Property toy

I played in the community yesterday. A 3-year-old girl was robbed of her toy by a 4-year-old boy passing by. The little girl cried because her grandmother took care of her. Grandma said to let my brother play for a while, and the grandmother of the 4-year-old boy also said not to cry. If you want to learn to share, we will give it to you after the game.

The 3-year-old girl is still unhappy. After a while, her father came to teach the grandmother of the 4-year-old boy a lesson. Generally speaking, this is our toy. We want you to play, but we don't want it. Why don't we even know each other and let us share it with you? In my opinion, this is called robbery.

In fact, I think what the girl's father said is very reasonable, but the grandmother of a 4-year-old boy doesn't think so. She found her father's words offensive and quarreled. Finally, the two men scolded each other. If the property doesn't open, they will do it.

Like grabbing toys, this is very common in children's play, mainly because their awareness of property rights has not yet formed. In their world, as long as I like it, it's mine. It's not yours yet, and my property rights are clearly owned.

Before 1 year-old, most babies have no sense of ownership. Even if others take away their toys, they just look at them faintly and won't feel too much distressed. If they divert their attention a little, they will be attracted to other things.

/kloc-after 0/year old, but not before 2 years old, children will feel a little overbearing during this period. As long as what I like is mine, others will play well. I will unconsciously reach for something I am interested in. Children can't distinguish between you and me, so there will be a situation of grabbing toys.

After the age of 2, it is a sensitive period of property rights, and consciousness begins to sprout from this time. My things are mine. You are not allowed to touch them. Children with more principles will directly touch me and hit you. If they don't know how to express themselves, they will cry directly, which is also their direct expression.

The guidance of children, parents and teachers in this period will affect their subsequent views on their own things. Patiently guide children, children will treat robbed toys, have their own opinions, and sometimes even know how to share them with good friends. If they are not good friends, they are not allowed to touch them.

If you really meet a child who loves to rob toys in daily life, you need to constantly tell the child what to do, and the child will handle it slowly. Generally speaking, children receive education in three steps:

1, declare sovereignty.

Tell the child who robbed the toy that this toy is mine, not yours. If you want to play, you need my permission or ask your parents to buy it for you. When encountering problems, let the children appropriately say that children who love to rob toys are too cowardly.

Public places are everyone's.

When going out to play at ordinary times, if it is a toy in public, let the children know that these toys are shared by everyone. Whoever gets it first can play for a while. You can play something else first, and you need to wait for others to play before you play. You can also discuss with other children whether you can play together. When you meet something that was directly taken from you, you should also say loudly that I got it first. You can't just grab it. You can play something else.

3, let children learn to give their parents, the teacher said

Especially after kindergarten, parents will not follow their children at any time. If you meet Xiong Haizi who is outrageous and unreasonable, you should encourage your children to tell the teacher and go back to their parents. Mom said that such a Xiong Haizi really needs adult education and guidance. Generally, children are no match for him, but will hurt them.

If their children's toys are robbed, some parents will directly educate each other's children or even beat each other's children, some parents will quarrel, and some parents will directly take their children away and choose cold treatment. There are also some parents who are generous, and let their children share the burden, whether they cry or not. What kind of parents are you?

In fact, as the robbed weak, parents' different handling methods will also have different effects on their children. Children's toys are robbed, which is not only related to children, but also closely related to parents' handling methods. Children should be taught what to do according to different occasions.

First: first observe the child's reaction after being robbed.

Some children will cry when they are robbed. Parents don't have to worry. This is the performance of most children. Some children will act very cold. They may not have reached the period when their possessiveness is obvious, and some children will be brave enough to ask for it directly. Different reactions have a lot to do with the child's own personality, and there is no difference between good and bad.

Second: let the children communicate and solve first.

If children are very reluctant to be robbed, it is better to say that they are stingy and do not share than to continue to teach them to share. In fact, this practice is called forced sharing. If forced to share for a long time, children will become weak in social interaction and will also make children distrust their parents. As parents, children should be taught to return their toys politely, and their toys have the right to share or not. Parents don't have to intervene if their children communicate to return toys in their own way, or if they are willing to let each other play for a while.

Third: parents accompany the solution.

If your child has been crying and is not good at communication, and there are no toys to grab after communication, parents are omnipotent heroes in their children's hearts. At this time, parents should come forward to communicate in time. Parents should not directly ask their children to come back, but directly communicate with their parents. I believe it is very understandable for parents to ask their parents to get their toys back in their own way.

Fourth: comfort children and give them a full sense of security.

When you are robbed, remember to comfort your child when you want to go back, teach your child how to solve it next time, how to protect your toys, have the right to share and dispose of your own things, and your parents will stand with you to protect you. Before the age of 3, it is recommended that the sense of security in property rights is the best. The better the sense of security is established at this time, the more children will know how to share in the future.

If children want to know how to share, first put up with their selfishness and give them a full sense of security, and they will be more confident in the process of socializing in the future.

Many children's behavior habits are mostly influenced by their parents. After their own things are taken away by others, parents can relax reasonably and solve them properly, which will also make their children grow up psychologically healthier in the face of their children's weakness.

I'm Linda, a nutritionist, focusing on raising babies aged 0-6. On the way of raising children, we study together and work hard together.

Today's topic: What did you do when your child was robbed of toys? Welcome everyone to discuss together.