What should I do if the woman wants to get married but the man’s parents are not in a hurry?

This is a love tragedy that I have witnessed, let me tell you!

My cousin. He is my cousin's son. He is an employee of a large financial institution in Beijing. The student studying in the United States is good-looking, tall and big, and his wife is also good-looking, small and exquisite. What a beautiful couple...

I still have their wedding photos, and I don’t want to throw them away! But they are divorced!

I can tell you for sure that they fell in love.

The petite Jiangxi girl Qiaoqiao looks like Chibi Maruko-chan! Smooth short hair, white shirt and pleated skirt, bright eyes...

Unlike the careless aunt in the capital, Bai Fumei is aloof. Her shyness is still fresh in my memory...

Love is one thing! Marriage is another thing! (Why?)

This is what my cousin’s mother said.

The little girl is cute, and my sister-in-law also knows it. However, privately she was really unwilling to do so.

"The girl's family is a worker from the countryside, so she won't show up at the table!"

My cousin said: "Our family has been working like you, and there are not many generations. That’s it! ”

We are a big family. Behind closed doors, the things in my head are similar to those in the Qing Dynasty. This is a collective and a unit. Young people are both getting married and recruiting. It seems more like recruitment!

My cousin pointed at his son and said: "He eats my food, lives in my house, and doesn't listen to me when he gets a wife. Are rights and responsibilities clearly defined? Is it reasonable?"

The man's parents The only way to start is to procrastinate! I wanted to delay it until I got old...

But, unexpectedly, my son stole the household registration book! Register your marriage directly!

No way! I can only leave it to the children. The cousin and his wife met the in-laws. The arrogant attitude means that there is no bride price. Organize your own marriage. Prepare the wedding room yourself. We don't offer it!

I still don’t understand why the woman’s parents agreed to this “anti-feudal” marriage? If it were me, I would take my daughter away.

A graduate student from Jiaotong University, a beautiful and lovely girl in her twenties, where can’t she marry? Why are you so "anti-feudal"? Maybe I am still not revolutionary. Still no fighting spirit.

If this marriage had happened when we were children, it might have ended well! But, it’s too difficult nowadays.

How many young people have to bear the burden of marriage on their own?

I didn’t expect my cousin to be so decisive.

First, he took back the keys to his son’s two cars and an apartment of more than 100 square meters. All of my son's property and credit cards were frozen. It's all his.

The son fell back into poverty overnight. Became the "Beijing Drifters"!

Secondly, my cousin quietly hinted to people at his son’s work unit to change his job! A job created by me is gone. Instead, people with no background can usually "run orders"!

Furthermore, my cousin informed all the clan members that they were not allowed to support their own sons. You are not allowed to associate with your daughter-in-law.

My cousin has a hard time squeezing the subway to go to work, and his quality of life is poor when he comes home from get off work. Being ostracized by his brothers. At the same time, my uncles and brothers also really looked down on the "Chibi Maruko-chan" from Jiangxi.

"Let me see how many days you can live!" the feudal master said.

It’s like a domestic pet cat. Not long after it wandered outside, its cousin, who had no food or water, came home and begged for mercy.

A year and a half of marriage. Lao Yan flies away separately, each of them is hurting their nerves!

"You can decide to marry the wife you like. I can also choose the daughter-in-law I like. If there is a conflict, then don't use my resources.

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The young master went home. The master said to his son: "I will pay for her! "

"There are two hundred thousand in this card, give it to her! Divorce yourself! "

At night, the young master cried in the bar, "You know how cute she is! I love her!

Uncle Qi patted him on the shoulder and said, "Lovely women are very expensive." You simply can't afford it now. Work hard for another twenty years..."

Generally speaking, parents do not agree with their sons marrying a daughter-in-law from out of town, because the area is too far away and there are all kinds of inconveniences. After all, the daughter-in-law is If you want to go back to your parents' home, traveling back and forth is time-consuming, labor-intensive, and expensive, and the journey is long, and there may be unsafe factors. Unless the son likes it very much and is really destined to this family, unless the girl is very good, then these things will happen. The problem can be ignored. If you can find a more suitable wife locally, there is no need to look far away. Of course, as a girl, your parents may not want you to marry far away. If you insist on your choice, then you will be your parents for life. Concerned. When one day your parents need you, you are far away.

As for the girl in question, since your boyfriend’s parents are hesitant about your marriage, it is obvious that they care about you. If you are not satisfied, you are far less than their expectations for a future daughter-in-law. Even if your boyfriend likes you, it is difficult to be happy in a marriage that is not favored by your parents, because a marriage with a weak foundation can easily be shaken and destroyed. As you said, your boyfriend's parents are relatively strong, and he who has no independent opinions is probably unreliable. As a foreigner, when you are helpless in your future marriage, you will find out how helpless you are. Passive. A forced marriage will make you cry. If you have children in the future, you will be in a dilemma. It is a very bad start to let others criticize and discount your future life.

Marriage is not only a matter for two people, but also a matter for members of two families. Before marriage, whether it is the parents of the other party or the other party himself, it is necessary to have an all-round weighing of the concerns and choices before marriage. This is done for the sake of each other. You are responsible for your future life. You need to reconsider whether you want to continue this relationship.

If you choose to marry far away for love, your real life may not be touched at all. When you cry one day, you may be unable to help yourself.

Marriage is a woman’s second reincarnation. If it is wrong, it will ruin your entire life and you will be covered with scars throughout your life.

The key depends on the boyfriend's attitude, because marriage is a matter between the two of you, and it is not about spending a lifetime with his parents. It also depends on the age of the woman. If she is young, wait for two years and do nothing. You have to be careful when you are older. If you are physiologically different from men, it is okay for a man to get married at 40, so the woman has to decide whether she can continue based on her own situation.

