When your dream is nothing but contentment, will you still stay in a first-tier city?

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When your dream is nothing but lingering, will you still stay in a first-tier city?

Text/Gu Sui Fengzhi

Once , Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou are places where many young people from other places seek their dreams!

But suddenly one day, you find that this place has changed. The housing prices are high, the population is crowded, and the traffic is congested. There is not much left after paying the rent with your monthly salary; you want to breathe free air, but you find that there is a putrid smell seeping out of the city’s underground sewage pipes everywhere; when you are tired, the big city You can't even find someone to cry to in the dead of night, and your family is far away. The city is bustling and noisy, but inside I feel lonely and confused.

In the past two years, many people I know well have chosen to leave. I suddenly discovered that "escape from Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou" is indeed a real phenomenon and trend. People don’t have to squeeze into first-tier cities to live, second-tier cities also have their own attractions. From another perspective, when first-tier cities such as Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou have reached a certain stage of development, their population has increased dramatically, housing prices have soared, and traffic is congested. Some people choose to vote with their feet, fleeing first-tier cities and returning to second-tier or even third-tier cities to live in another. Although this kind of life is mostly helpless, it is still a wise choice.

Those who stay are each wonderful and helpless; those who return are always similar...

Tingzi

Tingzi 2014 Graduated from a second university in Guangzhou with a major in law. Since I did not graduate from a prestigious school, it is not easy to find a good employer. Take the civil service exam in Guangzhou. The competition is extremely fierce and it is even more difficult.

Finally, after being introduced by relatives, she joined an administrative agency as a staff member on a hiring basis. Here, she did no less work than a regular civil servant, but her salary was a lot less than that of a civil servant. This was not the end of it. The main thing that made her determined to change was something that happened between Tingzi and her boss. Her director often kept Tingzi working overtime on the grounds of work. Once, the director deliberately hinted to Tingzi that If Tingzi obeys her, he will take good care of her. Looking at the leader, who was in his 50s and had no hair left on his head, she felt sick. From that day on, Tingzi was determined to change this situation. Tingzi began to study hard, and one year later she obtained the judicial professional qualification certificate; another year later, with her own efforts, she passed the civil service examination in her hometown city and became an official civil servant. She no longer had to endure that A kind of "unequal pay for equal work?"

Wanzi

Wanzi's initial situation was similar to Tingzi, who was also a graduate of a second-tier college in Guangzhou. After graduation She worked in a private enterprise in Guangzhou, and her husband also worked in Guangzhou. After giving birth to a daughter, when her daughter went to kindergarten, her husband took her back to her hometown in Chaozhou to help run the family business.

Wanzi started out as a businessman. Wanting to settle down in Guangzhou, they have taken out a loan to finance a small house in the suburbs of Guangzhou. Wanzi wants to use various methods to get points to live in the household, so he still stays in Guangzhou to work. After the points are successfully settled, he will return to her husband's hometown to be with them. Reunite and have a second child. In this way, you can retain a residence and your own household registration in Guangzhou, and you or your children will have a way out if you want to move out to a first-tier city in the future. I quit my job in Guangzhou and returned to my husband’s hometown of Chaozhou.

Once, Wanzi came to Guangzhou for business and we had dinner together. He said that life in Chaozhou was very comfortable, work was very relaxing, and although the salary was not high, But the prices there are relatively low, and there is no pressure in life. When she comes home from get off work every day, her hard-working Chaozhou mother-in-law has prepared a delicious meal for her. He smiled and said: "I will try my best to have a second child."

?After she returned home, she gained weight and had less acne on her face. She was nourished by her husband when she returned home; her daughter was happier with her mother by her side; her mother-in-law treated her like her own daughter. "When I returned to Chaozhou, I felt like I was back in heaven?" Wanzi said happily.

