"Daughter-in-law, my mother is going to travel. Please ask for leave to play with her." How did the daughter-in-law respond?

How much love a woman gets in marriage can be felt.

If a woman meets a man who is responsible enough and is willing to give you enough care and accompany you to bear the responsibility and pressure of marriage, then this woman will be gentle and elegant.

And if you meet a male chauvinist, he thinks you don't need to be respected, you should bear everything. Over time, women will lose their luster and even become haggard.

All women want their marriage partner to be the first before they get married, but many times they can't. Zhang Li didn't get what she wanted.

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Before Zhang Li got married, she always fantasized that she would marry a man who loved her. The man will still love her as before marriage, but the reality has awakened her.

Before we got married, my husband Liu Lei didn't mean to be particularly nice, but was considerate. Although Liu Lei can't cook, she will buy her breakfast.

On holidays, I will also prepare some small surprises for her. Because of this, when Zhang Li proposed to Liu Lei, she agreed without hesitation. But married life is completely different from before.

Zhang Li needs to make breakfast every morning. If one day she sleeps, Liu Lei will say, "I earn so much money at home that I can't have a hot meal in the morning?"

At this time, Zhang Li would say, "Why not? Can't you eat it yourself? "

Liu Lei felt that he married his daughter-in-law and went home to serve himself. There was no reason for him to cook for himself.

After a long time, Zhang Li also understood who he was. If he wants to talk, let him talk. She didn't answer the phone anyway.

When she first got married, Zhang Li still cooked every day. Now she also wants to understand why she cooks every day. She is tired. She can sleep as long as she wants, no matter what Liu Lei says.

This is the "vicious circle" in marriage. Once the vicious circle begins, there is a small flame of anger in each other's hearts, waiting for the divorce bomb to be lit one day. A good marriage should be like Justin and Zhang Xinyi in Men Do Housework. They are right and wrong, not right and wrong. The former gets more and more love, while the latter just waits for an increasingly indifferent response.

Indifference and cynicism in marriage are terrible.

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Liu Lei understands Zhang Li's idea and tells her directly that if you don't wait on me, I won't give you money in the future, and you can spend it yourself.

Zhang Li said to him, "How much have I spent on you since we got married? I pay for all the food and drinks at home. Have you ever bought food? Do you know what's missing at home? The money you spend on me is at best a property fee. If you really want to divide it clearly, then divide it. In the future, our expenses will be AA, and no one will take advantage of anyone. "

Liu Lei readily accepted.

In fact, for Zhang Li, if it weren't for the children, she would have divorced Liu Lei.

Liu Lei has hardly felt sorry for her since she got married. Even when he was pregnant, he was as thoughtless as usual. For his parents, Liu Lei is not very filial.

The year before last, my mother-in-law was ill and served in the hospital for a week. When his mother was ill, Liu Lei went to the hospital once, without paying or contributing. She didn't want to be nice to her mother-in-law after that.

A woman's heart is hot at first, and once a man disappoints her, she will be cold again. Not hot.

But Liu Lei doesn't know what she thinks and wants her to continue as before. My mother-in-law wants to travel recently. Zhang Li knows about it, but she always ignores it.

Until Liu Lei personally said to her, "Daughter-in-law, my mother is going to travel, so you should ask for leave to play with her. My salary is five times that of you. If I get fired for taking a vacation, I'll be miserable. Why don't you have a rest? Ok? "

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Zhang Li answered him, "You should be filial and don't kidnap me. My salary is not high, only 5 thousand a month, but it is also my hard-earned money. I'm proud of not stealing or robbing. Don't mock my low salary and kidnap me morally. Our family has always been AA, and I didn't take advantage of you. In the future, you are filial to your mother, and I am filial to my mother. Let's carry out the AA system to the end, shall we? "

Liu Lei: "Daughter-in-law, you are wrong. My mother is your mother, and your mother is my mother. We're both married. Why do you divide it so clearly? My mother doesn't talk easily. Please go with her this time. "

Zhang Li: "What are the benefits of going with your mother?"? I have to pay your mother's travel expenses, plus my own expenses, which will cost me two months' salary. What shall I eat and drink? Your abacus is quite clear. Besides, my mother wanted to travel six months ago. Why didn't I see you so active? Did she still stop me then? I'm not going. Go with your mother yourself. "

Liu Lei thinks this daughter-in-law married for nothing and did nothing. I really don't know what to do if I marry her in.

The author's words:

No matter when, feelings should be mutual. Men can't stop being nice to women just because they are married. She married you, not to serve you, but to spend the rest of her life with you. Liu Lei didn't understand this truth, so he used Zhang Li unscrupulously after he got married. In Liu Lei's eyes, Zhang Li has married him, and he can do whatever he wants. In any case, Zhang Li will not leave.

But what is the reality? The reality is that Zhang Li will feel sad because of Liu Lei's various behaviors, and finally gradually alienate him. If Liu Lei is willing to do something for Zhang and do her husband's duty, the life of the two will not need AA system. If Liu Lei had been nicer to Zhang Li's parents, Zhang Li would not have refused to travel with her mother-in-law. To change this situation, what is needed is not to blame each other, but for men to take the initiative to take responsibility in marriage.

Here I want to say two words to married men:

1. A husband who doesn't know how to give will naturally not reap his wife's endless love. Any endless love needs interaction and feedback.

A man brings his wife home for love, not to be a nanny. You use your wife as a nanny. Over time, you are not a husband in your wife's heart, but a security guard at best.

After getting married, you should think about how much you have paid for her, not how much she has paid for me. Take out the passion of pursuing her before marriage, be as good as ever after marriage, and you will reap double love. Being nice to your wife is a very cost-effective thing. I don't understand. I can only say that you are not smart enough.