My nephew got married when he was in college. I had a girlfriend, this girl was from Guizhou, a bit short, and average-looking. At that time, my brother and sister-in-law were firmly opposed to this marriage.

Unexpectedly, after graduation, the girl came to me with my nephew. I came to my hometown and found a job here. When my family saw that this girl was so infatuated, why were we hesitating? We must not treat her badly.

So, my brother and sister-in-law immediately took 200,000 yuan as a gift. I went to the girl's home to propose marriage and reassured the girl's parents that they would treat the child well.

After returning, my brother and sister-in-law bought a wedding house for them, added the girl’s name to the property certificate, and held their wedding a few months later.

My old father said that for the sake of my grandson, other girls traveled thousands of miles and abandoned their homes and careers to come to our side. They have no relatives or friends. If we treat them badly, that would be really bad. Got a conscience.

The young couple has been married for three years now. They have a good relationship and have a lovely son. When the young couple quarreled, our family also protected our daughter-in-law.

There is a saying in China, "It's not a matter of business." When many girls are in love with their boyfriends, in order to capture their boyfriend's heart, they will use their chastity as a guarantee and easily dedicate their first time to their boyfriend. However, There are many boys who will show their true colors after they get you, and will not take you seriously. Some even have children, but he will let them go. There are many men like this who are irresponsible and have no sense of responsibility. .

Your boyfriend is very good and you love him very much. His parents think that their son is very good and great. Under such circumstances, if you urge you to get married as soon as possible, their whole family will look down upon you after the marriage. You, think you are cheap. Your job is very good, and you are bound to make mistakes. Remember that "chasing is not a deal." Stay calm, try to distance yourself from him, take a closer look at your boyfriend's activities, and then make a decision on where to go.

A woman’s life-long event is not a trivial matter. She must gain the respect and attention of her husband and marry her off in style!

Whether the man’s family tradition is good, whether the man really loves you, it is important to recognize people with a discerning eye. A woman must respect herself, otherwise her sincerity will be fed to the dog. Just don’t end it! The reason for the attitude of the man's parents is: 1. Your own reasons

Not keeping a distance from your boyfriend before marriage is a common mistake many girls make. If we can maintain a distance that is "out of reach" and have a sense of mystery and freshness to each other, we will not get tired of each other.

If a girl focuses on her boyfriend, neglects herself, and regards herself as too small, she will eventually be hurt by others! 2. The man’s parents have petty calculations

Thinking that “a cooked duck cannot fly”, they can unscrupulously despise and ignore the woman’s feelings for a girl who loves her son wholeheartedly, without even thinking about it. Divide the money and pick up a daughter-in-law for nothing.

When I work close to my boyfriend’s house, I hope that the boyfriend’s family can take care of me. As a result, I don’t even want to provide basic etiquette to the woman, and I want to take advantage of her. In fact, people who are greedy for small profits will not get the benefits in the end!

The man’s family all have character problems. I never put myself in someone else's shoes. Can the woman's daughter be raised with "wind"? Your husband's son was born to his parents, but isn't it true that girls are loved by their parents? You don't know how to respect people at all, and you don't want to be associated with such people! Why do you want to get married? 3. Your boyfriend at least doesn’t love you as much as you love him.

If your boyfriend loves you very much, he won’t let you be wronged. Nowadays, most of them are only children. Can parents not take their son’s request to heart?

Wake up, if you don’t value yourself, others won’t value you!

It’s okay not to marry into such a family! Why let others get an advantage without even showing off? With such a huge disparity between men and women, is there any reason why you can't get married if you want to?

Even if the woman is older and finds a good man for a second marriage, she will not be affected by this cowardice! Who is afraid of whom? Let this kind of people "fetch water from a bamboo basket and get nothing"!

In fact, I think the reason why the man’s parents are not anxious is because you are a foreigner and feel that you have no support, so they can take the opportunity to make a show of force. The second is to treat you as a spare tire. If you can find someone better than you, you will be treated as an abandoned child. If you can't be found, you can be picked up again. I even feel that your boyfriend has the same attitude, otherwise he would not still listen to your parents' opinions when you are anxious to get married.

So, I think your attitude should be toughened. You want your boyfriend to give you a clear answer. If your boyfriend is unclear, grumbling, and making judgments about you, then it is very likely that he is also waiting and watching with an attitude of riding a donkey and looking for a horse. If this is the case, you'd better break up immediately. Because based on your boyfriend's behavior, the ending between you and your boyfriend is very likely to be: your boyfriend finally compromises with his parents, reluctantly breaks up with you, and then obeys his parents' arrangements and finds another beautiful woman. It is better to break up early than to break up late.

What's more, you have a job and can support yourself. There is no grass anywhere in the world, so why should you fall in love with a flower unrequitedly? There is no need to hang yourself on a tree belonging to your boyfriend. Moreover, your boyfriend's parents still don't approve of you. Even if you get married in the future, your boyfriend will not protect you.

Of course, if your boyfriend is more determined, you can get a marriage certificate first and hold a simple wedding ceremony. As for whether the man's parents will be able to accept it in the future, that's not a problem at all. Because all parents will ultimately pay for their children's deeds.

Life is not only about love and marriage, but also poetry and distance!

If the man’s parents are not in a hurry, they may reveal a message that they do not particularly care about the prospective daughter-in-law. Then the woman might as well be a little more reserved! Why rush to get married? After getting married, the woman loses her freedom, right? Housework and children constrain not only your own hands and feet, but also your thinking and social activities. Firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea VS flowers, beautiful scenery, shopping and drinking coffee, think about it and decide which one to choose! Enjoy your days of freedom and youth! It’s not too late to wait until the man’s parents take the initiative to consider getting married!

Don’t wait! Time is wasted with little hope.