The 64-year-old grandfather went on blind dates three times and failed every time: Why not hire a nanny to find a wife?

The older people are, the more afraid they are of loneliness, and the more inevitable they are. Therefore, remarriage in old age has become the choice of many elderly people and is increasingly accepted by their children.

However, it is not easy to remarry when you are old. You and your children only need to support you. The most important thing is whether you can relieve loneliness and improve your partner's quality of life after remarriage.

Therefore, compared with the young people's passion, dedication, efforts and ideas of changing for each other, the elderly have more selfish ideas of remarriage, that is, they hope that the other party will bring them as many benefits as possible.

Uncle Li is 64 years old, widowed two years ago, retired as a civil servant, with a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan and holiday benefits. He is the so-called "old bachelor" in the local area.

After his wife died, he lived in the children's house for a year. He saw the busyness of children, deeply felt the lack of common language, and found it difficult to integrate into children's lives. So he returned to his hometown, and with the persuasion and support of his children, he began to find his wife to spend his old age together.

0 1, I want to marry you in order to avoid the overbearing daughter-in-law.

Uncle Li's first blind date was with Aunt Cui, 57 years old and widowed 1 1 year.

When asked why she chose to remarry, Aunt Cui lowered her head and whispered with tears: "My daughter-in-law can't tolerate me. I help others raise their children and send them to school for accommodation. I became a useless person. I am a thorn in my daughter-in-law's side. My son is honest and always embarrassed in the middle. I am old, no matter what, don't let my children and grandchildren be unhappy because of me. " Then he sobbed.

Uncle Li realized that Aunt Cui had such a son and daughter-in-law, and he was unhappy and afraid of trouble in the future, so he chose silence.

Seeing that Uncle Li didn't talk, Aunt Cui began to fight for opportunities.

Aunt Cui claims that she has no other ideas, so she wants to find someone who knows the cold and the hot. She said that she was born in the countryside, talked little and did much, and worked hard. She washed and washed three meals a day, and she was in good health, without three highs and chronic diseases.

Aunt Cui's words obviously touched Uncle Li, and made Uncle Li have the impulse idea of "I am marrying her, not her son's daughter-in-law".

After that, Uncle Li invited Aunt Cui to have dinner at home, and Aunt Cui immediately cleaned up the room for Uncle Li.

At noon, Uncle Li suggested that they go to a restaurant for dinner, but Aunt Cui said that the work was not finished and they could not eat. The two of them just cooked some noodles and cooked a meal.

At three or four o'clock in the afternoon, Uncle Li's house is different and refreshing.

Then Uncle Li and Aunt Cui go to the supermarket to buy food. Knowing that Uncle Li has high blood pressure and bad heart, Aunt Cui pays great attention to the choice of vegetables. They talked and laughed, and business was good. They cooked a balanced dinner with vegetarian dishes, which really touched and satisfied Uncle Li.

"To tell you the truth, my dead wife is stronger. There are not many couples with the same language, but with her (Aunt Cui), I feel taken care of and distressed. I think she is the best person for me to remarry. What do I want when I am old? That's enough. " Uncle Li said.

But trouble will come soon.

When we met for the third time, Aunt Cui said that her son and daughter-in-law wanted to meet Uncle Li.

This meeting was not pleasant.

Aunt Cui's son and daughter-in-law suggested that after Uncle Li and Aunt Cui remarried, all the expenses of Aunt Cui would be borne by Uncle Li. After marriage, they are husband and wife. Uncle Li's salary and benefits are all * * *, and Aunt Cui also has the right to control; After marriage, Aunt Cui's illness, nursing expenses and expenses are all from Uncle Li; If Aunt Cui and Uncle Li have been together for more than 10 years, Uncle Li's housing should be half that of Aunt Cui; If Aunt Cui goes first, Uncle Li will be responsible for the funeral expenses.

"I'll tell you the truth first, so as not to get into trouble later." Aunt Cui's son and daughter-in-law said.

Obviously, such conditions frightened Uncle Li, and this blind date went away.

I want to marry you for my son's college education.

Uncle Li's second blind date was 44-year-old Sister Xu, who divorced her husband for one year.

Asked about the reasons for the divorce, Sister Xu's eyes turned red in an instant.

Sister Xu said that her ex-husband had a bad habit of domestic violence and often punched and kicked her. Because she was a housewife and had no income, she always put up with it.

But in recent years, in addition to domestic violence, her husband has also added the bad habit of cheating, so that her husband broke her living expenses.

