How do stay-at-home mothers return to the workplace when their children grow up?

Stay-at-home mom, this special "career" contains too many things. Whether you return to your family because you don't want to miss the growth of your children, or you quit your job to take care of your children at home under the pressure of family and society, your life trajectory will turn to another special path from the moment you quit the workplace.

I have always believed that women who can be full-time mothers are very admirable. Do you think it's "what's the big deal with taking care of the baby at home?" Why don't you try?

Looking up for the first time, sitting alone for the first time, eating complementary food for the first time, learning to crawl for the first time, walking for the first time, etc., these important milestones have given you irreplaceable happiness and motivation.

Stay-at-home mom, but we are a short-term choice on the long road of life. Life is long and there may be obstacles. No one can be a full-time mother forever.

What should we do next when the children grow up? What happened to those great stay-at-home moms?

In the process of children drifting away from their parents, TAs have grown up independently and no longer need our personal care. Are you okay, great housewife?

When you meet a few friends, do you find that there are fewer topics to talk about? It seems difficult to find other topics besides talking about children eating and drinking or school. Is the online celebrity or online event that friends are discussing enthusiastically a blank face? Who changed jobs, got promoted or went abroad to study, and so on. Too far away from you.

Many people say that children grow up only once, and childhood, especially before the age of 3, is an important stage in the initial formation of children's personality. Children need special care and training from their parents, but when parents choose to let go of their nervous hands is a question with no clear answer.

I have always believed that raising children requires growing up together.

As a mother, you have grown up. However, as a professional and an independent person, you left a big black hole and a blank on your resume. How can you fill this hole? Your career growth is zero. As a mother, your skills of taking care of your family and doing housework have been strengthened, but have your professional skills been abandoned for a while and become extremely unfamiliar?

We agreed to grow up together? The child became an independent individual and went to the society, but the mother didn't become the woman she imagined, and she didn't like her life and work.

You sacrificed your career to take good care of your young children. They are confident, polite, educated and have good comprehensive quality.

I also came into contact with an elder friend's family, which can be said to be my ideal family-my mother did not leave the workplace, but she was as powerful and capable as her father. It is really difficult for women in the workplace to balance family and work. They went to work a week after giving birth. Although there is no personal care, the child is as good and educated as ever. The Excellence of children does not stop at reciting Tang poems and counting when they were young, but they all entered the world famous schools with their strength and are independent and confident. Ta people change their country of residence with the needs of their mothers or fathers. But because parents are excellent enough, children can always get high-quality education and growth resources, and parents can also give high-quality and appropriate guidance at different stages of their children's growth. Needless to say here, they have long been rich and free.

If parents don't work hard to make themselves excellent and powerful, how can they provide their children with broader growth space and resources that change with time?

Recently, a friend is going back to work in China. The company gave her a place in a private kindergarten. The company has a cooperation agreement with the kindergarten. Although it is private, the tuition fee is cabbage price for her, not to mention how high the salary is. If she is not good enough, how can these resources be easily obtained?

Parents have the ability to buy a school district, and children travel abroad with their parents every year. Studying abroad can easily afford tuition and living expenses. Parents can also discuss international current affairs, politics, humanities and cultural issues with their children instead of frequently forwarding popular articles in the circle of friends. These are irreplaceable, so please don't hide your "self-abandonment" under the beautiful excuse of "happiness is good"

The growing demand of children is a dynamic process. If you are willing to step back from the background now, pass on your hopes to your children and put this arduous task on your father, then you are in an extremely dangerous state. Not only can't keep up with the growth pace of teammates, but also can't appreciate the wonderful children. There is no spiritual spark between you and the teaching assistants. In the end, there are only nagging, three meals a day, and endless expectations.

You used to be the child whose parents were full of expectations for you, and now you have just stepped into the peak of your life. Are you willing to step back from the background? The efforts and challenges you have accepted since childhood are not only to cultivate you as a mother, but to make you an independent and accomplished woman. If you don't agree, how can we have the confidence to train our daughter? In the end, their talents can only be displayed on the warm little stage of the family.

The unfair treatment and view of women in society actually stems from the seemingly moral choice that mother gave up her independent identity early. If she is willing to play a supporting role, she can't blame others for not paying attention to you and not giving you a chance.

"Whether it is worthwhile for highly educated women to become full-time mothers" has been hotly debated in Zipper's theory. Supporters are all kinds of tender chicken soup. Every woman has the right to choose her ideal life. My own choice is the identity of a working mother. However, only recently did I understand the reasons behind my choice.

In order to provide the most suitable growth resources for children and themselves, mothers work hard and keep growing up.

The network you build is not only your own network, but also the spiritual wealth you can pass on to your children. The tests you have experienced, the challenges you have accepted and the world you have seen not only make you excellent, but also are the spiritual wealth you have passed on to your children. Only when you are full and rich can you provide the most fertile soil for children's growth.

So I selfishly think that every mother should keep growing and strive for better opportunities and resources in any way. No matter whether you stick to the workplace, return to the workplace or continue to study by yourself, keep reading habits or try a new job, as long as you are doing something to improve your value and your ability as an independent woman, I think it is excellent.

This is not to convey a prejudice against stay-at-home mothers. It is precisely because mothers are so important in the family that it is very important to make mothers stronger and stronger.

Every family has its own choices, so for those stay-at-home mothers who want to return to the workplace or change jobs, I hope you can see the following.

You think those stay-at-home moms are all parallel imports,

Can't even go back to work?