Bubu

Bubu graduated from a key university and was hired by a large-scale company in Guangzhou the year he graduated. A state-owned enterprise recruited people to work in the company. Bu Bu's hometown is in Guangxi and he had a childhood sweetheart boyfriend. Despite this, the young Bu Bu decided to move to a big city and work in a large state-owned enterprise in Guangzhou. This was mentioned among relatives and friends. Beer has face, but many parents work hard to support their children in college. Don’t they just hope that their children can find a good job in a big city and honor their ancestors?

Soon after joining the company, Bu Bu always felt that something was wrong. The leader of the unit was a little too concerned about her. Once, the leader invited several colleagues to visit his villa, and Bu Bu was among them. After arriving at his house, the leader's son was also at home. The eldest sister asked Bu Bu what she thought of her boss's son, and Bu Bu realized that she had been on a blind date.

Bu Bu didn't like her boss's son secretly. When people talk about her, they say: Silly, she doesn’t like the leader’s family with such good conditions, and I don’t know what she is thinking! In fact, Bu Bu didn’t think too much, she just doesn’t like that person, she can’t Marry someone you don't like just to live in a villa, not to mention that she still has her childhood sweetheart boyfriend in her hometown.

After this incident, Bu Bu remained indifferent. She worked as a secretary in her workplace for five years. She and her boyfriend had already been in a de facto relationship, but maybe they were separated and never got pregnant. She made an agreement with her boyfriend that as soon as she got pregnant, they would get pregnant. Registered marriage.

After working for seven years, Bu Bu returned to her hometown for the Spring Festival Golden Week holiday. Bu Bu returned to Guangzhou to work as usual. A month later, Bu Bu found out that she was pregnant. She was so happy that she immediately took a baby. She told her boyfriend on the phone, so she went home again and got married?! They finally got married officially because they had a child. Bu Bu, who was overwhelmed by the great joy, didn't think too much about the future. Her philosophy of life was to live life. One day at a time. After the child was born and after a few months of maternity leave, Bu Bu was faced with how to deal with the relationship between raising children and working. Her husband was an only child at home, and his parents were in poor health and needed to be taken care of, so he could not go to Guangzhou to work with him. Bubu didn't want to give up life in a big city. The baby couldn't leave her mother during breastfeeding, and she had to go to work. But Bubu had no choice but to take her daughter and her mother, who was in poor health, and hired a nanny to return home. In Guangzhou, I rented a small single room near the company to live in.

Since her husband is not around, Bu Bu has to deal with work, take care of her daughter after get off work, and deal with the disobedient nanny. She often felt unwell, and when her daughter had a fever or cold, Bubu had to deal with it alone. Living like this for half a year made her feel physically and mentally exhausted.

In the end, she couldn't bear it anymore, in a first-tier city. No matter how bright the aura of a state-owned enterprise is, it can't stop the pain of the husband and wife being separated for a long time. She finally found a state-owned insurance company in her hometown. The income is not bad. The most important thing is that the family can be reunited and they can get help if they have difficulties. Sharing responsibilities.

Guan Guan

After graduation, Guan Guan worked in a state-owned bank in Guangzhou. He felt that the work pressure was too great. Various assessment tasks were directly linked to bonuses. He often failed to complete the tasks because Bonuses deducted. At the same time, she was also hit hard by not being able to find a suitable boyfriend in such a big city. Finally, with the help of her family, she returned to work in a bank in her hometown. She felt very warm being with her parents.

Hu Ke

Hu Ke is a boy. After graduation, he worked in a company in Guangzhou as a salesman. His salary was not high and he had to work overtime all day long. He was often as tired as a dog. The mother at home is in poor health and wants him to come home all day long.

After working for a few years, his mother's health became worse and worse, so he found an opportunity to return to his hometown and county to work as a civil servant, so that he could take care of his mother with filial piety.

I used to think that first-tier cities had dreams, good jobs, and could create a better life. But one day, when you find that your dream is just lingering, and there are relatives caring about you in the distance, you turn around and return to tranquility. Although it may be dull, it does not lose its poetry and warmth.

Finally, I also silently wish those young people who are still struggling and persevering in first-tier cities. No matter what you choose, don't lose hope, because dreams are a bright light in your heart.