Yu Dan’s thoughts on the Analects of Filial Piety

Lecture "The Agitation and Enlightenment of Yu Dan's "Analects of Confucius"" A Wise Man Does Not Confuse"

A wise man knows others and himself

However, in fact, such an improvement, It still needs to assist other elements. Why did Confucius say you still need to understand others? It’s because “a wise man is not confused”. Real great wisdom should be a way to reduce our confusion.

What is a wise man? A wise man only knows others, which is nothing more than truly understanding others. Is it actually easy to understand others? I haven’t told you yet, but think about it, do you know your neighbors? Do you know your team? Do you know your students?

I think it goes too far. I only ask you one question: Do you understand yourself? Second question: Do you know the relatives around you? If you answer both questions: I understand! Then you are a great wise man, it is not easy. Because our evaluation of ourselves is an eternal Sphinx mystery. The most difficult thing for people to evaluate is themselves.

Determining the difference between internal and external, and arguing about the realm of honor and disgrace

The so-called "not surprised by honor and disgrace", when people really face great honor and disgrace, do they still have inner judgments about themselves? ? For example, some humiliation comes to the world without reason. When Han Xin's crotch was humiliated, of course he could draw his sword for a moment of dignity, and his life might be at stake there. In the future, he will not become the Marquis of Huaiyin and fight thousands of miles away for Liu Bang, the great ancestor of the Han Dynasty. So he thought about it at that time. People can sometimes endure the present for the sake of the future, and he can accept it calmly. In fact, what is rare is that the Huaiyin 钫嬲?蠖ㄌ禜笲?螞?Huaorangbisu庑┤play?Cook?笱竫鹹 stop?Yan 庑┤feed the 牖乩本R book and take off the lever?芑崋粤硗娖 restored site Jianjian? Meng? Nao Parthen?/p>

When a person is glorious, when the world's halo, flowers and applause surround him, will he still evaluate himself? This time is also very difficult. The reason why many successful people in the world inflate themselves is because they regard too many accidental factors as inevitable in life. There is a lack of awe in the heart, a cautious mood like walking on thin ice or walking in an abyss.

Among the three Bian Que brothers, who has the best medical skills?

Everyone knows the name Bian Que. The real miracle of this world-famous doctor who is as famous as Hua Tuo lies not only in his miraculous medical skills, but also in his always sober evaluation of himself.

One time King Wen of Wei summoned him and asked him: I heard that the three brothers in your family all studied medicine. So who has the best medical skills? Bian Que blurted out: My eldest brother has the best medical skills, my second brother is second, and I am the worst. King Wei Wen was very surprised and asked: "Then why are you famous all over the world? The two of them are not famous at all?" Bian Que said: My eldest brother's medical skills are so good that he can take precautions in the bud alone. When this person is not sick, he can tell by looking at his complexion, and then cures you with medicine, so everyone in the world thinks that he can't cure diseases, and he has no reputation at all (the crowd laughs). This is what we call health care today.

My second brother’s ability is to treat the disease at the beginning. In the future, a person will become seriously ill. When he coughs or catches a cold, he uses medicine to cure him. Therefore, my second brother's reputation is limited to the countryside, where he is considered a doctor who treats minor illnesses. What about me? Just because the medical skills are the worst, we must wait until the person is seriously ill and dying, and then give him the medicine of a tiger or a wolf to bring him back to life. Well, the whole world thinks I am a miracle doctor.

Think about it, if my eldest brother treats a disease like this, a person’s vitality will not be damaged at all; if my second brother treats a disease, the person’s vitality will be slightly damaged, but it will be repaired immediately; if I treat a disease like this, the person’s life will not be damaged at all. If you get it back, your vitality will be severely damaged. Who do you think has the best medical skills among the three of us?

Distinguish between the inner and outer, distinguish between honor and disgrace

In fact, I think every successful person should keep this story in mind. There are too many successes and accidents in this world, and you don’t have to be confused by everything in the outside world, sometimes happy and sometimes depressed.

There is a sentence in "Zhuangzi", which I think is also a realm of life: "Be praised by the whole world without any persuasion." When the whole world praises you, you don't use any persuasion. , don’t take one more step forward; “Watch the whole world and don’t be discouraged.” When the whole world is criticizing, blaming, and saying that you are wrong, you are not depressed at all.

