What is our "fear" of aging?

In fact, the fear of death is the root of fear of getting old.

The pursuit of longevity is the pursuit of mankind from ancient times to the present. Refining the elixir of life to developing medical research genes are all aimed at fighting diseases and prolonging life.

Seriously thinking about the basic human desires and finding a spouse is also a supplement to immortality, so pass on your genes as much as possible and pass them on to future generations. So men are sometimes a little horny and driven by primitive instinct.

There is nothing after death, no one can tell clearly, and people who have never been there come back to tell the living what it is like after death.

Psychologically speaking, it is the fear of the unknown. Fear of the dark is also because people's invisible range in the dark has increased to infinity, their eyes have become unknown, and people's fear arises spontaneously.

There is a story that cows, dogs and people went to see God, and God said that they would give cows a life span of 40 years. Cows talk too much. They struggle to pull their plowshares every day, but they can still live that long. Twenty years is enough. After 40 years of talking to dogs, dogs talk too much, watching the door late into the night every day, a little restless and unable to sleep, 20 years is enough; They say 40 years, and they say that as the spirit of all things, everyone has to listen to me. 40 years is too little, too little. So God gave people 20 years of the Year of the Ox and 20 years of the Dog, so people were carefree for the first 20 years, with clothes to reach out and food to eat, and lived the life of an ox for the last 40 years. In the last forty years, I have been sitting at the gate, greeting people, visiting nursing homes and living a dog life. ...

If people can decide their own life span, how many choices do they have to die? They are all helpless choices. In fact, my heart is extremely scared.

The reason why human beings are afraid of getting older is because we feel helpless about uncertain and uncontrollable things. Because the growth of age is an objective law, the law of natural elimination is birth, old age and death, so once people are old, they will gradually face birth, old age and death. When people's desires conflict with reality, people will have various emotions, of which fear is only one, as well as anger and anxiety. And fear just reflects the anxiety in people's hearts and is the expression of emotions.

Everyone will get old, which is inevitable. This is the law of nature, and each of us has no choice. Then why are we still afraid when we are old?

Fear mostly comes from the fear and fear of uncertainty in the future, from the lack of heart. Driven by fear, we are easily restricted by it in words and deeds, and become hesitant, timid and even complacent.

With the growth of age, the direct causes of panic mainly include the following points:

1, afraid of death, the increase of age means that this life expectancy is shortening; Not realizing that death is actually the beginning of another life.

2, desire is too heavy, another explanation for fear is fear of losing and wanting to stay there with what I think is the best; As we all know, what happens in the world is changing at any time. Even if things around you remain the same, your desires are changing.

3. The sense of responsibility is too heavy, and I am afraid that it will be difficult to complete my mission in a limited year.

What we are afraid of is not the age, but the physiological, self and social pressure behind the numbers.

Fear of age is not a simple numerical change. I have summarized the following concepts. It is terrible if there is no strong psychological support behind the increase in numbers:

1. Afraid of "conformity psychology": you should study at the age of 7; At the age of 20, it's time to find a job; 26 years old, it's time to get married; At the age of 30, it is time to have a child; Have a second child before the age of 36 at most. How many people really follow the laws and definitions of age? Once we fail to live up to the standard appearance given by outsiders at the age we should have, the increase of age becomes a "switch" of panic. It seems that you are the existence of "big rebellion". So on the last day of the age of 29, when you didn't even have a boyfriend, the eyes of outsiders became anxious. A concerned greeting was "Are you married?" Will make your sensitive heart anxious.

2. Worried about "aging": With the growth of age, wrinkles on the face, the decline of reproductive ability, endocrine disorder, exhaustion of physical labor, the decline of active thinking and the decline of memory have become irreversible facts, which will increase people's sense of panic. At this time, I began to miss the "recovery speed" when I was young. I recovered quickly when I was ill and made mistakes quickly. After all, the most precious thing about youth is the low cost of making mistakes.

3. Sense of social crisis: Are you a little flustered or even unbearable when you see that the recruitment information says that the age is between 25 and 35? I am 45 years old with rich experience and rich social experience. Does society no longer need me? Have I been seriously abandoned by the times? The age stages that the personnel manager sometimes fills in without thinking virtually deprive you of the right to achieve yourself. Do you really feel a little hatred in your panic? Even in those hatred, there is jealousy of youth?

4. Fear of death: This is a human instinct that everyone has, because you may not have answered three questions in the practice of life. "Who am I? Where did it come from? Where to go? "

What we are afraid of is not the increase of numbers, but the regret that the ideal has not been realized, the loss that the opposite sex no longer pursues, the gap of losing being needed, and the hesitation of not knowing what to do next.

How to solve this deep-seated insurmountable problem?

Forget your age, you have to calculate at any time to know how old you are today. Full of curiosity, to explore the unknown around you, new knowledge and skills, and even upgrade several dimensions to see the truth of the world and the future of the universe.

The most important thing is to live in the present and love those who should be loved by you, especially yourself!

I didn't do anything I planned to do. Over time, I became more and more dissatisfied with my behavior and performance, constantly feeling remorse and regret, and I was very scared psychologically!

On the contrary, if you can take everything in life seriously and be yourself, time will only make you gain self-confidence and maturity, and natural age will also make you integrate into the operation law of nature, so that you will be harmonious and healthy!

Some people say: "Our fear of age is not actually the aging brought by the growth of age, but the fear that we will still get nothing with the growth of age." I quite agree with this sentence. No matter how old you are, you should work hard enough to be worthy of yourself. Only when the heart is rich enough will it be truly fearless. At 50, you can learn to drive, at 60, you can learn to illustrate, and at 70, you can travel around the world. Life should be eternal!

Loneliness, with the growth of age, according to their own knowledge and experience, has formed a set of logic and views on the world and things, and will become more and more lonely. This innate loneliness will become stronger and stronger with age. This has little to do with whether your family is happy or not and whether your work is smooth. When you are thinking about your own value and meaning in life, you will feel a deep sense of loneliness, which makes people feel powerless. This loneliness will accompany us to grow up, be young and strong, and grow old.

The older you get, the more afraid you are, because you are afraid of social elimination, that you can't earn money, that no one wants it, that your parents are old, and that you can't take care of your family. In short, the older you get, the less chips you have! It's so realistic! ! ! !

The fear of age is not the aging brought by the growth of age, but the fear that with the growth of age, there is still nothing.

Everyone is different.

I mean the "fear" of losing control of myself caused by physical aging.

We can talk about yours.