I wouldn't have married you if it weren't for your upside-down house. What warning did Phoenix Man give us?

Nowadays, with the development of society, people's lives are getting richer and richer. Most people are aware of the importance of material things and understand that money is indispensable for a better life.

But if this idea is not controlled, it will become money worship, money will become more important than anything else, and people will become slaves to money.

When it comes to money worship, many people will point the finger at women, saying that most women nowadays are very money worshippers. In fact, this view is somewhat biased. We have all seen women who marry men for money, but we have also seen women who stick with poor men.

This kind of thing can be said to be relative. Not only women but also men worship gold. Instead of blaming each other, we should think about how to change this situation.

In fact, the word money worship originated from marriage and love. Because of marriage, women want to find a rich man to marry, so some people accuse them of worshipping money.

But if you get married because of money, I personally think it's better not to get married. Because money can't represent feelings, although it can give you a good life, but the spirit will be empty. You married a man, not money. This must be made clear, otherwise married life will be unbearable.

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Will you marry a man who has no feelings because of material things? I believe many people will think about this problem, but most people will not choose.

After all, marriage is a major event in life. If you marry someone who has no feelings just because of material things, how should you spend the long married life afterwards?

And even if married, if others know, they will feel very disdainful and look down on such people. After all, the matter itself is not very glorious.

But nothing is absolute. A reader's personal experience broke my cognition. I realized that in this world, there are really people who are willing to exchange marriage for material things. This is actually reminding each of us that we must be cautious when we get married, find out who to marry and your purpose, and don't regret being cheated.

Let's call this reader Yuling. She is 27 years old and has just been married for more than two years. Originally, she thought that she had married a person she liked, and her married life would be very happy. However, married life overturned her guess. And one thing that happened made her see the real purpose of her husband's marriage.

Let's take a look at the story that happened to Yuling.

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When I mentioned my last marriage, Yuling always felt chilling. Once she thought she was married to love and met a man who really loved her. But I didn't expect this marriage to be just my own wishful thinking. Yuling gnashed her teeth at the thought of her ex-husband Jia Yu.

Three years ago, she met Jia Yu at a friend's birthday party. A friend said that Jia Yu is a very talented person. At that party, Jia Yu sang a song, which touched Yuling's heart unexpectedly.

After the party, the two left contact information with each other. In the following days, Yuling kept in frequent contact with Jiayu, and Yuling also asked her friends about Jiayu's situation. A friend told her that Jiayu people are not bad, get along well with people around them, have good abilities and are very enterprising.

It's just that Jia Yu's family is poor. He's not from here. His hometown is in a remote village. The whole family joined forces to send him to college. After graduating from college, he chose to stay. I always want to change the fate of myself and my family, so I work hard.

After learning about Jia Yu's situation, Yuling showed more sympathy and admiration for this person. My love for him has doubled. Contact with Jiayu is more frequent.

In fact, in retrospect, Jia Yu is a typical Phoenix man. For Phoenix Man, most women are afraid to avoid it. But Yuling does the opposite and wants to pursue her own love.

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After much contact, Yuling felt as if she liked Jiayu. Jiayu's personality and other conditions are all Yuling's favorite types. So Yuling summoned up her courage and began to pursue Jiayu.

Facing Yuling's pursuit, Jiayu chose to accept it. Soon they will be together. When two people were in love, Jiayu and Yuling were very close and loved her, which made Yuling feel that her vision was right. Jiayu must be the right person for her.

In fact, Yuling's family is good. Her parents are middle-class in the city, and they are only children. She has been loved by her parents since she was a child. According to my parents' idea, I want to find a suitable husband for her, not a poor boy like Jia Yu.

Her parents' opposition didn't make Yuling flinch. Instead, I had a fierce quarrel with my parents. In the end, her parents chose to compromise and agreed to their marriage.

When she got married, Jiayu couldn't afford a house because her family was poor, so Yuling begged her parents to marry her. Two people have a place to live. Moreover, Yuling married Jiayu in order to be considerate of Jiayu and not want any bride price.

Yuling feels that she has married the right person and must do her best to be kind to him. Life will be very happy after marriage. But soon after she got married, she found it was not what she expected.

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Less than a year after their marriage, Jia Yu took their parents from their hometown and said that they should enjoy happiness. Yuling also agreed.

However, after the in-laws moved in, there were many contradictions due to different living habits. For example, in order to save water, my mother-in-law often goes to the toilet without flushing; Moreover, we throw garbage at random in the community, rummage through trash cans to pick up garbage and pile it in the corridor. The property found Yuling, and her mother-in-law also scolded the person in charge of the property, which made Yuling very embarrassed.

There are many such things. Over time, the contradiction between Yuling and her mother-in-law has deepened. My mother-in-law always dislikes her online shopping and often says that she spends money indiscriminately. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting deeper every day, and quarrels also occur from time to time.

What scares Yuling most is that every time she quarrels with her mother-in-law, Jia Yu will stand on her mother-in-law's side and accuse her and scold her. This makes her mother-in-law more unscrupulous and difficult for Yuling.

Yuling was very wronged, so she talked to Jiayu. Yuling wants Jiayu to send her in-laws back to their hometown. How can I live this life at this rate? Jia Yu said, "I am unfilial. Can't you ask my mother to order? "

Yuling was even more chilling after hearing this, but she chose patience. In this way, almost a year passed, and Yuling became more and more tired of this marriage. She can't stand her mother-in-law's spite and rudeness, and Jia Yu's ignorance and filial piety.

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Finally, Yuling broke out. She gave Jia Yu an ultimatum, either send your parents back or we will separate.

Jia Yu even got angry. He said, "You are so ignorant. Can you be as obedient as other wives? " . Look, you've only been married for two years. How many times have you argued with my mother? Which wife is like you? Like a bitch! I wouldn't have married you if I hadn't watched you marry a house! "

After hearing this, Yuling realized that Jia Yu didn't love her at all. He once married himself, only because of his inversion, which made him take root in this city. That's all.

For the sake of material things, Jia Yu can sacrifice his marriage and marry someone he doesn't like. This kind of man is simply terrible.

Yuling suddenly realized that she was finally determined to divorce Jiayu. But the damage caused by this marriage takes time to heal.

In fact, the purpose of marriage should be very simple. Two people who like each other and are suitable for each other want to spend their lives with each other. This purpose can make the marriage last. And because of some calculations and conspiracy to get married, such a marriage is not worth the candle.