“It’s enough to determine the difference between inside and outside, and to distinguish between honor and disgrace.” A person must be able to determine the difference between his inner and outer world, and he must be able to clearly distinguish between honor and disgrace. To do so, That's it. In other words, even if there are ten thousand voices outside, even if there is only one voice inside, it is still the inner judgment. What kind of person has such firm judgment? Wise people have it, and this is why only wise people are not confused.

Confusion: The battle between the outside and the heart

Looking at the confusing Chinese character "confusion", the top is or or or, and the bottom is a heart. What is or? There is probability in mathematics. It means it can be this way, it can be that way, it can be regarded as or. In fact, this may be a rich external choice. In today’s world, you can choose anything, but can you choose well? Depends on how big or small your heart is. Let’s think about it. There is a constant struggle between the external one and the internal mind. If you are big on the outside and small on the inside, and are overwhelmed, you will fall into confusion. If the outside remains unchanged but the inside is big and delayed, it is regarded as no confusion.

So being confused or not being confused is a battle between the external world and the inner determination. This is a lifelong battle. It does not necessarily mean that people will be free from confusion when they reach forty. People's confusion will accompany them throughout their lives. There is no magical calendar page that you can tear off and suddenly become a wise man. The sentiments of the human heart last a lifetime. The so-called wise man avoids confusion, which actually takes into account too many judgments in our hearts.

A true wise man can see clearly at any time what opportunities there are and what kind of myths are full of every point in life.

A wise man can clearly see opportunities

Our world has professional rules, but simply complying with the rules is not a wise man. A wise man can always hear the voices from every corner of the world. I once saw a very interesting story about the recruitment done by a large telecommunications company. A large company recruits a simple blue-collar worker who can speak Morse Code.

Many people apply for jobs, but when they get there they find that the recruitment environment is very noisy. It is in a very large flat surface, with people coming and going in the office system, and the air is very noisy. The men were seated on two rows of benches and walked inside for the interview. These people are just sitting here waiting.

One hour passed and no one called; two hours passed and no one called. At this time, a late young man came, and when he arrived, there were no seats on the stools. He stood aside for a moment and suddenly went straight to the small door. Ten minutes later, the human resources manager brought the young man out, apologized to everyone, and said, "I'm sorry, you can go back. This position is already his."

The applicant was very unconvinced and asked why it was given to him as soon as he walked in when no one called us after waiting for two hours. Not willing to give in! The manager revealed a secret: "Actually, from the moment you all sit here, there has been a kind of Morse code transmitting in such a noisy air, and it has been saying: Who can understand this kind of Morse code?" Password, please go straight into the small door. But you didn't listen, and you just walked there waiting for someone to call you. But as soon as you entered, the young man said: "In fact, I believe that every one of you understands the Morse code." , but what we want is not a simple messenger, but someone who can quickly capture information in the world with his ears. ”

What is a wise man? Not necessarily someone who follows the old-fashioned rules and regulations. A true wise man breaks the rules and treats you as a gentleman, that is, he seizes your opportunities everywhere.

Korean people have a good metaphor: there is a monster in the world whose front face is covered with hair, so when he comes towards you, his face is always unclear. But as he walks past you, you suddenly know who he is and reach out to grab him... I'm sorry, it has a bald spot on the back of its head, so you can't grab anything and watch him walk away. The name of this thing is opportunity.

So when it comes to opportunities, you can always catch them when they are unclear and coming towards you; but once they are around you and you see them clearly, you will always miss them.

So in fact, how people see opportunities clearly is the mind of a wise man. Therefore, a true wise man is one who can discern in our lives and identify many inner desires in the world.

Wise men make friends - three friends that will cause harm and three friends that will benefit them.

We say: Can a wise man practice it? Confucius also taught people a lot of wisdom. He tells you that you have to make many friends in your life. Those who suffer losses have three friends, and those who benefit have three friends. Three kinds of good friends: quality, quantity and knowledge. Make upright friends, tolerant friends, and knowledgeable friends, and you will grow. There are also three friends who are harmed: some are remote, some are good at meat, and some are peaceful. Those who are eloquent, cunning, thoughtful, or have a bad temper are not good friends.

People should use wisdom to open windows to the world when making friends, so that their lives can be better.

Isn't this great wisdom?