She found a place rented by her husband and a woman outside, and her husband beat her.

The reason why she made up her mind to divorce was because the child also knew her father's mistake, stood on her mother's side and was beaten by her husband.

Because her life with her ex-husband was not rich, Sister Xu almost left home clean when she divorced.

After the divorce, the children live on campus, she rents a house outside, and works as an hourly worker or nanny for others all the year round to earn money to maintain the children's expenses.

Hearing the complicated situation of Sister Xu, Uncle Li backed out again.

Sister Xu said that she likes Uncle Li very much. At first glance, she is a gentle and cultured person.

She claims that it's not that she doesn't like Uncle Li's age, but she just wants someone to lean on.

After what Sister Xu said, look at Sister Xu, with heavy eyebrows and a tall figure. Although she is dressed simply, it is hard to hide her exquisiteness.

Moreover, being young is an advantage after all, which means that you don't have to worry about washing and eating at home, and you will always take care of the elderly in the future.

With such a thought, Uncle Li thinks that his sister is also under consideration.

In the next two contacts, Uncle Li really felt the benefits of having a young wife.

The two went shopping together, and all the things they bought were carried by Sister Xu. They crowded into the car, and Sister Xu pushed the crowd away to let Uncle Li go first, and then found a seat for Uncle Li to sit down and stand by.

The first time I went to Uncle Li's house, Sister Xu also helped Uncle Li clean the glass inside and out. Uncle Li feels that the house has never been so bright.

But the actual problem is still a difficult problem.

Sister Xu said that after she married Uncle Li, she promised to take good care of Uncle Li.

However, her son is a senior three this year, and his grades are good. She hoped that Uncle Li Can would treat his children like his own, so that he could go to college or even graduate school, and then get married and help. More importantly, if one day Uncle Li is gone, she hopes that she and her son are also the legal heirs of Uncle Li's family.

After consulting with his children, Uncle Li, who couldn't make up his mind, agreed that there was a big age gap between them and the woman's burden was too heavy to go away.

I want to marry you so that someone can talk to me.

Uncle Li's third blind date was Aunt Guo, a 60-year-old retired teacher. Her husband died two years ago, with a monthly pension of 4000 yuan.

It can be said that Aunt Guo's condition is comparable to that of Uncle Li, and compared with the first two blind date objects, Aunt Guo has no complicated family relationship and heavy family burden, has her own income, medical insurance and few future troubles, which makes Uncle Li very satisfied.

Aunt Guo also said that the purpose of her marriage to Uncle Li is also very simple, that is, she wants to find someone to chat and talk with, so that she will not be so lonely, because there is really nothing to say when living with her children, and the children are not at ease if they live by themselves.

For remarriage, Aunt Guo's children are also very supportive.

What is even more rare is that Uncle Li and Aunt Guo have a lot in common, such as how to maintain health, how to run a family, how to educate children, and how to be a person.

However, Uncle Li soon discovered that it was not feasible, and Aunt Guo's physical condition was worrying.

Aunt Guo has severe diabetes and dietary taboos. And there is hypertension and heart disease, and the work and rest are particularly strict; In addition, Aunt Guo has varicose veins and can't walk long distances, stand for a long time, climb stairs or lift heavy objects. Moreover, Aunt Guo has rheumatism in her hands, so she can't touch cold water or catch cold. ...

"I feel that she is looking for me, not just to find a talking person, but to find a free, even upside down male nanny. After marriage, the house will definitely live with me, and the daily expenses will definitely come from me. I want to take care of her in all aspects, but I want my wife to take care of me, at least to take care of each other. I am a big man, no matter when I am with my wife and children, I am a taken care of role. I don't think I can take care of her. " Uncle Li's consideration is selfish, but it is also realistic.

04, looking for a wife, it is better to hire a nanny.

After three blind dates, Uncle Li was disappointed.

After much discussion with his children, he decided to hire a nanny to support the elderly, which is also a good choice.

First of all, nannies are often healthier, younger, more professional and more capable.

Secondly, the nanny is a paid service, only needs to pay the salary, and does not have to bear its family responsibilities.

Thirdly, the nanny's job can be terminated at any time, and it is not suitable to change until she is satisfied. If you don't want to get married, it's easier to get married than to leave.

The above three points are the advantages of hiring a nanny over finding a wife. Of course, the labor service provided by the nanny to the employer is different from the emotional support provided by the wife to the partner.

Therefore, for the elderly, whether to hire a nanny or find a wife is probably a matter of different opinions.