand."

"Misunderstanding? He who does nothing wrong is not afraid of ghosts knocking at the door. Now that you have done it, you must understand that you will find something sooner or later. If you don't tell me, are you still hiding something from me? " Tao Ge asked with a skeptical expression.

Looking a little dissatisfied, Chen Xia muttered, "What can I hide from you? I'm telling the truth. Do you believe me? "

As Chen Xia spoke, she picked up the phone and called her mother: "Mom, Xiao Tao has something for you."

Tao Ge took the phone, went straight to the point and asked her mother-in-law, "Mom, Chen Xia said she hit me and gave you her salary. Is that so? "

Mother-in-law said after half a ring, "Xiao Tao, there is such a thing." Mom is not afraid that you will spend money indiscriminately and don't know how to save? " I'll keep it for you. If you want to use it, come and get it at any time. "

Tao Ge said, "Mom, I really need it. My mother is in hospital. Chen Xia and I will go to your house and get the money you saved for us back. Mom, remember to stay at home. This money is life-saving money. "

Before her mother-in-law could speak, Tao Ge hung up the phone. He said to Chen Xia, "Come with me to your mother's house and get the card back. We are all adults. We manage our own money and let your mother take care of everything. Moreover, it is not convenient for your mother to run with us in an emergency. "

Chen Xia "well", Tao Ge didn't eat rice and went back to the bedroom. The next day, Tao Ge drove to her mother-in-law's house and went to the bank to transfer money with her mother-in-law. During the transfer, more than 300,000 people were found missing in Tao Ge. He asked his mother-in-law why she was missing 300 thousand. Mother-in-law solemnly said that his brother-in-law bought the house with the down payment paid by his money.

Tao Ge mercilessly stared at Chen Xia behind him and didn't say much. After the money was transferred, I drove away directly, ignoring my mother-in-law and Chen Xia.

Back to the hospital, Tao Ge gave all the remaining hundreds of thousands to his father. It was early morning when I got home. Chen Xia is sitting on the sofa. She was afraid to look up at Tao Ge. Tao Ge told Chen Xia, "You are not only hateful, but also stupid. I don't want that 300 thousand. Consider it a divorce fee. You will go through the divorce formalities with me tomorrow. "

Chen Xia was scared when she heard the word "divorce", and her tears fell to the floor. She said that she knew she was wrong and hoped that Tao Ge would give her a chance to turn over a new leaf. Tao Ge's character is that he can't tolerate sand in his eyes and acts decisively. He ignored Chen Xia's entreaties, closed the bedroom door, put headphones on his ears, and refused to listen to Chen Xia's crying.

After the divorce, Tao Ge talked to me, and I knew he wanted to vent his emotions. I comforted him not to be too sad. A woman like her who can't tell right from wrong should leave early.

Which is more important, a small family, a maiden's family or a husband's family? See who wants to spend a lifetime with himself and who loves himself more.

Chen Xia has never had any good ideas since her mother asked her daughter to give her money for safekeeping. Why do you say that? Most parents don't want their son's bank card after they get married, let alone let them manage the money, let alone the married woman's house.

Chen Xia was asked to give Tao Ge's money to her for safekeeping, one for her own use and the other for her own son. She never thought about whether her daughter's marriage was dragged down by her own behavior. Chen Xia didn't see her mother's true colors, so she rashly gave the money to her mother for safekeeping, losing her marriage and a good man like Tao Ge. She asked for it, and no one else can blame her.

Give married women a message: love is giving, love is giving, love is thinking of the people who love each other, and those who seek personal gain for themselves under the banner of love do not really love each other. If you can't tell who is true love for you and who is false love for you, you are likely to ruin your happiness.