Where is the real estate in Wen Lan?

As the saying goes, "husband and wife come first." But many couples have to divorce because they are no longer, or because of extramarital affairs. Marriage is invisible, and it is not said by one person.

After divorce, it is very painful to live alone, or to live alone with children. For the sake of future happiness, many people choose to get married twice and step into marriage again. "The ideal is full and the reality is very skinny." Many couples with a second child complain that marriage is getting harder and harder, and even divorce again.

Gu is a scholar. He looked at me after reading my article. Gu said that he has been married twice now and feels that such a life can no longer be lived. He said, "Do you have a husband-and-wife relationship? Nobody knows. Because when two people have children, they always think about what will happen to them. They pay more attention to privacy, and they are worried that their children will be hurt. There is also a shadow left by marriage in your heart, which leads to problems in communication between husband and wife. Others are trivial things in life and will involve more relatives and friends. "

In fact, the second marriage is also because of love. As long as they remember the following three points, they can grow old together. Taking Gu's marriage as an example, this paper analyzes how the two couples grasp the happiness of marriage and spend their whole lives.

The first point: Meeting is a kind of fate, and it won't let you break up easily, so you should cherish it.

When a husband and wife meet, they must cherish the fate and put a beautiful person in their hearts. Often, two people can recall together. Whenever you want to quarrel, I think about how I met, how I fell in love, how to better understand and support each other.

When Hua met his wife, he met her. Although she is like a young man, this is a heart, but she felt it. When two people meet, it is pure leisure. Gu went to work in the business department because this unit is very busy. I am in a hurry when I get off work, and I will bump into her basket at the door of the unit. At this time, Wen Tao will take her daughter to junior high school. Look at the meal, I'm leaving school, and time is running out. I'll take you to self-study after eating. After learning this situation, You Huazi apologized and took his car. Wen Tao went to a nearby restaurant and punched him.

When they sent the box to Wen Tao's daughter, Wen Tao's daughter smiled. It took two people to realize that "the daughter mistakenly thought they were in love." Gu and all looked at each other. I think the other person is very nice.

When I was chatting with Gu, I said to him, "You are so clever. This is also God's arrangement. No matter how hard you try, at least this moment is very happy, and love is happy. This is the same as being a husband and wife. "

I think couples cherish fate, no matter how much, don't say "divorce, break up", it's noisy, I have to live a lifetime, so "really love to play" is love. True love.

The second point: husband and wife are a family, and whoever gives money is the same.

Many couples who get married with a second child, after getting married, I am very worried that they will divorce again. For money, this is very important, this is very powerful. Some husbands, two people like to save private money, will lose trust.

Gu and together, their income is not high. Besides, I have a son and Tao Wen has a daughter. It's at school, and it costs a lot. Can only be maintained by the province. However, God in the valley wants to give birth to a son. If the son grows up and doesn't leave him, he will feel embarrassed. Therefore, although Gu gave a salary card, he saved the rewards given by the unit and opened another passbook.

When I was sweeping, I found Gu's passbook from the cupboard. The two men quarreled at once. After that, Gu realized his mistake and took the initiative to get through it. But when two people are together, they feel separated.

I advised Gu: "If you want to go to the old one, you must trust each other. You're family. Don't think about two things. As long as the husbands live together, the more money there is. It's happy. Poor people, but because of poverty, feelings will not be less and less. Just like the deposit at home, who should I give it to, and then negotiate when the child grows up. "

Gu also agrees with me. Decided that his wife and his wife are more honest and sociable, and there are countless properties in the real estate, so they will no longer arouse each other's suspicion.

The third point: there is no absolute fairness in the world, because "ideas are thick", don't quarrel.

Many couples who get married with a second child often quarrel over how to raise their children. If there are two children and one child, there are two models of what to buy. Otherwise, I think I have to wait, and my mind will be unbalanced.

In order to cultivate her daughter, Wen Tao sends her daughter to a nearby information station to learn English, which costs more than 600 dollars a month. Gu's son is average, he is not very enthusiastic when studying, and there is nothing to go. Gu had more opinions on this matter, but he didn't make up with Wen Lanting.

I made a suggestion to Gu: "You should negotiate with your son, who doesn't want to go to the sofa, and then discuss with his wife to let his son go to the sofa for class." If your son doesn't want to, you spend money. After I teach my children and buy things for them, I will ask their opinions, not husband and wife, not husband and wife. I told you, I will feel relaxed. In a family, everything is discussed, so that children can learn from themselves slowly and become masters more harmoniously. "

In fact, there is no absolute exhibition for the care of children. This is the original couple. With two children, they will be very thick. If you must be more energetic, you will be desperate. Actually, my children and grandchildren are from Sun Fu. Because of children's development, they have stronger ability to start their own businesses independently and slowly leave their parents. They go to the fields, their husbands and wives are worried about their children, a heart, love and a smoother future, and the elderly are the happiest.