VOGUE magazine reported last year that Judy Galvin Casey officially became the vice president of Morgan Stanley's asset management department in 20 15. Judy is a mother of three. In order to take care of the children, she quit her job and stayed at home as a full-time mother 1 1 year. When my daughter was 9 years old, she found that her desire to return to the workplace was getting stronger and stronger, and volunteering in the community could no longer meet her needs to meet her self-worth. When she first returned to the workplace, she encountered many difficulties. I didn't expect that she would one day become an unattractive job seeker in a big company, which was unimaginable in her previous career. Fortunately, she participated in the internship of 12 weeks through the return to work plan set up by a large company, and finally passed the examination, became a regular employee and officially returned to the workplace.

"It is a modern myth that professional women either' step forward' or' opt out' after having children, but in fact, many women do both."

After having children, professional women either continue to gallop in the workplace or quit the workplace. In fact, many women have tried these two options.

Do you think those stay-at-home mothers are all parallel imports and can't return to the workplace? Ha ha.

More and more people think that retired mothers are neglected valuable resources in the social labor force, and some big international companies are paying more and more attention to this aspect. I believe that the traditional family model of "the woman is the master outside and the man is the master inside" is no longer applicable in our generation and beyond.

Perhaps this plan to return to the workplace is a good way for more women to balance family and career in a more flexible way.

You will also say that this is an excellent example, out of reach. The point is, before quitting the workplace, my mother must be good enough to back in the game! That's easy to say.

That's right, so get ready from now on and start to be good.

Take your time and start preparing now.

If you are a stay-at-home mother (also applicable to working mothers) and want to return to the workplace, the following suggestions may inspire you.

1. Think clearly, why go back?

Do you go back to the workplace for money and independent financial ability? What do you want to do besides taking care of the children? Or did you always love your job before you quit?

Your idea of returning to work this time is probably different from that before you left. You may want to find some spare time with less work intensity to spend with your family. Before you go back, you'd better think clearly about the purpose of your return to the workplace.

Being a full-time mother may be the best time for you to explore.

Stay-at-home mom, after taking care of the children, you will have more time when the children go to kindergarten or primary school. This is the best time for you to explore. You can consider some jobs that you are interested in but haven't done. Starting with part-time temporary workers, you can try it. There is no harm.

Before you decide to return to the workplace, it is also a good choice to talk with friends in your fields of interest and have more exchanges and contacts. You can get some concrete and more real information.

3. Maintain your social circle

Whether you return to your original workplace or change careers, it is difficult to avoid using your personal resources when you return. When you leave the workplace, whether you want to come back actively or passively (as will be mentioned below), these relationships may play a role at critical moments.

Don't think that entering the workplace by relationship is a domestic specialty, and it is the same all over the world. Relationships need to be maintained, and sincere efforts should be made at ordinary times. In addition, maintaining social circle is not what full-time mothers should do, and everyone who doesn't want to be out of touch with society needs to do it.

I heard that some stay-at-home mothers have completely divorced from their original lives because they quit the workplace. They don't have their own social circle. I hope you're not like this.

4. Improve your skills

As mentioned above, it is a good exploration period to take care of your baby at home. You can start self-study, read books or take some licenses for the industries you are interested in, and slowly start preparing.

You can start with a part-time job.

If returning to the workplace at once makes you uncomfortable, you can start from a part-time job. General companies have low requirements for part-time jobs. Of course, the initial focus of returning to the workplace is to regain feelings or accumulate basic skills (if you change careers). Don't care too much about your income at this time.

Find a new balance

After returning to the workplace, it is important to find the most suitable balance point.

How do those mothers feel when they go back?

The following are the feelings of some foreign mothers returning to the workplace. Although it may not represent the domestic situation, it is believed to have certain reference value. Here, I want to explain to you that the quality resources I can find abroad are far more than those found on domestic websites, so this is also the reason why I frequently consult foreign resources and information and sincerely share all kinds of good information with you.

1. I earn more than my husband now-anonymous.

"I fell into an economic crisis two years ago and had to return to the workplace after being a full-time mother for 10 years. The women I interviewed have no prejudice against me. On the contrary, they understand me very well. I worked in that company for eight months, and then I went to another subsidiary under the same group. This subsidiary was upgraded and transformed in an all-round way seven months ago, and now it's my husband's turn to be depressed because I earn more than him. Therefore, the outside world is full of hope! "

2. It's like taking a bite of a sandwich, only to find that I haven't eaten it for years-Jennifer

"It is not difficult to find another employer. As a full-time mother, it seems that it is not so difficult for me to find a job again. I see that many mothers can find the same salary through hard work. After I returned to the workplace, I couldn't remember the names of my children's classmates, and I couldn't volunteer at school, but I didn't want my children to know that I was a mother who was extremely anxious at home waiting for change. For me, going back to work is like taking a bite of a sandwich and finding that I haven't eaten it for years. "

I have been taking care of others and now I want to take care of myself-Cheryl.

"I have been taking care of others, and now I want to take care of myself. I submitted a lot of resumes, and it felt like a black hole. I met a recruiter and her reply was not so friendly. She said that many people who have just graduated from law school and have excellent reputation can't find jobs. Maybe you can try another career. I worked in a bank for 1 1 week. Everything seems to be going well, but beyond that, I have no expectations. Then internship in a technology company, there is still nothing to look forward to. In September this year, I chatted with a friend who worked in a bank and they gave me my current job. "

4. It's really hard to get back to work-Kathy

"Since my son was born, I have been a full-time wife at home until my daughter went to kindergarten to return to the workplace. I've been a stay-at-home mom for almost 10 years. It's really hard to get back to work. My self-confidence was low, but when I saw that I could handle everything, my self-confidence came back. My job allows me to go home early, and I can accompany my children when they come home, which makes me feel less guilty about not being able to accompany them as before. "