What to talk about with a second-married woman (second-married couples want happiness)

Married life is like walking in a canoe. Thousands of people walk together. On the way to the finish line, many obstacles were set up. Some people reach the finish line smoothly and stay alone all their lives. Some people give up halfway and have to start over.

Married couples are people who stumble and start over. Remarriage is not difficult. What is rare is how to avoid repeating the same mistakes after a failure.

Second-married couples must dare to talk about these three topics if they want to live a happy life:

First: Couples who dare to talk about money last longer.

Hui gave me a private message backstage. Both she and her husband are married for the second time. It was introduced that neither of them had children. Hui is a teacher in a tutor institution, and her husband is an IT man. After getting along for half a year, they felt that the other person had good personality conditions and got married.

After two years of marriage, Hui gradually felt that her husband didn't love her at all. The reason is that her husband never gives her money.

The two people usually have relatively independent economies, and the daily expenses at home are also very tacit. Hui pays utilities and gas, and her husband pays property fees and parking fees.

Moreover, her husband never gives her pocket money and rarely buys her gifts on holidays.

At first, Hui thought it was nothing, but after a long time, there was a gap in her heart. She thinks they are not like husband and wife, but more like a pair of roommates. Gradually, I am not as affectionate to my husband as before.

I asked Hui if she had talked to her husband about this problem. She said she was embarrassed to talk because she was afraid that her husband would think she was a greedy woman.

I encouraged her to talk to her husband about money. Later she told me that she had misunderstood her husband.

It turns out that the house they live in now is still paying the mortgage, and her husband has never told her that he is silently paying the mortgage every month. Because they have no children, their daily expenses are not very big, and her salary is not low, so they can support themselves completely.

I don't prepare gifts for holidays, because this straight steel man has never had this habit. He thinks that as long as two people have a good relationship, gifts are not important.

When Hui took the initiative to talk about money with her husband, she found that their relationship was getting better and better. For example, Hui took a fancy to a lipstick, which she could afford completely, but asked her husband to buy it for her on holidays.

According to her request, her husband went to the mall and bought the color she wanted.

Hui said that what I really want is not his money, but the way he takes me seriously.

Today's women have long passed the age when they need men's support to survive. What many women want more in marriage is love. I earn my own bread. Give me love. Gifts don't need to be too expensive, but they must have a heart in them.

If married couples want to live a happy life, they must dare to talk about money.

A family has a lot of daily expenses, so it is very stressful for the man to bear the affirmation alone. Two people can reach an understanding on family expenses and share them together.

Second: Dare to talk about children's education.

Most married couples have the problem that one or both of them take care of their children, so the education of their children is a big problem.

In the first half of life, after Lingling and Chen formed their second marriage and family, they had differences on the education of their children.

Lingling opened a winter camp abroad for her children, 50,000 yuan each, but she opened a winter camp at home for Chen's children, which only cost 8,000 yuan.

Chen is not stupid. Although Lingling has repeatedly explained that the family expenses are too big to afford the winter camp for two children and the registration date has expired, Chen still sees the difference.

Because in Chen's view, he made a lot of money, but he didn't spend it on his children, so they had bad blood.

No matter how many children a couple has, they must treat education equally.

The problem of principle must be solved. Don't treat children's problems with the mentality of "I am not my child, it has nothing to do with me". When two people form a family again, children can't get around. If you really want to be a family, you must first accept the child, treat him as your own child, and treat and care for him sincerely.

Third: Dare to talk about the issue of providing for the aged.

The news that the octogenarian in Quzhou divorced hand in hand made countless people cry. The two old people have been married for decades, but they have to divorce in their later years.

Although it is the second time to get married, the feelings are very good, but the two old people are old, and taking care of themselves has become a problem.

Providing for the elderly has become a problem, and both children are unwilling to support their parents' other half. In the end, the two old people wanted someone to take care of each other and had to choose a divorce.

If a married couple wants to live a happy life, the issue of providing for the aged must be discussed first.

The pre-marital property of two people can be inherited by their respective children, but the retirement salary and deposit after marriage are the common property of both husband and wife. No matter which party dies first, both children should bear the obligation to support the elderly.

There is a saying that uglification comes first, and there are many foreseeable problems. In fact, there is nothing wrong with putting them on the table first and making it clear. Everyone has reached a * * * understanding on one issue, and the days ahead will be better.

Many second-married couples can't live together because they all have their own small plans and hope to get more from others. Everyone is an adult, and no one is stupid. You can cheat for a while, but you can't cheat for a lifetime.

Both married couples want to live a happy life. Two people think in one place and work hard in one place to live a long life, regardless of you and me.